To wonder what the school will make of this.

(42 Posts)
LadyPenny Tue 21-Jan-14 19:16:21

Our school has a Facebook page which staff and parents use to communicate.
I've just seen a post from a mum which says
"I'm just letting you know that Harry has lost his lunch box again. I'm fed up of this happening so have given him a choice. He can go and find it or have no lunch tomorrow. He has chosen to have no lunch so I wlll not be sending one in. Please do not give him a school dinner as I will not pay for it".
Surely sending him in with his lunch in a carrier bag and making him use pocket money to replace the lunch box would be a better option. Or am I too soft.
Primary school if that makes any difference.

If Harry is Y5/Y6 it will not kill him to go without lunch (DD2 frequently ate only 40% of hers)

Bit mean to put it on FB though.

What I needed was a effective punishment for leaving jumpers scattered round school and important letters in your draw.

I eventually went in and rounded up about five jumpers (she managed to loose all her own and several to big hand me downs she found of her sister's)

SaucyJack Tue 21-Jan-14 21:09:40

They should Saucy but the school still can't let him go without if he hasn't done.

No I know- more's the pity tho shock

Depending on his age, Harry may or may not not be a lippy, irresponsible little gobpoo* who could do with a good lesson in taking care of himself.

*I should know. I have one of these myself.

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 21-Jan-14 21:02:25

I'm having a stupid moment, missed that bit blush

But it would have been very very funny if it was sixth form

bellasuewow Tue 21-Jan-14 21:00:14

It is really concerning and quite cruel to use witholding food as a punishment I hope the school deal with her appropriately.

mrspremise Tue 21-Jan-14 20:57:06

Manybschools will contact SS if no lunch is provided by the parents/guardians and payment is refused for school dinners. Just FYI...

Chippednailvarnish Tue 21-Jan-14 20:55:12

As Nonno said, if Harry is 6ft 2", 18 stone and 17 years old he's only got himself to blame grin.

DoJo Tue 21-Jan-14 20:52:23

It sounds as though she made a threat without really thinking it through, not expecting her son to take the no lunch option, or he goaded her by saying 'Fine - I'll have a school dinner instead' and she had to do something.
Not justifying it, or saying she was right, but I can kind of see how she might have backed herself into a corner and attempted to follow through in frustration. However, hopefully the fact that the message has now gone means that she has thought of a more appropriate punishment for lunchbox-losing Harry and he will be suffering on a full stomach at least.

LynetteScavo Tue 21-Jan-14 20:51:17

And DS ate very little of his packed lunch...infact eventually he stopped eating any at all. Not even crisps or kitkat. The schools line was "We can't force him if he doesn't want to" They could have encouraged him, though, rather than letting him go straight out to play football. He now has school dinners.

LynetteScavo Tue 21-Jan-14 20:49:03

I bet she caves in. I can see how a mum could get furious and have a rant, then give in and send in lunch in a plastic bag.

(DS lost 5, yes 5 lunch boxes in one term before I just stopped bothering with lunch boxes, and went with a plastic bag)

Floggingmolly Tue 21-Jan-14 20:47:17

She posted that on a Facebook page accessible by the entire school; both staff and parents? hmm. I hope she removed it because the HT gave her a bollocking and insisted she did.

NonnoMum Tue 21-Jan-14 20:45:37

Is Harry 5 or 15? Makes a difference...

Domus Tue 21-Jan-14 20:44:26

They should Saucy but the school still can't let him go without if he hasn't done.

NewtRipley Tue 21-Jan-14 20:43:40

The staff would never agree to it.

NewtRipley Tue 21-Jan-14 20:43:11

Ah, I see she thought better of it. Probably in a rage when she posted

Hulababy Tue 21-Jan-14 20:43:04

Regardless saucyjack - I can't imagine any primary school, nor any teacher/staff, knowingly allow a child to go without lunch whilst in their care. Regardless of what they parent says.

SaucyJack Tue 21-Jan-14 20:41:23

Our primary school goes all the way up to age 11- and a child of that age should be more than capable of either taking better care of their possessions or making their own bloody sandwich.

NewtRipley Tue 21-Jan-14 20:39:53

It's not the forum I'd choose to communicate this to the rest of the school - it's disrespectful to Harry.
I'm all for logical consequences, but yes, paying for his meal, or the lunchbox, would be a better one.

She doesn't seem to have good judgment. or maybe she posted that before thinking

FunkyBoldRibena Tue 21-Jan-14 20:35:04

It depends primary secondary or sixth form?

It's in the OP that it's primary.

ToffeeOwnsTheSausage Tue 21-Jan-14 20:34:37

What is she planning on doing the next day or is he not getting lunch any more?

Hulababy Tue 21-Jan-14 20:31:28

Sockreturningpixie - OP syas primary.

It wouldn't be allowed at our school. We are infants , but our linked junior would be same. Child asked every morning what their lunch option is - meat, veggie or packed lunch. If a child had no packed lunch and told us this we would first call parents. Normally, if no contact and they didn't being lunch in, we would then just feed the child and bill the parent later.

And failing all that - one of us would just go and buy the poor child some food out of our pocket. We would not sit and let a child go hungry at lunchtime.

TBH even when I worked as a secondary school teacher I wouldn't have knowingly let a child go without lunch then either, even if it had to be funded from my own pocket.

OpalQuartz Tue 21-Jan-14 20:30:16

What sort of mum would be OK with their child being hungry at school?!
^
This

Domus Tue 21-Jan-14 20:21:55

at our school she would get a call to explain the error of her ways and if she didn't either provide lunch or agree to pay for one, child services would be advised.

MidniteScribbler Tue 21-Jan-14 20:08:37

Why does she assume that teachers would check the facebook page anyway? They're usually there for the school to put up some feel good pictures or reminders about upcoming events, not for communicating with staff.

And secondly, sending a child to school without lunch would be grounds for a chat about child welfare and if it continued we'd be required to report it to child services.

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 21-Jan-14 20:07:18

It depends primary secondary or sixth form?

AwfulMaureen Tue 21-Jan-14 20:05:00

I am SO glad my children's school doesn't have a page on FB! I think social media and schools don't mix and this illustrates one of the reasons why!

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