To ask: does anybody else think that they're just really crap at everything...

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newsecretidentity Sat 08-Feb-14 13:50:06

all the time?

Seriously, I know I've survived to reach my mid-thirties, so I must have got some things right at some point. But I can't seem to go through a day without cocking something up. Burning the dinner, forgetting my phone, paying a bill late...

Does anybody else get that feeling, or is it just me?

cornishcreamtea Sat 08-Feb-14 16:22:10

It is a well known fact in our house that if I touch anything that is to do with technology then it will go wrong. How I even manage to get a post on here is quite frankly amazing.

My 3 year old DGS has to show me how to play a DVd, I can never work out which remote does what. When the Sky flashes up that I am recording 2 programmes and I have to choose which one to cancel I always cancel the wrong one etc etc.

My DP reckons I should get a job setting challenges for the Apple troubleshooters as whenever he passes me his Ipad to look at something I manage to do something to make the screen change and he has no idea what I have just done.

My usual cry is Whaaat, I didn't even touch anything!

Woolyback Sat 08-Feb-14 16:26:02

Yup signing in. Can't do relationship my home is reasonably tidy but far from perfect. How do some manage it all?

shebird Sat 08-Feb-14 16:49:36

Another crap one here. I've managed to maintain a facade of perfectness and keeping it all together until recently and now I as a near 40 it's all falling apart. I've always known that I was crap but managed to hide it so well. Now the cracks are showing at work at at home and my true crapiness is being revealed. Perhaps it's just getting older I don't have the energy and my brain is more scrambled than ever before.

jamama Sat 08-Feb-14 16:56:13

I know this thread is lighthearted, but it is very sad to see so many compassionate, warm, thoughtful women rushing on to admit that they are 'crap'. We absolutely all have these days, moments, sometimes weeks, but dwelling on it will only make you feel bad. Acceptance that whatever it is has not gone well but that there are other things that went well is the only way not to dwell in it. I can't help but feel that men wouldn't do this.

innermuddle Sat 08-Feb-14 16:57:59

Oh gid I feel exactly like that! Crap mother, crap wife, crap at keeping the house clean, not s great cook, rubbish at relationships with family and friends. Constantly feel like my husband is one day going to realise how horrible I am and leave, and that most people just put up with me. And as for my career, it is a miracle I have one!

Joysmum Sat 08-Feb-14 16:59:31

I suppose something goes wrong everyday but I tend to focus on the good stuff so it doesn't get me down.

Life is about attitude. I could get pissed off at being stuck in traffic like the bloke next to me, or I could welcome the opportunity to listen to my favourite music and sing my head off. We are both in the same situation yet he has high blood pressure and I'm having a brilliant time grin. No point getting het up over stuff you can't change.

ToBeSure Sat 08-Feb-14 17:00:05

I don't think I am crap but I am decidedly average. I am not sure if that amounts to a stealth boast on this thread. I don't do anything we'll. I have no secret talents or areas of expertise. I am average.

I regularly burn the dinner, forget stuff and loose things.

Woolyback Sat 08-Feb-14 17:02:33

Yeah but even on random some of u us are dealt a bad hand

FutTheShuckUp Sat 08-Feb-14 17:04:27

Yep another crap at everythinger here! I try and fail quite often, my self esteem has taken a right battering lately

newsecretidentity Sat 08-Feb-14 17:07:02

Is it lighthearted? Ok, I know I often lift up my own foibles for other people's amusement ( might as well use them for something) and I know I do suffer with depression.

But I guess that by this age, I expected to feel more... Competent. I do know people who are organized, have lovely homes and impressive careers, washboard stomachs and no peanut butter in their hair, who don't fall over when walking. What makes me so different?

HadABadDay2014 Sat 08-Feb-14 17:08:34

I am always ballsing things up, but on the rare times I do something right it's like I won a million pounds.

Gruntfuttock Sat 08-Feb-14 17:09:18

The one and only thing I'm good at is being a waste of space.

jamama Sat 08-Feb-14 17:13:12

It looks different from the outside for all of us. On the surface I have a fantastic career, lovely home, gorgeous DD, I still fear I'll fuck it up, think the house is a mess, had a MC last year, but a recent course of counseling has really helped me to appreciate and celebrate the good.

Yep me too. I'm crap at being a good partner (I actually think I'm self sabotaging it because I've never seen a functional normal relationship). I shout regularly at the kids. Since I went back to work I've been giving them crap food far too often. My house is a tip, I cba to clean or tidy it. I don't have any friends, they can obviously see through the facade. The only reason do hasn't left me is because of the kids.

Gruntfuttock Sat 08-Feb-14 17:15:04

I have no friends either ThePigOfHappiness

newsecretidentity Sat 08-Feb-14 17:20:50

I cried at my toothpaste today. I don't know why. How crap is that?

walkdowntheavenue Sat 08-Feb-14 17:38:26

Yep. I don't go through a day where I don't feel utterly shit at everything. I can't get anything right. I don't have one single friend, when my children were born I had no one to call or text to tell them about it. Just all round utter crapness.

newsecretidentity Sat 08-Feb-14 17:48:16

We could all meet up to support each other in our crapness, and exchange tales of woe. But I'd probably be lost, late, have my knickers on show or set fire to the venue...

Pigeonhouse Sat 08-Feb-14 17:51:21

Oh, I don't know, I'm finding this thread kind of liberating. Like a sort of AA meeting where I can stand up and say 'My name is Pigeonhouse and I'm a terrible learner driver, an underachieving academic, the world's slowest novelist, a dreadful dresser, and a frazzled mother to a toddler. Oh, and I couldn't cope with labour at all.'

On the other hand, in real life I get very irritated with other women being self-deprecating. A predominantly male gathering (even an anonymous one) is pretty unlikely to have hordes of men queuing up to admit they are piss-poor as parents, husbands, fathers, pool-players etc.

grumpyoldbat Sat 08-Feb-14 17:53:16

I cock up several times a day and someone likes to rub that in my face at least once a day. I too don't know how I survived to my 30s.

BoredNinja Sat 08-Feb-14 17:55:42

Yup, I feel generally crap at everything. I'm an underachiever, but think tbh it's because I'm not capable of achieving anything.

I'm also another one with no friends. Probably because of my massive inferiority complex. Ho hum.

hermionepotter Sat 08-Feb-14 17:57:54

yes I'm crap at everything

except procrastinating and being disorganised grin

newsecretidentity Sat 08-Feb-14 18:08:56

It is a bit more fun to look at it that way. For example, I am the BEST at leaving my keys in the front door. And my selection of single socks is simply breathtaking.

NoodleOodle Sat 08-Feb-14 18:17:53

Thank you all. This thread has made me laugh, at myself, first real laugh for an age. My name's NoodleOodle and I'm crap at washing up and dealing with my mail in anything like a timely manner.

newsecretidentity Sat 08-Feb-14 18:33:26

Oh god, the post... I fear the "admin pile" that never seems to get any smaller.

Also, I can't print things at work, and once burned pizza in a microwave so badly that the microwave was destroyed.

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