To think they should give her a bloody peg!!

(50 Posts)
curiousgeorgie Wed 29-Jan-14 09:05:51

My DD (3) had a terrible experience at a preschool, and we had to remove her. It knocked her confidence horribly and it's taken months for her to get back to herself.

Now she's going to a nursery attached to a school and started at the beginning of this month...

Every morning the whole school are obviously there and it's really intimidating, and every child knows exactly where to go and what to do but they still haven't given her a peg for her coat and bag so when we arrive we have to wait for everyone to finish, jostling about, and her getting increasingly tearful as we wait ( and I know any second she's going to refuse to stay ) and then we walk around to find a spare one.

I've asked every single day for her to have a peg, it's causing my DD serious anxiety...

Today she stood there while 'big children' ran about and just refused to go in after 5 minutes of this.

I know this is about a peg so seems ridiculous! But I'm so pissed off about it, I feel ridiculous that I ask them every morning!! But they still haven't done it!!

Joysmum Wed 29-Jan-14 09:09:03

I would be past the stage of asking politely.

That is the first thing I do with any child at nursery or primary. Show them "their space and if in primary, "their" tray.
It helps settle them and isn't hard to do.

That's ridiculous - they're making things unnecessarily stressful for your daughter and she's only 3 fgs.

I'd ring the head and say that you've asked on numerous occasions and nothings been done and its causing undue anxiety to your DD and its important to you, given the previous situation, that she settles in happily.

Also, I would be waiting around until it got sorted, TODAY. It has gone on long enough.

Panzee Wed 29-Jan-14 09:14:02

It's not ridiculous, it's important. Everyone needs something of their own.

How confident are you about claiming a peg yourself? You could make a name label and attach it to a peg you know gets left. If they query it, just say you thought you'd save them a job.

edwinbear Wed 29-Jan-14 09:14:42

It's not just a peg though, is it. It's about making her feel included and a valued member of the community. I had a similar problem when my dd started nursery and it wound me up disproportinatly as well. Can you print off her name and glue it to a peg yourself? Just to make the point?

I think you misread my comment, Pan.

SupSlick Wed 29-Jan-14 09:17:30

That's ridiculous, imagine going into an office everyday & not getting your own desk - you'd feel like you didn't belong, were in the way & were quite unimportant.
Your poor DD! Maybe go above the teacher?
Don't feel like you're over reacting, I'd want the same.

pasbeaucoupdegendarme Wed 29-Jan-14 09:18:44

Quote "Every Child Matters" at them. They're not making your daughter feel that she matters, which is horrible. Poor thing sad

Panzee Wed 29-Jan-14 09:18:47

I've just reread yours, I hadn't noticed your "ridiculous" sorry! I was responding to the OP's "ridiculous" (confused? I am!)

UriGeller Wed 29-Jan-14 09:19:14

Poor thing, no wonder she doesn't feel part of it.

I definitely second Panzees suggestion of making a name label with her, put her favourite picture on, and claim a peg. Or you could take it in and show the teachers how proud your dd is that shes made her own peg label. Lay it on thick. Give them a guilt trip.

diddl Wed 29-Jan-14 09:19:46

I was just thinking the same as dream-if they know which are their pegs, isn't it obvious which aren't in use?

Ladyfarquhar Wed 29-Jan-14 09:19:46

When you pick her up, hold back until everyone else is gone and speak to the teacher when they have no other children to deal with. Just insist it is done then and there before you have another morning of stress, poor little darling. It is important.

gimcrack Wed 29-Jan-14 09:20:17

Put it in writing to the teacher and copy in the head. That will get a result.

HeadfirstThroughTheTimeVortex Wed 29-Jan-14 09:21:12

It's not just a peg, it's part of integrating a child into the nursery and making them feel part of the group.

Every time one of mine have started Nursery/school the first thing they have been shown is their peg with their name on. It may seem small but it's so important to them.

TheNightIsDark Wed 29-Jan-14 09:22:34

Quote every child matters and refer them to the EYFS and building positive relationships.

Ours all have pegs before they start. I would phone up and ask what's going on

moldingsunbeams Wed 29-Jan-14 09:23:06

Yanbu.
They did this with dd when she moved in reception, dd started to get more and more distressed as the weeks went past.

In the end dd wet herself in the cloakroom because she got so worked up and I spoke to learning mentor who said it was a ridiculous over reaction on dds part.

I've worked in schools, I know they are busy but literally two seconds to write a name on a sticker or print it off or ask a ta to do it.

Floggingmolly Wed 29-Jan-14 09:23:57

If you've identified the "spare" peg already; just go straight to it tomorrow?? confused

Panzee Wed 29-Jan-14 09:24:26

I would never be too busy to get a peg for a child in my class. Your poor daughter. sad

lougle Wed 29-Jan-14 09:44:18

When DD2 changed schools suddenly, her teacher had from 4pm the night before as notice. She stayed behind to make sure DD2 had name labels on all of her books, her tray, etc., so that the next morning at 9am, DD2 would be 'one of the class'.

Floggingmolly I think she means there isn't actually a 'spare' one they have to wait and see who isn't in and use theirs for the day.

At my dc's school I've seen them showing new (late starting) children around at nursery (on a sort of pre-visit, 1 hour settling in session) and usually they'll show them the cloakroom and say where they'll be putting a peg for them and it's done after school so the child has a peg when they start.

curiousgeorgie Wed 29-Jan-14 10:35:28

Yes, all the pegs have names.. So I wait until the children are all done and use one that's empty for a child that doesn't come that day / isn't there... Then tell the teacher where I've put her coat & bag for when they need them..

'She still doesn't seem to have a peg, so I've put it on X's... Can she have a peg for tomorrow?'

Always, 'yes, I'll do it today.'

Then it just happens again. When I pick her up my DD2 is usually napping in the pram so I can't hang around inside because you can't bring prams in.

girlwhowearsglasses Wed 29-Jan-14 10:40:45

OMG, ring the head or deputy now - or head of early years at very least.. I think its time to escalate up a level...

notso Wed 29-Jan-14 10:55:08

Not that I am excusing them, but when I worked in a school nursery we needed extra pegs and we had to wait a week for a man from the council to come and risk assess where they were going to be put, and when was best to do it then wait another week for someone to come and do it.

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