Am going to make details as vague as I can to avoid outing myself or family. Close family relative's spouse died couple of years ago. House was pretty filthy, and two other close relatives cleared, emptied and cleaned it (although couldn't do anything about threadbare carpets etc), and made it liveable. I live overseas with no option of returning due to finances, logistics etc. although am regularly in contact via social networking, phone, text etc with widowed relative. Would seem that other than slightly stagnant job hunt, no other major obvious issues.
Found out from same relative who cleaned house that it has gone back to the way it was before, only 1000X worse. Think 'how clean is your house?' plus 'hoarders'! It is disgusting. Family member sent photos and they made me cry. There are animals in the property too and apparently the smell is overwhelming (not sure if it can be smelt outside house) .
What the hell can I do??? Relatives who helped first time are unwilling to help, saying that the person is just lazy. Won't listen to me when I suggested possible depression/grief being the reason. This is breaking my heart. I want to get on a plane and go fix it but I absolutely can't. Please don't call me selfish, it would cost me the equivalent of £6k which I don't have to get me and my children there, would have nowhere to stay etc. If I could, I would.
It is a LA house. Would env health or the LA do anything? SS? I'm at my wits end. In my professional life I've seen some disgusting houses, but this stretches the limits.
Any advice much appreciated.
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TerribleMother · 19/02/2014 21:06
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