AIBU, or is he... over a drunk photo

(83 Posts)
bloomingbloom Sat 08-Feb-14 10:39:09

I have been ' seeing' this man, for about a month, keeping it casual. More of a fling than a long term thing.

We have had sex, and have rough plans to see each other sunday.

I went out last night, came home, and in my drunken state decided to text him a pic of my legs, in bed, crossed, from the thigh down, with the caption ' wish you were here'

i got a reply from him, but it was telling me i needed to stop being rude. Which was a bit odd seeing as he had sent me a rude pic on monday

anwyay, i said sorry, i had just been messing about and didnt mean to offend, and he said he was sober and tired and felt awkward and unsure generally.

I said that its fine and i was going to slink off to recover my rejected ego.

and then he said that he didnt mean it like that, he liked the pic but doesnt like anything.

i dont even know what that means.

i feel awfully embarassed, but then think, well. he sent a pic on monday. it was only legs, you can see more on a night out.

so, am i an awful slut or is he just a dickhead?

cashewfrenzy Sat 08-Feb-14 10:41:11

He's being a bit weird. I think, truly, it's not you it's him!

formerbabe Sat 08-Feb-14 10:41:12

Was he drunk when he sent you a pic?

YouTheCat Sat 08-Feb-14 10:41:30

He doesn't sound like much fun. You were only reciprocating.

If you are only after a casual fling (and there is nothing wrong with that grin ) maybe you need to find someone with a sense of humour.

procrastinatingagain Sat 08-Feb-14 10:42:04

He's just a dickhead!

LuisSuarezTeeth Sat 08-Feb-14 10:42:13

What pic did he send you?

Bowlersarm Sat 08-Feb-14 10:42:24

It's always a risk to do something like that. It doesn't sound a terrible thing to have done, but maybe you should have waited until you knew him better.

I'm sure he'll get over it though!

HighBrows Sat 08-Feb-14 10:42:56

I agree it's not you it's him, he's a dick.

procrastinatingagain Sat 08-Feb-14 10:42:57

Who for some reason wants to make you feel like a slut angry

LuisSuarezTeeth Sat 08-Feb-14 10:43:53

Maybe he was joking about being rude? Hard to tell without seeing the actual wording

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep Sat 08-Feb-14 10:44:41

What a weirdo (him, not you!)

bloomingbloom Sat 08-Feb-14 10:48:17

he sent me a cock pic on monday evening. We have had sex a few times, we had had sex that day. he was not drunk when he sent it. We had been laughing about why men do it, and i had said i was pleased that he hadnt. so he did it as a joke and it was funny.because i have a sense of humour.

he wasnt joking about being rude, else he woulnt have followed it up with the rest of what he said.

He's a tool.

I wouldn't see him again.

MrsBungle Sat 08-Feb-14 10:49:22

He's a knob. Dump him.

pictish Sat 08-Feb-14 10:50:59

If he sent you a cock shot, then responded like that your legs, then I think that tells you everything you need to know.
You are there to service him, and nothing more.
Do NOT see him again. What an utter arsehole!!

Caitlin17 Sat 08-Feb-14 10:51:09

I'd drop him now. Actually I'd have dropped him if he'd sent me a picture of his penis, but that's for you if you're fine with it, but there is a weird double standard going on in his head.

Bowlersarm Sat 08-Feb-14 10:51:50

Well as his pic was far more explicit than yours, his reaction is strange. Yes he's being a duck in that case.

Bowlersarm Sat 08-Feb-14 10:52:30

He's being a dick, not a duck grin

LuisSuarezTeeth Sat 08-Feb-14 10:53:21

Agree, double standards and odd.

BecauseIsaidS0 Sat 08-Feb-14 10:53:35

I'd say he is married and was scared his DW would see the pic!

halfwildlingwoman Sat 08-Feb-14 10:53:54

It's OK for him to send you a cock pic but you can't send a picture of your legs with a flirty message?
Run for the hills. You are not a slut, he has a problem with female sexuality.

halfwildlingwoman Sat 08-Feb-14 10:54:41

Or, he's married.

harriet247 Sat 08-Feb-14 10:55:38

I think any form of sexting is just plain old silly, dont send anything you wouldn't mind getting on facebook one day!

perplexedpirate Sat 08-Feb-14 10:56:17

He's a cock, move on.

pictish Sat 08-Feb-14 10:57:46

I agree Harriet.
The cardinal rule is not to send anything you wouldn't want other people to see. Once it's sent, it's out there forever!
Self preservation at all times.

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