Had a night out with a group of friends Saturday.
We've all got a mix of kids, ranging from 3, with mine, and another friend's daughters the older ones at 12, we were chatting about how our kids were, and the friend with the other 12 year old asked how mine had got on starting high school, just general chit chat really, which moved on to them discovering make up, and messing about with hair, etc.
Other friend mentioned that her 12 year old had been nagging to get her hair dip-dyed and she wasn't sure, I said that my 12 year old had also been asking and I had agreed that she could do it over the school summer holidays - DD wants to dye the ends of her hair red which will involve bleaching it first as she has quite dark hair, so we'll then cut the red ends off before she heads back to school. Friend said she thought it was a good compromise
Another friend was listening to this and said she felt I was far too lax to even consider it, let alone allow it and that she decides, and always will, what her daughter does to her hair, what clothes and shoes she wears, etc
Now, as long as my DD's hair is clean, brushed and a normal colour for school, I don't really care what she does to it. It's her hair. She chooses what she has done at the hairdressers, she has hair chalks which I'm happy for her to mess about with, etc. My only rule, is no perm or semi-perm hair dye - only that wash-in/wash-out stuff. She has quite soft curls which she loves and rarely asks for it to be straightened so she doesn't damage it with excessive heat styling or anything like that.
With clothes and shoes, they're to be age, weather and occasion appropriate, within budget and correct uniform for school, beyond that, I couldn't care less. We go shopping a few times a year and my only real input is the debit card. I help her out and make suggestions but I don't choose her clothes or lay her outfits out for her to wear each day - I might treat her to something if I see something I think she'll like, but they're her clothes, she has to wear them and feel comfortable in them so I think they should be her choice
Is that really terrible?
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AIBU and too lax to think "well, it's her hair..."?
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Stinklebell · 10/02/2014 09:18
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