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to not allow my dd facebook, msn etc(92 Posts)
My dd is 10 and is asking me quite frequently for the likes of msn, facebook, skype and the likes.
I have said no, no, no and no!
Aibu in not allowing her access to these?
I see nothing but stranger danger signs all around it and i dont know if i am just being over cautious or not
He has an iPhone and a tablet but he doesn't need Facebook cos he's only ten love it.
As a rule I don't trust my children. I check on them constantly.
You know what I meant. The iPhone is restricted, he can't use the Internet, same as tablet.
Don't you need 3G or wifi to FaceTime?
What I meant is he can't go on safari/web browser. He can use apps.
Meh, I can't be bothered to explain myself. I'm happy enough with him not having FB, he doesn't need it.
These threads always go the same way. People say they don't want their DDc on social media. Then those whose DC are on it feel that their parenting skills are being criticised so go on the attack. I'm not quite sure how constructive it is to generalise and say that DC must be allowed on social media if they want to and that restricting that is always going to end in tears. People know their DC and there's enough anecdotal evidence from both sides to show that the DC turn out ok either way. Presumably this is because the tack taken was the best one for the individual DC?
We have an Internet safety evening at DD's school this week. DD's coming with me so she can hear it first hand from her teachers. This is part of her education as IMO better to educate before access is given which is the stage we're at at the moment.
In my case DD is a stickler for rules and I couldn't give a hoot if every single 12 yo in the world was on Facebook, but I'm not teaching my DD that it's ok to pretend she's older just so she can get a profile.
I have explained why she can't have a social media account yet because a) I don't think she's mature enough or b) I don't understand it enough myself yet to be able to teach her to use it safely (in the case of instagram and snap chat etc). But she knows it's up for discussion if that changes.
I've shown her profiles and what identifying and public information is out there. We've even googled her classmates and seen them in the results. I know she's not ready for that and she does too as she's not asked for it. She's still googling pictures of hamsters FFS!
So I'm happy with my choices and rules because I know my DD. I'm also 100% confident that both DC will be fully adjusted and ready for life at college or uni by the time they go, with plenty of common sense and the necessary skills to assess danger. So thankfully I'll be able to sleep tonight.
why does a 10 year old need an iphone?
if you are not going to activate internet access?
if its on a contract, he will be activating data
so he will be using browsers
and the FB app does not need a browser
you do realise that FB is much more safe than playing games on line right? you can be a friend and see every post.
agree 10 too young but to continue to ban Internet to young teen is unworkable and daft.
Talking quite right about the I phone.
What are people so scared of? Specifically?
That's the bit I never understand.
My ds is in year 5 & has recently started dropping heavy hints re: me passing my quite nice phone onto him when I upgrade it next year.
Fair dos, year 6 seems like a sensible age to take responsibility for a phone in the bottom of his bag for emergencies.
But I worry much more about ds getting mugged for a decent phone, never mind having untrammelled access to t'internets in all their horror - I'd be much happier to send him out with an ancient Nokia 3310! - than I ever do about him pootling about on my old laptop in the same room as me.
& yet every year, I hear the same from parents of year 7s: their child is NOT allowed on social media sites, definitely not. Meanwhile, the kid's wandering round school with a phone you could coordinate a moon landing with, never mind set yourself up an Instagram account...
I'm a 15 year old girl and my parents have NEVER monitored my internet use. I've used Facebook from the age of 10 and don't recall ever asking for my parents permission to get instagram, snapchat etc
I'm allowed gadgets in my room and always have done and have a smartphone and laptop with no parental controls. My parents have never talked to me about internet safety yet through common sense and talks at school I make sure that in safe online.
All of you saying your kids will not have Facebook etc until they are 13 are being very naive. 90% of my year had Facebook from year 7. They will just get an account and not tell you it's not exactly hard. I got cyber bullied through Facebook and texts in year 7 which resulted in my moving classes etc but I never stopped using it. While there are dark sides to social media such as cyber bullying it is also a great way to talk to friends and share photos/videos.
Just out of interest, why do some of you take gadgets out of your kids rooms as night? I have my iPhone charging by my bed every night and I make sure I'm off it by 11 and go to sleep. If I stay awake later then the only one who suffers is me because I am tired the next day.
My Yr 7 doesn't have an iphone but she has an iPod wchxh she doesn't carry around. She does have a smart phone though.
She is allowed on some social media , Instagram but not yet on Facebook or Twitter. The circle of friends she has behaves rather poorly in Facebook and Twitter and I know she would be similar.
She uses her iPod to mainly listen to music , play hands , FaceTime and watch netflix .
She also takes approximately 7527 pictures of herself daily and about 2458 pictures of her horse.
I take gadgets out of her room at night because she would be chatting all night and watching all sorts on the internet. I also like her to read at bedtime and she wouldn't if an electronic device was available .
fair enough, that's what I used to to do philoslothy but now I've realised that when I stay up later I just get really tired the next day so it's not worth it
You are much more sensible than my twelve year old then!
He has Dhs old iPhone. He got it as he goes to and from school himself. And he needs a password to download apps, so FB app can be downloaded without it.
Im happy enough with what we allow him. And when I think he is mature enough, and understands more about web safety, then maybe he can have FB. By then there will probably be some other new social media site.
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