Unwilling to "share" medication with DH

(103 Posts)
PMDD Mon 20-Jan-14 12:14:30

DH and I are on antidepressants, Sertraline (sp?). I am on 50mg a day and DH is on 200mg. My prescription is for a packet that contains 1 pill a day. DH prescription is a packet that is a double dose and he has to take 2 pills a day - therefore the equivalent of 4 of my pills a day.

Normally we keep our renewal prescription in the bathroom cabinet next to each others, so when I renew my medication, I renew DH too. For the last few months I pop both the pescriptions into the drs and 2 working days later the chemist has it ready to pick up.

This month DH moved his medication and also his form to repeat the prescription but I didn't know where. I told him that I was renewing mine last week but he forgot to give me his repeat form.

This Saturday morning DH said that he had run out of medication and could he take mine instead? I said no because even if I get his renewal form to the drs on Monday morning, the earliest his prescription would be ready would be Tuesday, perhaps even Wednesday. This would mean he would need to have 16 of my pills to cover the 4 days.

I couldn't even 'borrow' back as his individual pills are double my dosage. The drs will start asking questions if I hand in another renewal form 2 weeks early.

He went bananas and said I was selfish. I don't think I was. Was I?

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici Mon 20-Jan-14 12:16:00

Not at all. It is not recommended to share meds.

He can get an emergency prescription so he has pills today. He would just need to organise it.

Mim78 Mon 20-Jan-14 12:16:34

I don't think you were.

Fifyfomum Mon 20-Jan-14 12:17:49

Of course you are being unreasonable. On this high a dose you will find he has serious side effects from not taking his dose.

Share, wait til Wednesday and then just halve some of his back.

mrstigs Mon 20-Jan-14 12:18:14

I dont think yabu at all. He has to take some responsibility for his own meds. Sure, if his were in 50mg tablets and you could have just taken his after then maybe it would have been a considerate thing to do, but like you say, you cant. If he wants to move the perscription and take responsibility for it himself then thats what he should do.

No.

Why did he move his prescription out of the way if he was not prepared to go pick it up and deal with it it himself?

PMDD Mon 20-Jan-14 12:20:00

Fifyformum - I can't have his later because his are too high a dosage for me. He really notices his moods if he doesn't even take his for 2 days so I know why he was freaking out.

selfdestructivelady Mon 20-Jan-14 12:20:55

Not at all u IMO dh once sneakily took one of my sleeping pills and not only slept late for work but was drowsy all day prescriptions are not to be shared.

PMDD Mon 20-Jan-14 12:21:20

He moved his prescription to his work bag, apparently, because he was able to take it just before he left for work. If it was in the bathroom cabinet he would forget in the very early mornings and have to take it when he got home, which he would rather not do.

He can get an emergency script from the GP or 111. YANBU.

promote Mon 20-Jan-14 12:22:52

yanbu he should make sure he has enough pills and renew his in time .

GrandadGrumps Mon 20-Jan-14 12:23:23

You can just break one of his 100mg tablets in half to get your 50mg dose. That's why there's a line in the middle of the tablet.

bigbluebus Mon 20-Jan-14 12:23:35

As you pointed out, the computer system at the DRs will be programmed to make sure you are not over using/over ordering your prescription, so you may have difficulty next time you go to order your tablets if you use them up quicker because your DH has used some of yours. You won't be able to compensate by using your DHs tablets in that situation as his are a higher strength.
He needs to collect an emergency repeat prescription and take it to the chemist himself and tell them he wants to wait whilst his order is made up. If they don't stock it he can try another pharmacy.

puddock Mon 20-Jan-14 12:25:30

I suggest he - not you - phones the GP and arranges for an urgent repeat.
Fiftyformum said HALVE, not have. i.e. cut his in half. If they have a break line, this should be reasonably accurate, if you want to agree to his suggestion. You WNBU to say no though.,

AnaisB Mon 20-Jan-14 12:25:34

Why couldn't you just halve his pills when they are ready?

JenBehavingBadly Mon 20-Jan-14 12:26:39

If he's run out he can go to the pharmacy and they can call his GP and arrange an emergency prescription which means he's covered until the main one is ready. He could go to the GP direct as well as they won't leave someone without meds.

AnaisB Mon 20-Jan-14 12:26:54

x posts re the halving.

MadOldFeminist Mon 20-Jan-14 12:33:31

I imagine halving a tablet isn't an option as they are probably capsules. Hwr, my daughter and I are both on thyroxine ( as we both have had thyroidectomies), and we just tend to fill our containers from the same packet, rather than have two open. Tbh, if it's the same drug, I would share, and if it's going to be a huge issue at the GP I would just put a note on the form saying I'd lost a strip.

Blatherskite Mon 20-Jan-14 12:35:27

Every antidepressant I've ever taken has been a powder in a hollow capsule which would be impossible to halve.

It's a tough one. On the one hand, he's going to seriously crash going from 200mg to nothing for 3 days and could have physical as well as psychological issues but on the other hand, you can't top up your missing pills with his when he gets some as he has a higher dose. I think ringing the docs for an emergency script is the only option.

MammaTJ Mon 20-Jan-14 12:35:59

Not all pills are able to be halved, so it is not as simple as that. Also, there is always going to (minimal) loss when cutting a tablet in half.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 20-Jan-14 12:38:44

These tablets come in capsules,hard smartie looking tablets and lined ones.

Only one of those shoud be halved

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Mon 20-Jan-14 12:45:23

Tell him to ring the GP for an emergency prescription. My GP has a 48 hour wait for prescriptions usually, however if you ring and say it is urgent they will usually rush it through for you.
You are right not to give him yours.

Leverette Mon 20-Jan-14 12:47:36

YABVU. It's the same drug, prescribed to both of you.

flowery Mon 20-Jan-14 12:50:46

You are right, and there is no reason for him to wait until Wednesday. There are various things he can do to get an emergency prescription. Some chemists will give a small amount as an emergency, or he can just ring the GP for an emergency appointment, or go in there and prostrate himself in front of the receptionists.

Not that I've done all those before, oh no

As much as they have rules about how much time they need to process repeats, they are not actually going to allow someone to go without essential medication for the sake of rules.

Get him to take responsibility for his own repeat requests. Do the GP not do a request online service so you don't need to go in there all the time?

PenelopePipPop Mon 20-Jan-14 12:52:17

I don't think you were selfish. I don't think he was totally unreasonable either (and I don't think you do either from your later posts). The side effects of a sudden withdrawal from a high dose of ADs would be scary for him so he may not have been thinking straight - not good and unfair you got the blame.

I have a good relationship with my GP and in an equivalent situation can imagine calling the practice and saying can I let DH take some of my meds for now and get an early refill of my prescription in a few weeks and that not be a problem. Whilst the system does monitor overuse etc people do lose meds so it does allow some slack. In my case I take a ton of drugs and for various reasons due to consultants wanting to see if we can tweak my regime the points I need refills keep going out of synch so I often refill early/late so as not to have keep going to the pharmacy. No one has ever questioned this even though at times I must look like I'm stockpiling one of my meds for after the apocalypse, whilst being down to next to nothing of another.

Obviously after that you either need a more robust mechanism in place for filling repeats (I know that can be a pain) or make it clear it is completely his job from now on and 'borrowing'your meds was a one off.

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