To cancel the rest of dds weekend?

(22 Posts)
theborg Sat 08-Feb-14 12:20:08

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Why can you not deal with it by asking her for better behaviour? It sounds like you're being petty and mean rather than excellent parenting, which while I get why will just cause further arguements.

If rather stop tv or something.

YouTheCat Sat 08-Feb-14 12:23:17

Have you given her a warning that that is what will happen if her behaviour continues?

Be prepared for the little madam to have forgotten why she's in a huff and come out all happy grin

olbasoil Sat 08-Feb-14 12:27:47

Well, yes I would and have done. I will not put up with rudeness from my lot especially if I am doing something that they want/need me to do.

frugalfuzzpig Sat 08-Feb-14 12:28:09

I think you need to give a warning for that kind of stuff really. As Laurie says she may well come out all happy and lovely but if she doesn't then a simple "one more word like that young lady and you're grounded til Monday" type thing would suffice, I think.

As an aside, what kind of stuff does she do at this junior volunteer thing? Sounds amazing!

theborg Sat 08-Feb-14 12:37:05

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theborg Sat 08-Feb-14 12:43:05

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theborg Sat 08-Feb-14 12:46:13

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Loveleopardprint Sat 08-Feb-14 12:51:43

I think I would take her to the party otherwise you are going to upset another parent and child, especially if they have spent money on an activity or good for her.
I would tell her though that any more rudeness today leads to the sleepover being cancelled.

Jbck Sat 08-Feb-14 12:52:02

If she understands consequences and you have already warned her to behave nicer to you thenI would. There gets to a point where you are being taken for a mug.

Of course, you then have to cope with a sulky pre-teen all weekend without respite.

I'd give her a final warning and make sure you stick to your guns.

theborg Sat 08-Feb-14 12:58:17

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Loveleopardprint Sat 08-Feb-14 13:03:14

Aah ok well that is an ok party to miss. I do empathise. I have two dds, one 14 and one 11 and my DH works away all week. Most of the time they are great but every now and again we have to come down hard as they push the boundaries. Good luck with her!!! Hormones are a nightmare.

Golightly133 Sat 08-Feb-14 13:34:12

I don't think you will get anywhere stopping her going to a party/sleepover, IMO that will just cause resentment. If you are feeling under the weather are you maybe taking it out on her? Is it that you don't want to traipse and are looking for an excuse not to bother??

Anydrinkwilldo Sat 08-Feb-14 14:03:34

I would take away one activity at a time iykwim, if she has that much of an attitude she'll lose everything

brokenhearted55a Sat 08-Feb-14 14:07:19

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theborg Sat 08-Feb-14 14:34:04

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JuliaScurr Sat 08-Feb-14 14:42:13

I'd go for the Long Talk option
your other choices don't give her a warning or chance to improve

AChickenCalledKorma Sat 08-Feb-14 14:45:18

If she's now happy and calm, it might be an excellent time to have a calm but very serious conversation with her about her behaviour earlier and what the consequences will be next time she takes you for granted.

Jinty64 Sat 08-Feb-14 14:50:49

I agree with Julia. My teenagers are generally well behaved but do sometimes forget themselves. They both have sn's and I find sitting them down and reminding them of how much I do for them and how little I ask in return usually does the trick. Let her know you are a team and have to support each other.

Golightly133 Sat 08-Feb-14 21:51:35

Glad she was better, sometimes I think they get tired too

Golightly133 Sat 08-Feb-14 21:51:53

Enjoy your break

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