to think its over?

(27 Posts)
ahabswhale Wed 29-Jan-14 21:18:08

My partner and I can work 10 hour days, We can both be tired, stressed, sore, and overworked by the end of the day. I like to set aside everything and be intimate with her. Unfortunately, she doesn't have the same ideas. She's too tired, or too sore, or just "not in the mood." We are looking to be married in the near future, but i am finding this a strain. We are in our late 30's. We should still have a decent sexual drive. It's frustrating to me that she isn't on the same page as me when it comes to sex.

It's my main argument in our relationship. I can't understand how six or seven days wait weeks can go by, and sex just never happens. No woman wants to always take the initiative all the time but come on just once would be nice... If I didn't speak up, I'm sure a year could just pass by without any intimacy at all. I would be happiest with intimate contact every day of the week, but I've tried to compromise to every other day. But even that doesn't occur without a reminder. Too which even I am getting fed up with getting knocked back.

It is getting to the point where I am flirting with other people. This isn't a good sign. I know that. I love her. I do but what can be down now? It has got to a position where I'm not bothering until she does, so we are not.

Yes this sounds strange, and I bet a lot of you think well it must be you, you must be an arse! But I mean it it has been months since we have done anything. I don't want to break up, but it's like we're friends rather then lovers.

Say what you wish too but would really like some advice.

foreverondiet Wed 29-Jan-14 23:28:16

I think working long hours and resultant stress takes a massive toll on sex drive. I think also that every second night is quite a lot if she is working long hours. I think you need to discuss - because it would only get harder with kids thrown into the mix.

I think need to schedule time in for it, and with no kids lazy saturday or sunday morning in bed as a starting point?

Ledkr Wed 29-Jan-14 23:34:00

Still not getting the "sore" thing.
I used to teach dance all day but wasn't constantly sore as my body was used to it.
Manual workers aren't all in constant pain.
Sorry, bit irrelevant but I'm drawn to that for some reason

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