To think hair length does not have anything to do with age?

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Looby12 Tue 14-Jan-14 13:04:17

Two colleagues at work were just talking about hair, colleague 1 (mid 20's with shoulder length hair) said she had a trim before xmas and will be keeping an eye on the length as she wouldn't want to get to "that point", colleague 2 looked confused, colleague 1 said "you know when its that length when you are too old for it and look nice from behind but turn round looking all haggard". Cue embarrassed looks as they both realised I could over hear and I have much longer hair (i'm only aged 35 by the way)

The cheeky bugger, since when can older people not have longer hair???

Would I be unreasonable to say to her its not her hair that is the problem its her face!

jaggythistlez Sat 19-Dec-15 10:21:51

Haha ghosty I was totally confused when I found my own comment on this thread and wondered who had stolen my username.

Then I realised it was almost 2 years ago.

Zombie threads seem to get reanimated so easily! grin

MontyYouTerribleCunt Sat 19-Dec-15 09:42:49

Oh zombie thread; how annoying!

EmmaWoodlouse Sat 19-Dec-15 09:35:14

I am 49 and look it. I alternate between longish (just below shoulder length) hair and a bob. To be honest I prefer a bob as my hair can go a bit too straight for my liking when it's longer, but longer is also more versatile and means I can get it out of the way when it's hot. For all I know people my be surprised when I turned round but they've never mentioned it and it's not something I've ever worried about. I want my hair to suit my tastes and personality, not what some arbitrary rule says suits my age.

Sgtmajormummy Sat 19-Dec-15 09:00:18

Fall for it every time!

diddl Sat 19-Dec-15 08:56:23

Bloody Zombie thread.

Alconleigh Sat 19-Dec-15 08:51:41

I applaud Birdsgottafly as well, this is all good old misogyny. Always that bit sharper when peddled by other women....
I am 39. My hair is a glorious, multi hued, auburn spectacular. And will be staying down to my shoulder blades for as long as I bloody well like.

diddl Sat 19-Dec-15 08:49:03

Have the hair you want!

My best friend & I both always used to say that we'd never have long hair past 30.

We're both now past 50 still with long hair!

I'm not grey yet but one day would love hair like this

Grapeeatingweirdo Sat 19-Dec-15 08:45:34

What a load of bollocks. I love seeing older women with a head of swishy long hair. It depresses me when someone gets to 40 and cuts their hair off because they "should".

I'm 31 and have very thick and dark hair that looks awful short because it literally grows upwards until the length weighs it down.

I also love having long hair and am going to grow it. My mum is 49 and she has very long hair as well.

quirkychick Sat 19-Dec-15 08:39:55

I am 45 and have very thick, curly hair that is bra strap length. Longer hair makes the wild curls more manageable! It is regularly coloured atm, but contemplating going for highlights to blend in the grey/silver. I also have quite a round face, so the length is actually quite flattering! I was told only yesterday, that I don't look my age.

It's great that women aren't expected to look invisible any more. My mil keeps saying you can't have long grey hair... erm, why not?

Loved birdsgottafly's post - absolutely. Good to see all the different styles too. An ageing hair style is one that doesn't suit you.

fieldfare Sat 19-Dec-15 08:28:26

I'm 36, my hair is thick, a little curly, chestnut brown and down past my bra strap. I love my hair.
It's been short and blond, many different colours, my favourite style when young was an inverted bob with the back shaved really close to my head but it was poker straight then and just fell into that style. Having my daughter made it go curly.
Now, it gets cut regularly, I don't heat style it all that often, I colour it every 8 weeks as have quite a few greys shining through and have found a colour really similar to my own. Dh loves it, I love it and I won't be cutting it short for anyone!

WeThreeMythicalKings Sat 19-Dec-15 08:23:33

Times change.

My grandmother (born in Victorian times) told me how proud she was when the time came to wear her hair "up" when she was in her teens.

In the 1920s she bobbed her hair to the consternation of her own mother.

I cut my long hair in my 20s because I felt "too old" for long hair. Never regretted it.

It's great that there are no "rules" any more.

Sgtmajormummy Sat 19-Dec-15 08:19:28

I had a crop all through my teens and into my 20s because I hated my wispy bushy hair and just wanted to ignore it. I didn't even own a hairdryer.

Now technology has caught up with me (Frizz Ease, protein hair masks, straightening perms, GHD and tongs) I've been enjoying my "crowning glory" since the age of 27 and have no intentions of going back.

Maybe that's the reason our mothers and grandmothers went for the chop. Weakening hair could only be disguised by having as little as possible.sad

MontyYouTerribleCunt Sat 19-Dec-15 08:08:42

Yanbu. Utter nonsense. I have short hair cos my hair turns to shite if it gets too long. I wouldn't like straggly, long hair on anyone but that has nothing to do with age.

Janeymoo50 Sat 19-Dec-15 08:07:35

Some "youngsters" in their mid 20's think anyone over 40 is old. That said, I'm forty eleven and do find that with a shorter neater cut I look better than if my hairs grows longer. My face shape has changed in the last decade and once last year when I got a much shorter cut more than one person (from different circles) said it took years off me and looking at photos, I could kind of see what they meant.

P1nkP0ppy Sat 19-Dec-15 08:01:56

I'm silver, over 60 and have short spikey hair, simply because my hair's fine and if I grow it it looks crap. If I had thicker hair I'd definitely grow it's!
Bugger what anyone thinks, there are far more important things to worry about.

TheSpectreOfMorningtonCrescent Sat 19-Dec-15 07:53:22

Oh and it's currently lilac as the silver dye went wonky. I had kids (like, judgemental teens) coming up to me at school saying how lovely it was.
Lass-no.

TheSpectreOfMorningtonCrescent Sat 19-Dec-15 07:49:18

Arse biscuits! As someone said up thread, it's all part of the innate self belief of certain 20 somethings that they know best (yes, I remember making cringeworthy pronouncements) when I was in my teens and 20s I had short hair, culminating in the "Annie Lennox", as I got older I embraced the longer styles, as long as it's well cut and maintained it looks good.
But anyway, here 💩 Is the world's tiniest shit I give about stupid pronouncements telling me what I can do.

Outaboutnowt Sat 19-Dec-15 07:45:45

My mum is in her 60s and has mid back length hair. A few years ago she decided to cut it to a bob as she felt 'too old' for long hair. It didn't suit her and she looked about 10 years older, and she hated it. She's grown it back now and she's happy, that's all that matters.

TheHouseOnTheLane Sat 19-Dec-15 07:34:04

I'm 43 and mine's very thick. VERY thick. It's long because it looks far better when I wear it up in a nice style with a fringe than when it's in a huge fat bob or short which just doesn't work on hair as thick as mine.

BUT I never wear it down in public. I do look witch-like.

something2say Sat 19-Dec-15 07:27:28

Well, I think these posts just about cover it! We just need to get the word out to everyone else.....people can do what they like, alright?!

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes Sat 19-Dec-15 02:16:31

34 here. Poppy Red hair to mid back with a side fringe.

I have memories of my mum having her rather lovely, naturally rich dark brown hair repeatedly hacked to a couple of inches long.

It didn't suit her and made her look 20 years older than she was.

I expect your colleague is the kind of person who says stuff like, "You shouldn't have sex if you're over 50." and "You shouldn't wear jeans if you're over size 10."

Fuck her and her wanky ideas.

SpellBookandCandle Sat 19-Dec-15 02:13:59

I am fifty. Feel blessed to have wild, thick blonde hair down my back. It's sexy. My husband loves it, anyone else can fuck off.

Kryptonite Sat 19-Dec-15 02:10:06

I'm 38, I've always had long hair and your colleagues are talking out of their arse. smile
While it's still blonde, long and naturally poker straight I'm keeping it as it is. smile

LassWiTheDelicateAir Sat 19-Dec-15 01:59:15

I think long hair worn down on anyone over 45 looks terrible unless you happen to bec Patti Smith or Stevie Nicks.

Bollocks to imaginary rules about hair length and age - my mother is 83 and has hair halfway down her back and it's dyed pillar box red, she looks fab! She also has very good skin for her age (very few wrinkles, unlike her 40something daughter sad ). She says she has no choice about getting old and infirm, but if it has to happen she's going as disgracefully as possible.

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