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AIBU to think bouns presents are .....

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trampstamp Wed 19-Feb-14 17:17:10

Indulgent to say the least I was watching this moring and they were talking about the rise in bouns presants were parents buy siblings a gift on the other child's birthday so they don't feel left out confused

They survey they came up with said 40% of parents now do this

Who are these people and should they be slapped with a wet haddock and brought back to reality

kazkiss Wed 19-Feb-14 17:18:56

My two always get gifts on each other's birthday. They are allowed to though because they are twins smile

biscuit

My MIL thinks I do this. I don't. But every birthday I have to have a bloody long conversation with her about how I don't buy a present for siblings because it is not their birthday. Why doesn't she listen? And why does she say that she doesn't agree with it either and then try and buy extra presents for siblings to make it fair.

Sorry for derailing your thread.

Well slap away if you like I don't really give a shit what you think hmm

We do this. Only small things but I really don't see why is anyone else's business, or indeed of any interest to anyone else. Our sons are kind and considerate and happy to see other people being happy and getting presents. So they certainly haven't been negatively affected or turned into entitled brats by this. It makes them both happy, including the birthday boy who helps to choose for his brother.

clairemum22 Wed 19-Feb-14 17:21:16

I buy one present for the non birthday child and see no harm in it. Am sure you're a much better parent than me though.

squoosh Wed 19-Feb-14 17:21:37

My parents did this back in the early 70's when they just had two sweet children. They were less sentimental about hurt feelings when they got to five kids!

trampstamp Wed 19-Feb-14 17:21:47

What why are people,buying birthday gifts gor children when it's not there birthday.

What ever happend to saying your not the center of attention today when it's your birthday you will have your turn now suck it up sing happy birthday to your sister and have some cake

EmmelineGoulden Wed 19-Feb-14 17:21:55

Would that be a survey paid for by Toys-R-Us or similar?

gamerchick Wed 19-Feb-14 17:23:12

I don't. I see it the same as everybody winning in sports day.

Birthdays are the one day of the year when it's about you. I wouldn't make my kids not have that.. no way.

People can do what they want though.. I don't care.

The birthday child is still the centre of attention. Why does this bother you or make any difference to your life? Why? Just because someone does something different to you?

squoosh Wed 19-Feb-14 17:23:52

Each to their own etc. but personally it's not something I'd do. Surely the whole point of a birthday is that it's the birthday child's special day. Part of feeling special is knowing your siblings are looking at your presents slack jawed with envy! grin

EatShitDerek Wed 19-Feb-14 17:24:08

My siblings are 4 and 3. My son is 3. Mum.bought sister a scooter last year but bought the boys them too so there was no fighting. She also lets them all have a turn blowing out the cake on each others birthdays.

trampstamp Wed 19-Feb-14 17:24:54

the physiologist they had on was not wrong

I actually never heard of this until today

Exactly gamerchick. I have no interest in whether people do this or not. You do what you like for something totally inconsequential to everyone else. I can't see why the op is getting so irate she wants to slap people with a wet haddock...

mumbaisapphirebluespruce Wed 19-Feb-14 17:27:40

I don't get it either, but it's none of my business if other people want to. Just seems unnecessary for me. The non birthday children get party bags or get to experience the treat of a trip to the cinema or soft play or whatever the birthday celebration is, so I don't think they are missing out.

EatShitDerek Wed 19-Feb-14 17:28:10

My son is 4**

Each to their own. If doesn't affect you so why care

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 19-Feb-14 17:31:02

I once slapped someone with a manky wet fish,

It's not really that irate it's slightly less irate than accidentally on purpose getting their ankles with a buggy but more irate than the cats bum face

CorusKate Wed 19-Feb-14 17:31:47

It's not a new thing. I'm in my late 20s and my parents often used to get me a token present on my brother's birthday in the summer - something summer-appropriate like a water pistol or something. I have a January birthday and I think when I was little they thought that (a) it was a long time for me to wait between present opportunities and that (b) this way they could give me summer toys in summer, rather than having to cope with a disappointed five year old who wants to use her water pistol Right Now in January.

trampstamp Wed 19-Feb-14 17:31:59

What type of fish was it???

GingerRodgers Wed 19-Feb-14 17:32:53

This used to happen in our house only, it was my brother getting a present on my birthday. I never got one on his. Don't really think that's fair but he always was favourite!

squoosh Wed 19-Feb-14 17:33:23

That's pretty crap Ginger.

CorusKate Wed 19-Feb-14 17:33:49

Good point, trampstamp. Tin of pilchards definitely conveys greater pissed-offness than a slice of smoked salmon.

littleredsquirrel Wed 19-Feb-14 17:35:13

I don't get it either and I think its right that children learn that they are not always the centre of attention.

I'm amazed anyone does thins though. I've never heard of it. The only time Ive heard of anything similar is buying a present for the young sibling when a new baby arrives and thought that was just to make sure the toddler didn't deliberately pinch the new baby through jealousy!

wheretoyougonow Wed 19-Feb-14 17:37:35

I don't like this either. Children need to learn its not always about them. My kids love choosing and giving each other presents. I find it sad that parents seem to over compensate or just can't bear to say no.

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