To leave the toilet for DH to clean up?

(36 Posts)
HellsGranny Fri 07-Feb-14 18:53:40

Had a crappy day today, had to have my cat put to sleep this morning then go to work.

Just got in, DH is in bed with flu, went to the loo & it is spattered with shit, I mean totally. AIBU to let him clean it up tomorrow? It's not the only loo we have, I can avoid it for now.

deakymom Fri 07-Feb-14 21:40:35

so sorry about your cat i lost mine in october

your husband is being lazy ive just had sickness and diarrhea i literally had to sit on the loo with an empty chocolate tub to puke in because i couldn't hold one end while puking from the other when i finished i flushed washed and bleached the loo!! ive eaten two meals in over 24 hours and i still tried to do the ironing (no i can't stand up for too long either) my husband had a bit of an upset tummy totally pebbledashed the only loo in the house i kicked off and told him to BLEACH IT!! he now thinks he has tonsillitis i told him his throat is sore because he was snoring all last night he is now being very quiet and nice to me im really not good when im ill!!

HellsGranny Fri 07-Feb-14 20:11:55

Thank you all for the kind words about my cat. We knew it was coming but I didn't think it was imminent.

Logg1e Fri 07-Feb-14 20:06:09

What Phal said is what happens here.

Gob-smacked at the posters regularly cleaning up after their husbands because they refuse.

HellonHeels Fri 07-Feb-14 20:03:57

Close the door on it. He can clean up when he gets up tomorrow. Doesn't sound like he has actual flu.

I'm so sorry about your darling cat thanks

VenusDeWillendorf Fri 07-Feb-14 20:03:31

Oh and I'm so very sorry about your little puddy. flowers

VenusDeWillendorf Fri 07-Feb-14 20:01:34

I had bone fide flu last autumn, and I was very ill indeed. In bed for two weeks and could hardly do anything but sweat and cough.
The antibiotics and steroids I was on gave me horrendous diarrhoea.

I did clean up after I used the loo though, (probably because my mum didn't do it for me,) and I'm a "the buck stops with me" kind of person. I would also be mortified if anyone had to do that for me. Even if I puke my guts up, I clean up and use Milton wipes on things like taps and door knobs- no point everyone getting sick. That's a basic level of hygiene.
My 9year old knows not to puke anywhere except the loo, and to clean up afterwards.

I'd let him clean up his own mess, tomorrow and use the other loo.

Bring him a cuppa and read him the riot act - you know how to put it best so he gets the message that you aren't there to clean up his shit, and he's well able to do it, even if he's poorly.

cees Fri 07-Feb-14 19:59:50

And I am sorry about your poor cat.

cees Fri 07-Feb-14 19:58:28

Yanbu

He left it because he knows you will clean it up, flu does not excuse leaving shit for the wife to deal with.

Manky pig.

HellsGranny Fri 07-Feb-14 19:51:57

I think normally I would just clean up, but I've had it with everything today. We've both had this latest cold bug but suddenly he's at death's door while I'm recovering. He's left the toilet covered in shit before and after this morning I'm just tired, upset & grumpy.

I'll clean it in a bit, but will be having words once he's recovered.

Joysmum Fri 07-Feb-14 19:48:14

He's ill for gods sake. I'd clean it up. If he wasn't ill I'd force him to use his toothbrush to clean it wink

whois Fri 07-Feb-14 19:47:34

If he actually has flu, then I would clean it. Actual flu is appaling.

If he has a bad cold then he can clean it. Especially if he is in the habit of leaving things dirty.

If it is just a bad cold with 'flu like symptoms' then I have zero sympathy for either of you, and I wish a huge dose of actual flu on anyone who uses the word in vein.

Misspixietrix Fri 07-Feb-14 19:46:33

Sorry about your Cat OP flowers.

Phalenopsis Fri 07-Feb-14 19:46:29

If I'm ill, my OH clears up after me. If he's ill, I clear up after him.

If your OH really has flu and hasn't got man flu, then clean up after him.

Annunziata Fri 07-Feb-14 19:46:18

He's ill, poor man. Just clean it.

StanHouseMuir Fri 07-Feb-14 19:43:43

If my wife had flu and left it like that then I would sort it out.

JamNan Fri 07-Feb-14 19:37:23

Leave him some Post it notes.

Oi you fuckin' dirty bastard!
Clean up YOUR SHIT!
BLEACH your ARSE
AND FUCKING WASH your germ-ridden hands after!!!!

Says JamNan who had to clean up a slightly pebble-dashed loo this morning cos CHEIF MYOPIC SHITTER can't see it!

Take photos - as evidence. Gawd would we LADIES leave sannies all over the bathroom floor because we are too 'ill' to dispose of them?

And HellsGranny I am really so sorry about your cat. You have had a horrid day.

enriquetheringbearinglizard Fri 07-Feb-14 19:32:35

I couldn't leave it to be honest, even if everyone else could go elsewhere.
If he's ill it's not as though he could help it, or feel up to cleaning after himself.

Any other time would be a different matter though.

HumphreyCobbler Fri 07-Feb-14 19:32:14

oh yes, forgot to say sorry about losing your cat. How sad.

Divinity Fri 07-Feb-14 19:28:14

As Choude said. If he does have flu he will be very weak, can hardly stand and will be sleeping all the time. In which case squirt a bit if bleach in to help.

Sorry about your puddy. Very sad day for you sad

blueish Fri 07-Feb-14 19:21:37

Sorry about your cat.

Quirt a load of bleach round the loo.

ChoudeBruxelles Fri 07-Feb-14 19:21:06

If he has proper flu he can probably just about drag himself to the toilet when he actually needs it. Just squirt some bleach down the loo

HumphreyCobbler Fri 07-Feb-14 19:19:24

If he has proper flu he will be too ill to even stand up properly. If he has a less serious virus he should clean up after himself

Oldraver Fri 07-Feb-14 19:14:47

Unless he is at deaths door there is no excuse for him not cleaning up his shit.

Ledkr Fri 07-Feb-14 19:14:42

I wonder how these blokes managed pre wife?

HellsGranny Fri 07-Feb-14 19:08:38

He's left skid marks before, I've nagged about it before. I accept he's ill but even so I'm really not in the mood to be cleaning up his shit tonight.

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