I love my older sister but our relationship is being ruined by the fact I don't get on with her husband. They've been together about 5 years. He's moody, racist, homophobic and a misogynist. To the outside world my sister presents an image of marital bliss but I think the reality is different. I suspect she walks on eggshells with him and that he's an emotional bully to her. Our mother hates him and our other sister thinks he's a shady porn addict.
Anyway, I've suffered him till now, always trying to be polite and not rock the boat. He comes to my house with my sister when they visit and chats with my husband but totally ignores me. At Christmas he said nothing to me, not hello or goodbye or anything, except to pipe up and say if I die he'd rather put my two small children in to care rather than look after them with my sister. I laughed it off as a joke.
Yesterday my sister messaged me to say they were coming over at the weekend. I asked her if we could visit her instead, as that way I can choose a time when he won't be there. This fell on deaf ears so I tried to say in the most diplomatic way possible that she should leave her husband at home. Eventually I had to admit that I'm not happy with him after the way he treated me at Christmas... then it all blew up in my face.
At 11pm last night I got a phone call from my little sister to tell me that big sister and her husband were having a massive barney and that he'd packed a bag and was leaving. Whaaaat? Now I'm to blame for this apparently. I'm angry with how this has all been blown out of all proportion and I'm being blamed for her fragile house of cards marriage. Ifeel sorry for my sister who was reduced to a snivelling wreck by his behaviour but I don't see why I should take the rap. What should I do now? Help!
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monalisa28 · 20/01/2014 14:48
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