To think nearly 4 is still too young for school nursery?

(113 Posts)
Slightlyneuroricnat Fri 07-Feb-14 18:03:14

Always considered myself lucky in that my daughter wouldn't be starting school nursery until nearly 4 as her birthday is September but as its nearing the sick feeling still isn't shifting.
Aibu?

AwfulMaureen Fri 07-Feb-14 18:12:17

It's not too young. I thought that with my older DD but now I've sent two of them off I know better. It's very good for them and they have a fantastic time.

YABU, because plenty of children go and do fine, in fact very well. So you might think that nearly 4 is too young for your child but YABU to think that it's too young for any child.

My DS is just started in a school nursery and he only turned 3 at Christmas time. He loves it once he gets there.

pussycatdoll Fri 07-Feb-14 18:15:20

Don't send her then
Keep her home until school

WorraLiberty Fri 07-Feb-14 18:15:41

It mostly depends on the child

My DS's school has a nursery and the majority of the kids get on very well there.

Joysmum Fri 07-Feb-14 18:16:16

I wondered how my DD was going to be, she's an august baby. It was fine. You have the choice you know.

ThatBloodyWoman Fri 07-Feb-14 18:18:09

My dd1 went into childcare at 4 months and school at a few days over 4 years.

She and I were both ready, and in our personal situation I feel I would have been clipping her wings to hold her back.

She is blossoming into a secure, mature, and socially confident older child.

scantilymad Fri 07-Feb-14 18:18:47

The nursery DS will be going to now takes children from 2. It's a lovely environment and if DS is ready he will be going from 2.5 rather than be at a childminder. I don't think 4 is too young but as pp said it does depend on the child. They may be desperate to get out of the house and join in by that stage!

scantilymad Fri 07-Feb-14 18:19:41

Oh and sorry it is a nursery attached to a school and DS is a late August baby.

Smartiepants79 Fri 07-Feb-14 18:20:28

My Dd will be barely 4 when she has to go to school is September. I am dreading it. I'd give anything for her not to have to go for another year.
I envy you. I'd love for her to be just starting nursery.

AllMimsyWereTheBorogroves Fri 07-Feb-14 18:21:48

If it's a properly run nursery class/school it should be absolutely ideal for a child of 3 or 4. The focus should be on learning through play, social skills, learning to talk and listen to other children and to adults. My children were both lucky enough to go to one of the best nursery schools imaginable for five terms before they went on to primary school. It was a fantastic start to their education.

Beamur Fri 07-Feb-14 18:22:43

It depends on the child.
DD went to school nursery from 3 and has been fine.

Slightlyneuroricnat Fri 07-Feb-14 18:23:09

She's a confident kid, I'm just still not sure.
I'm aware of the positives and most kids will go into reception next year together but I just look at her and think she's still very young to have to go off every day albeit only 3 hours a day.

BicycleGasoline Fri 07-Feb-14 18:24:31

What do you think they are going to do to her? I'm a nursery teacher, and parent to an August-born dd who will start nursery in September at just 3. She will be fine as the class is tailored for 3-4 year olds.

Splatt34 Fri 07-Feb-14 18:24:38

@Smartiepants legally they don't HAVE to enter school until the term AFTER they turn 5. It is your choice, you could keep her home longer but I think schools make it tricky

My DD starts Reception the day after she turns 4 this year! She has been at nursery since she turned 3 and is thriving, I thought she would struggle as it was too soon but she loves it, 6 months is a long time and she change so much in that space of time.

Thumbcat Fri 07-Feb-14 18:26:16

I think it depends on the child. It wouldn't have suited DS at nearly 4 and so I kept him at his preschool instead as he was settled and happy. By the time he started school at nearly 5 he was more than ready for it and settled just as quickly as the ones who has attended the nursery. Do what is best for your child.

scantilymad Fri 07-Feb-14 18:27:06

Slightly - does the nursery run any taster sessions? An afternoon or two before her official start date might help both of you get used to it? Good luck. DS doesn't start for nearly two years and I'm already dreading it (especially as he's just fallen asleep on me after his bath smile )

lljkk Fri 07-Feb-14 18:27:34

You're worrying in February about whether she'll be ready in September? They change hugely in 6-7 months, you know that already, right?

She'll be more than ready!

paperdress Fri 07-Feb-14 18:28:14

OP- I think you have had some useful replies so far but i also detect an undercurrent of 'oh just get on with it, what's your problem?'
we send our kids to preschool pretty early in their childhood in this country; it will suit some but perhaps not others. it useful to reflect on it and question the status quo. perhaps other parents are innured to the arguments for & against because they have become used to regular nursery attendance in their infants and toddlers

DD went a couple of weeks before she turned three and thrived, she loved it.

WhosLookingAfterCourtney Fri 07-Feb-14 18:28:43

What about a different kind of nursery? Dd goes to a normal one (not sure of all the different kinds!) and started just before her 3rd birthday. Ds is 18 months and has just started as I've gone back to work and loves it.

Also, if the school nursery is inflexible with hours as your last post suggests, it might be worth shopping around - not all nurseries are like that. At ours you can use your 15 hours as much or as little as you please and spread over as many days as you like.

MrsBungle Fri 07-Feb-14 18:28:59

Yabu. Don't send her then if you are uncomfortable with it.

Kveta Fri 07-Feb-14 18:29:20

It depends on the child. My DS is a September baby, and just loves nursery. He runs in every day, chats about his teachers and friends all the time, draws pictures to take in for his teachers, and generally seems to be having a whale of a time!

DD is a June baby though, so we don't know if she will be ready when she should be starting. I think you just have to play it by ear.

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