To get pissed off some days with living with a fussy eater.

(132 Posts)
jimijack Tue 14-Jan-14 19:07:12

DH.

He is perfectly capable of making his own meals but it's nice for us all to sit down and eat the same meal of an evening.

He is rubbing off on ds which pisses me off the most.

He has annoyed me tonight with his fussiness, I could happily tip tomorrow's tea over his head right now.

Frustrating is an understatement.

hoobypickypicky Tue 14-Jan-14 19:18:03

YANBU.

There's one of those in this house.

If they won't eat what's on offer that's tough, I don't cook separately for them. I don't pander to their fussiness. I don't discuss it any more. In this case a lot of it seems to be attention-seeking so I don't feed that either.

I'd feel very resentful if I was cooking separate meals or altering the nature/timing of the family mealtimes to accommodate a fussy eater.

WaffilyVersatile Tue 14-Jan-14 19:19:45

if OH was a fussy eater I would not let him eat with us. Just not worth the headaches of him rubbing off on little ones

StickEmUpBigStyle Tue 14-Jan-14 19:21:27

My dh is a bit fussy and I've. Consigned myself to a life of no chilli
Or mushroom
Or squid.

I could go on

Keeps th food bill down though!

JennyOnAPlate Tue 14-Jan-14 19:22:12

I can't abide adult fussy eaters. It's just so toddlerish!

justgirl Tue 14-Jan-14 19:23:11

I'm a fussy eater :-( definitely not something I feel great about

jimijack Tue 14-Jan-14 19:23:16

Won't eat ANY fruit or veg or salad items.
Unless it's chicken nuggets or spam or chips he won't touch it.

I'm working tomorrow,won't get in till after 6 so I've done a Bolognese to put in the slow cooker tomorrow. I've grated carrot & chopped up a red onion into tiny bits. He looked in it and said "I'm not eating any of that".
Fine, he can sort his own tea out, mine is made & will be lovely.

Twat off twatty.....

JeanSeberg Tue 14-Jan-14 19:24:06

Can you give us some examples op? What does he say when you call him on the fact that your child is starting to copy it?

Mintyy Tue 14-Jan-14 19:25:17

Yanbu. I would be pissed off every single day, every single meal.

Don't know how you can stand it.

Infact, I could never have settled down with a fussy eater. When it is your child you have no choice, but when it is an adult ...

jimijack Tue 14-Jan-14 19:25:20

He cleared his fucking plate last time I made it in the exact same way.
I have to hide all fresh good stuff.

princessalbert Tue 14-Jan-14 19:25:27

Get him to do the cooking!

Sirzy Tue 14-Jan-14 19:26:32

Unless it's chicken nuggets or spam or chips he won't touch it.

Sorry, with an adult being that fussy I would leave him to sort himself. No way would I be catering to such childish levels of fussiness, especially not if its rubbing off on your child.

SinisterSal Tue 14-Jan-14 19:28:04

Twat off twatty is right.

Fussy eaters are irritating (imo) but when they are rude with it they can twat off!

Everyone has a few preferences and pet hates and of course that's perfectly fine and I will accommodate it at home, but when the list of they Won't eat is longer than what they Will they can find someones to cater to them.

CynicalandSmug Tue 14-Jan-14 19:29:43

He can make his own dinner.

jimijack Tue 14-Jan-14 19:29:48

Well ds (10) & dh are very close. They go everywhere together, do loads together. When they go anywhere to eat...usually McDonald's or some such, ds will have what dh has....without salad or veg.

I send a pot of grapes or an Apple with him & insist he eats these before he has any shit.
If dh cooks for them, it's always without veg.
If he makes ds a packed lunch for school, I have to insist he puts fruit in.

SugarMiceInTheRain Tue 14-Jan-14 19:29:57

That would annoy me too. Child fussiness is one thing (and I know all about that, having an ASD child with food texture issues), but adults who are ridiculously fussy wind me right up. My friend's DH won't eat veg (including tiny bits of onion etc chopped up in sauce) - he always asks for no veg/ salad in restaurants and if they serve it up with a salad garnish for example, he sends it back!

volestair Tue 14-Jan-14 19:31:46

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Trapper Tue 14-Jan-14 19:32:16

Wouldn't let them eat with you, really? My wife is a VERY fussy eater and she eats at the table with us. Because, you know, we're a family and that's what families do. Maybe I should consign her to the scullery and rustle up a curry...

WaffilyVersatile Tue 14-Jan-14 19:32:27

He cleared his fucking plate last time I made it in the exact same way.I have to hide all fresh good stuff.

why are you enabling him? hes a grown up. don't leave someone with these issues in charge of providing nutrition for your child but don't hide his fucking veg. Tell him to sort his shit out.

ikeaismylocal Tue 14-Jan-14 19:33:04

My dp was like this when I met him, he would disect every meal and pick out anything that looked like it might have vitamins in it hmm

I refused to ttc until he had dealt with his unhealthy attitude to food, I didn't want to be telling a child they had to try everything on their plate whilst dp ate chips with ketchup on.

Dp did sort out his eating issues and now eats everything apart from raw tomatos.

Sparklymommy Tue 14-Jan-14 19:33:25

We have one in this house sad

If he doesn't eat what I cook it is his own bloody fault if he's hungry!

ShoeWhore Tue 14-Jan-14 19:34:28

Oh ffs. Does he feel ok about giving your dcs the message that it's ok to eat no fruit or veg then? What grown adult willingly eats only spam or chicken nuggets?

I couldn't have married someone like this. (Dh was a bit fussy when I first met him but I educated him)

Sorry that's not v helpful but you are absolutely NBU!

To me, that's less about fussy, and more about rudeness and having bad manners.

Slainte Tue 14-Jan-14 19:39:53

I can't stand this self-indulgent crap from adults, of course they can eat fruit and veg they just choose not to. This is one thing that really gets my goat!

CoffeeTea103 Tue 14-Jan-14 19:40:43

Kids allowed to be fussy grow up into fussy adults.

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