What presents/money amount you received for your wedding?

(125 Posts)
busylizzy12 Mon 20-Jan-14 16:15:53

Excatly that, really. If you don't mind?....

Bearbehind Mon 20-Jan-14 16:18:06

Are you getting married soon OP? If you are and you are going to ask for money/ presents I hope you fluff it up a bit better than your post ! grin

YouTheCat Mon 20-Jan-14 16:19:26

3 toasters, some towels, a linen basket and an electric can opener. grin

HappyMummyOfOne Mon 20-Jan-14 16:20:49

Charming post, isn't the wedding supposed to be about the joining of man and wife rather than figuring out what you can get out of people?

Unexpected Mon 20-Jan-14 16:21:00

Is there a particular reason you want to know what gifts other people received for their wedding?

busylizzy12 Mon 20-Jan-14 16:21:01

Ha, no no - already married. I put it in AIBU simply because I got to thinking about the issue after having a conversation with an extremely ungrateful bridezilla type. I won't bore you.

WaveySky Mon 20-Jan-14 16:21:15

None. We asked people not to as our wedding was abroad for most (we live out of the UK) and quite a few people were traveling so having them there was enough.

katienana Mon 20-Jan-14 16:23:37

Gifts ranging from value of £20-£300. Some people gave cash/cheques, about £100 average. I think we had about £700 cash plus all the stuff off the gift list (food processor, kettle, toaster, glasses, clock, casserole dish, photo frames, bedding, various small kitchen items like baking trays, bowls etc). I used some of the cash to buy the full dinner service which no one touched on the list.

Unexpected Mon 20-Jan-14 16:25:00

Well I got married 20+ years ago - big, traditional wedding with about 120 guests. We got amazingly generous gifts - money (as we lived abroad at the time), saucepans, knives and other kitchen stuff, crystal and Wedgewood dinner service, towels and lots of other stuff like a cheese board, ice bucket, photo frames etc - no toaster though!

Twinkletron Mon 20-Jan-14 16:25:46

We got given about £1500 in total which totally shocked us!!

loveulotslikejellytots Mon 20-Jan-14 16:26:08

We got £2000 in holiday vouchers and cash. We wereshockshockshockshock as we'd not asked for anything in the invitations etc. we paid for our honeymoon with it.

DH's work colleagues accounted for a large chunk, he works with 20 odd guys who all clubbed together and his boss gave us £500.

I'm also the only Grandaughter on my Dads side and my GP's gave us £250. We were very shocked.

loveulotslikejellytots Mon 20-Jan-14 16:28:00

Sorry, that also included vouchers for shops too e.g. Debenhams etc. surprisingly we didn't get one 'present' as such (toaster etc).

randomAXEofkindness Mon 20-Jan-14 16:30:42

We got £50 off my brother. And a potted plant off PIL.

Ya bunch of jammie bastards grin

AdmiralData Mon 20-Jan-14 16:31:15

Roughly £600 cash. A Breville toasted sandwich machine. Photo frames. A china horse shoe. Chocolate bars with our names and wedding date on. Matching teatowels and oven mitts. A Yankee 'Wedding Day' candle. A new set of cutlery.

Would have given all that just to have my family not act like a bunch of twats.

For what it's worth we didn't expect any gifts and were gobsmacked and very grateful.

twinkletoedelephant Mon 20-Jan-14 16:32:19

We were already living together so didn't 'ask' for gifts we know some family were really struggling.... We went on honeymoon to Kenya some lovely family members paid for ' activities' to do when we were out there.... A few aunts and cousins grouped together to get us a balloon ride which was amazing. Some upgraded our dinner from buffet to the grill restraunt etc... Or a day out dolphin watching

One of my aunts couldn't get past the no presents idea and bought us a knife block and bread bowl..... I use them daily smile

newestbridearound Mon 20-Jan-14 16:34:09

We got about 2700 in cash and vouchers- I was shock at that as we didn't include gift lists or poems, in fact I wrote we didn't want anything in the invites just their company. Having been bed bound for a couple of years prior I genuinely meant it too.
1000 was all from one elderly relative though, who wanted to give us something to set up home with. Sadly she passed away very soon after so we used some of it to buy a canvas with our photo on smile We used the rest to redo our kitchen and gave some to charity. Still have some left in savings for the future.

Osmiornica Mon 20-Jan-14 16:34:45

We had a charity wedding list so had a few goats, a few chickens and some school supplies amongs many others but probably not what you're after (why are you asking?)

We had a few gifts of cash that were very generous and a bit embarrassing. DH's cousin gave us £100 and then got married a couple of years later so we felt beholden to give her the same when normally we wouldn't spend anywhere near that.

We went to a wedding recently complete with cash requesting poem. We gave them vouchers for a restaurant we know they like. I hate giving cash.

ApocalypseThen Mon 20-Jan-14 16:35:21

We got money, mainly, around 2k each, shockingly generous. We also got lots of tea light holders, lots if glasses, canteen of cutlery, photo frames, tea set...

firesidechat Mon 20-Jan-14 16:35:59

I got married nearly 30 years ago at a time when most couples were setting up home together when they married. We received anything from a tea towel to a toaster.

If you're asking how much is appropriate to spend on a wedding present now, I would spend approx. £60 for a close friend or relative if I was invited to the whole do. Maybe slightly less if I was just an evening guest. Saying that we've been invited to the evening do of close friend's children twice (we knew the bride and groom very well too) and still spent about £60. Both couples were in fact setting up their first homes and we were very fond of them, so I felt inclined to be generous.

FairytaleOfNY Mon 20-Jan-14 16:38:50

We had a charity wedding list so had a few goats, a few chickens and some school supplies
^^
This - although we were also given one set of pots and pans grin

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Mon 20-Jan-14 16:40:35

When we got married the gifts ranged from a bottle of bucks Fizz to a lawn mower. We got mostly bottles of wine, photo frames and a few vouchers for DIY stores.

YouTheCat Mon 20-Jan-14 16:45:01

Oh yes, about 10 whisky glasses and a set of 4 sherry glasses.

I have one sherry glass left and the ex kept the whisky glasses.

Pigsmummy Mon 20-Jan-14 16:47:19

About £5K in cash in various currency. £450 in Thomas cook vouchers, beautiful crockery, linen and lots of picture frames. Champagne too.

SlightlyDampWellies Mon 20-Jan-14 16:48:46

Please bore us with the bridezilla story! I love them.

We did not ask for presents, but suggested if people really wanted to give us some, then please could they be rose bushes. We got a lot of rose bushes- about 7, plus some organic fertiliser. smile (The dog ate that though and was sick).

Then we got some lovely cut glass vases, and a most amazing gift of £5k from DH's aunt. We were overwhelmed.

DH;s parents said they already shelled out for his first wedding and whatever DH retained in the divorce could be for us. grin That sounds pretty brutal, but I get on great with them and it was very pragmatic I thought!

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