AIBU or am I just being PFB?

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Slh122 Sun 09-Feb-14 02:25:30

Went round to MILs this evening and she asked us if we want to go out for a meal for her mum's birthday in a few weeks time.
She then said she'd book the table for 7.30. As there's a few of us going, and the place we're going isn't exactly particularly speedy, this will mean the whole thing is a long drawn-out affair so we probably wouldn't be finished until 9.30 at the earliest.
We have a 3 week old baby and I'm trying to establish some sort of half-decent bedtime routine with him so that we can all try and egg some sleep.
I said it was a little bit too late and could we do it any earlier because I'm the one who has to deal with DS in the night when he's unsettled.
MIL said no because she's going out in the day and 'needs time to get ready'.
DP said okay we'll bring the pram in and he can sleep in that while we're eating. I said I don't want him getting over tired which is what will happen if he gets passed round a table of people. MIL then said I was being precious and that I couldn't stop people having a cuddle of him.
AIBU not to want to take my baby out on an evening or am I just being precious?

lovetheseasons1 Mon 10-Feb-14 11:56:31

I've had similar pressures. Your baby is tiny and your say is final. A bit of routine can be just as much for the parents as the baby at this stage and helps you know when you might hope to get some rest. If you want to stay home and dry with the baby I wouldn't blame you one bit smile)

zeebaneighba Tue 11-Feb-14 01:30:25

joysmum I was referring to the MIL accusing the OP of being precious - anyone is entitled to their opinion but MIL was out of order actually saying so. And personally I find the "pfb" label really demeaning and unhelpful. But perhaps for another thread ...

I agree with a risk assessment, however I question how well anyone does these at 3 weeks postpartum. I also would add that for us a risk assessment would include the fact we hardly can ever afford a proper meal out, so having to drop and run in the middle of a $100 meal (for 2) is unappealing. Having had to bolt expensive meals/take cold & now soggy food home in doggy bags a few times now I think I'd take a babysitter and a meal out I can actually enjoy any day. Birthdays are every year, it doesn't hurt to miss out for a bit while babies are small.

ShesADreamer Tue 11-Feb-14 01:47:57

Baby will be 5/6 weeks by then? You might feel much more amenable to an evening out. If not, plead sickness, pack everyone else off and enjoy the peace and quiet.

horsetowater Tue 11-Feb-14 01:53:35

PFB - relax and go out for dinner. You won't have that chance when PFB turns into an energetic runaround toddler.

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