This is my first post in AIBU, but I really don't think I am but I'd be more than happy to be told otherwise.
DP has been contracting with a company for the past 2 years, he's very well respected in The company, he was head hunted by them and they really chased to get him and since he's been there they've made several offers of permanent employment and have bent over backwards to meet his needs.
He's finally agreed to go permanent, and has been in talks to iron out the details, they've have agreed to his requested salary, over time rate and holidays and the other little bits he's added into the contract of employment. So that's all great.
Here is the sticking point.
Our DS (my bio his step) has got cystic fibrosis, as you'll probably know it's a life limiting condition and his health will deteriorate until the end.
He is 9 now and at the point where it is likely to start going down hill at a more noticeable rate, we as parents need to consider the changes it will make to our lives.
However, DP refuses to tell his employer about DS's condition he says it's not something they need to know and it could damage his chances of getting the right package at work.
My argument is that we have 2 other children, (one his and one step for want of a better term, he treats them all equally and is a great dad to all 3 DCs)
Sometimes he will need to work from home, the other 2 will need to be collected from school and cared for overnight while the other one of us in with DS in the hospital, which is sometimes not our local but 2-3 hours away.
I feel his employer should be aware of this, it won't mean he can't work, his work is more than do able from home and he's proved himself time and time again that he will always get the job done, even if it means surviving on 1 hours sleep for days/weeks at a time.
AIBU, to think he should tell them so they are more receptive to him needing more flexibility in the future?
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TitsalinaBumSquash · 17/02/2014 09:10
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