am I too strict?

(53 Posts)
PandaFeet Sun 09-Feb-14 18:43:05

I am scared I am turning into my mother. She was very strict about everything, and it led to a lot of resentment. I don't think I would ever go to her extremes, but then things are coming up now that make me wonder.

My eldest DD is 5. I have told her she can have her ears pierced in Primary 7. So around 10/11. A relatives child is 3 and has them done, now my DD is asking to have hers done again.

She has no computer games. No DS, no PSP etc. I feel that as she can't read yet she doesn't need them. I also don't let her watch any film above a U. Maybe a PG if I have watched it first and think its ok. But when we visit other peoples houses their similarly aged kids have DSs and watch 15 rated films.

I know everyone parents differently, and I should do what's right for me, but am I going to be making it more difficult for her to make friends because she's out of the loop?

PandaFeet Sun 09-Feb-14 20:28:36

To those who said their 6ish year olds have a DS, do they take care of it?

I wouldn't like to spend so much on a DS and then she be rough with it. We did buy her a camera for xmas, and it stays out of reach until she wants it and then it gets put away. I suppose its similar to that.

Nancy66 Sun 09-Feb-14 20:31:39

We have friends - both super achieving, highly educated and they let their kids (aged 7 and 9) play 18 cert games like Mortal Combat and Grand Theft Auto.

Weird. Their logic is 'it's only a game'.

So, no I don't think you are overly strict at all.

pointythings Sun 09-Feb-14 20:37:21

My two were always very careful with their DS, they understood that it was a big expensive present.

As for ears - they had theirs pierced at ages 9 and 11, right at the start of the long summer holidays, and they have had no trouble taking care of them. I wouldn't have done it earlier.

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