aibu to roll my eyes and not take seriously me 16yo dd's claim that she's not.going to eat anything for 10 days

(31 Posts)
carpieharp Sun 09-Feb-14 19:26:38

Dd had always eaten normally and would never turn down chocolate or cake, but today she looked sad and after asking her what was wrong for ages she finally came out repeatedly saying 'im so fat' on the verge of tears. She then went on to say how she wasn't going to eat anything for 5 days but then upped it to 10 after I just raised my.eyebrows, knowing she'd almost certainly eat if I offered her food she liked that moment. Of course I'm going to monitor to make sure she does eat but dh thinks Im not taking her claim seriously enough and that this is how teens get ed's in the first place.

carpieharp Sun 09-Feb-14 19:55:20

She's 16 and 5ft 4inches, only problem with explaining that is that she had a friend a couple years ago who would do cycles of fasting for 2 or 3 days a week and lost loads of weight, going from a size 12 to a small size 6, so with that she'd just roll and her eyes as she has seen this approach does work for some :s

carpieharp Sun 09-Feb-14 20:03:05

Any responses I can say to that?

Littleen Sun 09-Feb-14 20:06:17

I think it sounds like you were being quite rude and dismissive about her feelings. You need to listen and open a conversation - it doesn't matter whether you think she's skinny, average or fat, teens have a completely different view of these things. I feel rather sad for your daughter!

whomadeyougod Sun 09-Feb-14 20:17:01

i would ignore it , it will be forgotten when she wakes up hungry.

carpieharp Sun 09-Feb-14 20:18:50

So you don't think I shall say anything to her who, I don't want to make it a big issue if it will all be forgotten tomorrow but I also don't want to dismiss something that may be the start of a problem :s

whomadeyougod Sun 09-Feb-14 20:30:17

my dd was like that, not going to eat for 2 days , cutting out meat , crisps,chocolate,chips etc, she never lasted a day ,was always forgotten in the morning, i would keep quiet , monitor and if there is a problem after a few days then chat , someone might of made a comment and made her feel bad , so just keep an eye on her .

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