I used to get on with him, but then i married DH and i got to see the real nature of my FIL. DH has agreed in the past that he's a pain and after alot of arguments, agreed to not encourage him to move near us.
We have 3 SN kids and we really struggle with them, so don't need anymore hassle. Here are some of the reasons why i went off him:-
- FIL has not worked since he was 30 something as he couldn't be bothered (DH's words not mine). So DH got into habit of rescuing FIL, leaving me to subsidise us. e.g. he bought FIL a car (cos FIL doesn't do public transport?!!?!) and left me to buy the family car.
- He asked DH for the keys to MY house (DH had a different house at the time), so he could 'look after' it whilst we were away. He just wanted to doss there. DH pointed out that my parents would be 'looking after' my house so no need for him to have a key.
- He then had an expectation of us lending him MY car whilst he was between cars (cos he doesn't do public transport!)
- He refused to get on a train to go and pick up his new car bought by his son (cos he doesn't do public transport). He expected us to 4 hour round trip to take him there and back. We had a 1 month old baby!
- He told me that the man of the house should make all the decisions (after recently being a guest in MY house for weeks and eating food that i'd bought and paid for).
- He's completely lazy and expects to be waited on (eg. asked me to go make a sandwich for him 2 days after i had a csect and had hardly any sleep).
- turns up without warning, even when you've asked him not to come on a particular day, and then whistles at us to make him a cup of tea.
- The worst thing is he tried it on with my Mum who is in a relationship. She was not interested and was mortified, and now feels very uncomfortable around him. He's still too hands on with her despite being told to keep his distance.