My mum is schizophrenic. She tried to kill me when I was 15 and refuses to medicate, I've had no contact for years for my childrens safety sake. My exH used to regularly infer, as well as say outright, that I am mentally ill, too. This has come up again today as he has said I'm 'erratic', 'acting demented' and 'should seek help before someone does it for me.' These are the instances that have caused him to say this:
- He has been collecting dd from school for the past couple of months on the Friday of his weekends contact. One week he forgot to return her coat, another week it was her shoes, another week it was her scarf, hat and gloves and another week it was her lunch bag. When I've told him he's forgotten them he's said he'll return them in a few days. When I've said it's winter and she needs these things (it's a 1.5 mile walk to school) and that I don't have spares so need them back sooner, he got angry at me and told me that I'm BU to expect him to return them sooner and that she'll be fine without them.
- He has never had contact beyond one or two weekends per month, despite me offering holiday contact via email. He has history of leaving it a day or two before the holidays, then claiming he didn't realise it was the holidays (despite his mum who he sees everyday being a teacher) and saying he would've loved contact. I emailed him in November giving dates he could have holiday contact if he wished and asked that he replied by the end of January so I could make plans. He usually books his holidays in December for the following year. He didn't reply to my email, despite having read it, yet tonight called to say he'd be collecting dd on Monday for holiday contact. I said I assumed his lack of response meant he didn't want any holiday contact and so we've made plans. He's now threatening court.
- When he collects dd from school he doesn't do her homework, spellings or reading with her or empty and clean her lunch box - leaving it all for me to deal with on Sunday evening when I also have other children to be seeing to - he just has dd. I've asked that he do these things over the course of the weekend as I can't not do them if he hasn't as it upsets dd who worries she'll get in trouble. He refuses, saying he wants quality time with dd and doesn't have time to do those things.
Aibu and 'demented' in the things I've said/done?