To tell my friend her daughter has taken drugs?

(84 Posts)
teenmum3 Mon 20-Jan-14 13:30:03

A friends DD has told my DD she took a drug called Molly at the weekend. I have not heard of this drug before apparently it was taken in powder form wrapped in paper and swallowed.
I don't want to betray my DDs trust but equally I would not forgive myself if something happened to my friends DD.
What should I do?

LiberalLibertine Mon 20-Jan-14 13:32:37

Could be MDMA. However, it could also be anything if its in powder form. Are you close friends?

Flumpyflumps Mon 20-Jan-14 13:34:17

Yep it's mdma called Molly or Mandy

teenmum3 Mon 20-Jan-14 13:37:09

Yes its MDMA I just googled it. Its my best friends daughter.

gamerchick Mon 20-Jan-14 13:39:58

Yes you need to tell her. It'll help when she's In hospital after taking dodgy mcat.

Drugs are cut with some really unsafe shit these days.. its scary.

ophiotaurus Mon 20-Jan-14 13:41:23

Yes you should tell her. If something happened to her daughter and you knew about it, you would never forgive yourself for not speaking up.

ScarletButterfly Mon 20-Jan-14 13:41:53

Tell her. Explain to your daughter that you were sorry for breaking a trust but, a she probably knows, drugs are extremely dangerous and one bad anything has the potential for serious consequences. Don't forget to add that drugs like that are often cut with talc and cement powder amongst other things that come with massive implications of their own. Also explain that you told out of sheer concern for her friend (and yours). If someone knew something like this about my daughter, I'd want to know.

DollyHouse Mon 20-Jan-14 13:42:02

How old are the dds?

Idespair Mon 20-Jan-14 13:42:39

Tell her. But beforehand you need to square it with your dd somehow. This girl could end up in hospital or even dead.

lifesgreatquestions Mon 20-Jan-14 13:42:55

As the adult safety and responsibility trump secret keeping and trust, I'm this case this girl can trust you have her best interest in mind.

thornrose Mon 20-Jan-14 13:44:48

I think the fact your dd told you suggests she might want you to act on it! Maybe?

If it was my dd I'd want to know.

Xfirefly Mon 20-Jan-14 13:46:16

I'd say something. The daughter may get seriously pissed off but at least you've spoken up. how would you feel if she ended up in hospital, or even dead, knowing what you do and not speaking up?

Also, if I was your daughter who had taken the drugs and your friend knew, would you want her to tell you?

Xfirefly Mon 20-Jan-14 13:47:17

meant to say if it was your daughter....

teenmum3 Mon 20-Jan-14 13:47:49

Dollyhouse, they are only 16!!
I told my DD to talk to her and tell her not to do it again. My friends DD said it was fine as she knew the dealer !! this is the level of stupidity we are dealing with. Thank god my DD is sensible and told her dealers will say anything to sell their drugs.
I want to tell my friend but its so hard.

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 20-Jan-14 13:48:21

Yes you have to say something. It takes one bad pill ....

How scary for your dd, she did a brave thing telling you and if it was my dd, I'd want to know. It could save her life , of they can't stop her at least the mum can tell medical staff what she took.

Good luck thanks

ballstoit Mon 20-Jan-14 13:48:27

Agree with Thornrose, if she's told you, she wants you to take action.

Worth ringing Talk to Frank or another service who can talk through telling you friend and give you some facts about MCAT first.

LiberalLibertine Mon 20-Jan-14 13:49:00

That's what I thought thorn your daughter must be concerned to tell you I never told my mum anything so explain that you have a responsibility to your friend and hers. Good luck

jeee Mon 20-Jan-14 13:49:00

I tend to believe that if your DD has told you about this, she wants you to take action. Whatever she says to the contrary.

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici Mon 20-Jan-14 13:49:01

It'd be harder if you had to tell your friend that you knew her dead daughter had been taking drugs.

You need to call her.

LiberalLibertine Mon 20-Jan-14 13:51:20

Mcat isn't mdma.

NigellasDealer Mon 20-Jan-14 13:52:35

"My friends DD said it was fine as she knew the dealer"
oh yah i have heard some nonsense like that from my son; he tells me that other people who do mcat etc told him this when he started ranting to them about rat poison, jif and headache pills (that's my boy, so far so good, fingers crossed) - it is truly scary.
also OP small time dealers at the bottom of the food chain have no idea what is in their stuff either. I call them 'bottom feeders'.
yes tell the mum, not that that will stop her though.

Alifelivedforwards Mon 20-Jan-14 13:52:37

You are in a difficult situation.

I would tell your best friend's daugther that you know, talk to her, be supportive, listen but definitely tell her either you are going to tell her mum or she must or both of you could together.

Try not to treat it like a big crime or make a massive to do of it as remember kids think it's perfectly normal and parents are old farts who panic about everything.

Good luck x

Tell her.

ApprenticeViper Mon 20-Jan-14 13:54:02

I would definitely tell your friend. Her daughter's health is more important than keeping your DD's confidence. I know that when I was 16, I wouldn't have told my parents a damn thing unless I wanted them to do something about it - perhaps this applies to your DD too?

Is your DD the only one who knows that her friend took the drugs? If not, it wouldn't necessarily mean that you were traceable as the source of who told her DM.

NotAQueef Mon 20-Jan-14 13:57:22

ballstoit for info MCAT is not the same as MDMA/Molly.

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