Hi there, I've asked this before but I need avice again...
Basically myself and OH are younger parents, 18 and 20.
Please don't judge us on that, I'm desperate now.
We cannot afford private.
I will be living at my mums, and my OH cannot live with due to space. However he's welcome over whenever he likes.
His mother was under impression we were both going to live at his, and is now very pissed off that i'm not.
He's tried to talk to her about her dogs and her smoking.
She has finally agreed she won't smoke in the house when bubba's comes over, but i'm not entirely happy with this as she'll smoke any others time in the house and third hand smoke is dangerous too.
I've said to OH because of the lingering smoke I cannot allow LO to sleep overnights, its too risky and if she was damaged by constant smoke thats festered i'll never forgive myself.
She will not hear a bad word on her dogs. (Three Jack Russells, and an elderly Labrador.) They are not trained, do not listen an two are snappy, have bit, will bite for no reason or for unacceptable reasons. She does not care, it is our faults apparently. All I asked is that they are on ground level when baby is round, so they cannot express dominance, and be all over her.
MIL disagrees and says they should be allowed to lick her all over, be protective and love her.
I do not share these views, a dog is a dog, and shouldn't be given such frighteningly close access, especially to a newborn.
MIL cannot come around mine, my mum and herself do not get on.
What do I do? Its causing huge tension between myself and OH, and tearing us apart.
Should I just stick to my guns, and only have LO around his for a few hours in the day or not even risk it at all?
Any advice would be great, but please no flaming If you feel strongly on this subject please back why x
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