to cry over hotel bridal policy?

(410 Posts)
PrebendsBridge Thu 06-Feb-14 16:43:44

Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

AwfulMaureen Thu 06-Feb-14 16:45:24

Have they seen the dress? Lie and say it's your "evening wear". Unless they bloody attend your wedding ceremony they won't know!

Pennypig Thu 06-Feb-14 16:45:41

That's such a shame, are you are they won't be more flexibl if you explain it's just a cream dress, not a weddingy type dress?

Tell them you won't wear a wedding dress, go in your dress. I doubt they'll consider it to be a wedding dress on sight.

PrebendsBridge Thu 06-Feb-14 16:46:28

I sent them the link:

http://www.lkbennett.com/Clothing/Dresses/Detroit-Notch-Collar-Fitted-Dress/p/DRDETROITPOLYESTERMIXCreamLight Cream

Apparently too ostensibly bridal.

DP stupidly mentioned the wedding when booking the room.

JunoMacGuff Thu 06-Feb-14 16:46:41

Are you planning to tell them in advance that you'll be in a dress?

DustyBaubles Thu 06-Feb-14 16:47:30

Wouldn't you look at bit odd sitting at a table for four in a wedding dress/ bridal outfit though?

If you are not going for the full on headgear/make up/jewellery etc. bridal look though, perhaps the hotel will be none the wiser. Unles your husband is going to be in morning dress or something.

cory Thu 06-Feb-14 16:47:51

How bizarre. So they think another bride- the one who has paid for the packet- would think she wasn't getting her full money's worth if she was reminded that she is not the only bride in the world? Bit of a sad comment on human nature, isn't it?

MorrisZapp Thu 06-Feb-14 16:48:01

Well that's nonsense isn't it. You're just two couples coming for dinner, they can't tell you what to wear.

JunoMacGuff Thu 06-Feb-14 16:48:04

That isn't a wedding dress. It's just a white dress. (and lovely, BTW smile)

They are being ridiculous if they have seen it.

sunshinemmum Thu 06-Feb-14 16:48:11

It's your going away outfit wink you'll be fine. I can't imagine them marching up and demanding you should change.

scurryfunge Thu 06-Feb-14 16:48:27

Just email them back saying you will wear an alternative but wear yours anyway-what will they do?

DustyBaubles Thu 06-Feb-14 16:48:53

Oh, that dress isn't to 'bridal' at all! You'll easily get away with it.

Ktay Thu 06-Feb-14 16:49:06

What! That's a lovely dress but hardly a meringue. I'm sure you've thought of this but are there any decent alternatives you can take your custom to?

GinSoakedMisery Thu 06-Feb-14 16:49:10

Could you not put a brightly coloured flower brooch on the dress, make it less wedding dress like?

It is a beautiful dress.

ViviPru Thu 06-Feb-14 16:49:12

YANBU What a tasteful dress and ostensibly bridal my arse. I'd cancel and go elsewhere.

PrebendsBridge Thu 06-Feb-14 16:49:20

It's not a wedding dress. It's a cream sheath dress. I wanted the whole 50's classic type wedding..elegant little dress and just simple drinks and a meal afterwards.

Didn't reckon on the bridezilla policy.

MorrisZapp Thu 06-Feb-14 16:49:26

Cory lots of brides don't want to have other brides around on the day, usually get a sympathetic response on here.

DPotter Thu 06-Feb-14 16:49:35

I assume given the weather you'll walk into the hotel wearing a jacket / coat which will cover the dress so no one will really see it until you sit down at the table and slip the sleeves off. once your sitting down no one will be able to tell what style of dress you're wearing. Go for it - brazen it out and have a fantastic day!

HavantGuard Thu 06-Feb-14 16:49:36

Get a refund. Book another hotel. Gag your DH and stop mentioning the word wedding.

PsychicPaper Thu 06-Feb-14 16:49:51

Its a beautiful dress

Ask them is they can provide your meal in a private dining room as a goodwill gesture?

WooWooOwl Thu 06-Feb-14 16:50:06

I think it's a fair policy tbh. If your dress really isn't at all bridal then they won't be able to tell anyway, but if you are planning on looking like a bride, even a very simply dressed bride, then I think you have to accept it graciously.

People pay a lot of money to have a venue where they will be the only wedding party, and if that's something important enough to someone to pay for, then the venue would be really out of order to allow another bride in for dinner.

JunoMacGuff Thu 06-Feb-14 16:50:15

First of all, if you are 4 people coming for dinner, they can't tell you what colour of dress to wear. Bollocks.

Their policy is ridiculous, if they are genuinely going to enforce this, cancel.

PickleSarnie Thu 06-Feb-14 16:50:27

On what planet is that dress too bridal?! It's gorgeous but it's nothing like a typical wedding dress in any way other than colour.

Do you really want to spend the night at a hotel run by such muppets?! Is there anywhere else you can go instead?

eurochick Thu 06-Feb-14 16:50:31

It's not an obviously weddingy dress - wear it with pride! It's lovely. Do they even know that your dinner is a wedding dinner?

They can't ban all dinner guests wearing white/cream!

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