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To think hair length does not have anything to do with age?

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Looby12 Tue 14-Jan-14 13:04:17

Two colleagues at work were just talking about hair, colleague 1 (mid 20's with shoulder length hair) said she had a trim before xmas and will be keeping an eye on the length as she wouldn't want to get to "that point", colleague 2 looked confused, colleague 1 said "you know when its that length when you are too old for it and look nice from behind but turn round looking all haggard". Cue embarrassed looks as they both realised I could over hear and I have much longer hair (i'm only aged 35 by the way)

The cheeky bugger, since when can older people not have longer hair???

Would I be unreasonable to say to her its not her hair that is the problem its her face!

BOFtastic Fri 17-Jan-14 22:03:24

Love the link, Vikkimumsnet grin.

I think the final line is a great idea for a new topic: That Irks Me grin

BOFtastic Fri 17-Jan-14 21:58:16

Oh, I had that too, Witch. My mum would always con me by agreeing that it should be long, "but short at the front"...which translates into a bloody pageboy angry.

WitchWay Fri 17-Jan-14 18:01:43

My mum has been nagging me to cut my hair for years. At first it was "Once you're thirty, you won't be able to keep your long hair", then periodically "When are you going to get your hair cut" "Er it was done last week" "No, I mean short" "Er I'm not". It used to be halfway down my back in my 20s & is now to my shoulders. I'm 48. I did have it very short in my early 40s for a while (while pleased DM no end) but grew it again. DM has always had very short hair. She cut mine short till I was about 6 & people used to think I was a boy confused

Latara Fri 17-Jan-14 17:54:48

I'm 37 and my hair is shoulder-length. I'm trying to grow it longer and wish it was thicker too.

I lost the front part of my hair 2 years ago due to medication and had to wear a wig. NOw I'm so grateful to actually have hair that I definitely won't be having anything other than small trims at the hairdresser.

I get my hair highlighted blonde to stop the grey from showing. I intend never to go grey!

Ah now I get it. Someone said to me last week that I shouldn't be growing my hair as long hair can be so ageing. I'm 41. She's 50 something and has lego-man hair.

I used to be able to sit on my hair and grieved when I got it all cut off on a whim. It's shoulder length now and one day I want to be a little apple-faced granny with long gray hair wrapped round my head in a plait. Come on hair... grow! I'm going to wear purple too. Lots of it. And loads of jangly beads.

CouthyMow Fri 17-Jan-14 17:26:18

I'm 32, and my hair is waist length. I get many comments on how lovely my hair is, and on how young I look ( from the FRONT). Few people believe that I look my age. Was a PITA when I was 17 and trying to pass for 18, bloody love it now though.

Wouldn't be cutting my hair for anyone but me. If I made that decision. I occasionally get it hacked to elbow length, but have not been shorter since a brief chop when I was 18. Was forced to have a bob when young, now I egg to choose how my hair is. Don't give a flying fuck what others think.

My head, my hair, THEIR issue!

VikkiMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 17-Jan-14 17:00:56

Hi OP, we really liked your Q and decided to put it to the Hairy Bikers when they visited MNHQ for a web chat!

wintertimeisfun Thu 16-Jan-14 10:46:48

yay lurcio as i too have very very long hair and have just turned 49. ai am aware how some women have fab hair from the back but when they turn round you get a shock HOWEVER.....does it really matter? no. tbh who gives a fuck what other people really thing. i have always had very long hair and hope to always have long hair. from having it down i would graduate to having it in a bun/tied up. i'm not the sort to be old with short hair and a blue rinse. my hair has thinned however :-( and is going grey, doesn't look as good as it used to but it is me and i have never been dictated to/been a follower of fashion

Custardo Thu 16-Jan-14 08:51:01

i worry about this as my jowls start to sag ( which they are) i think my hair is nice - shame about my face.

dozeydoris Thu 16-Jan-14 08:39:05

Hmm, I was a bit nasty about Diane Keaton, she is certainly making a statement, but I don't like the hair style and severe black, though she seems to be saying 'I'll dress how I like' which is good and possibly a first for awards ceremonies.

ohmymimi Thu 16-Jan-14 01:18:53

Talkie, watch your step, don't trip over it. smile

TalkieToaster Thu 16-Jan-14 01:11:14

Bravo, ohmymini. Excellent points. I read a trashy magazine article that said celebrities in their twenties who have procedures done, often end up looking a polished thirty. I had a point, but I'm a bit tipsy. Please excuse me while I go and braid my inappropriately long hair.

MILLYMOLLYMANDYMAX Thu 16-Jan-14 01:10:13

I am well over 50 and not too sure what this woman would think of me, I have long hair, at the moment dyed deep purple.

ohmymimi Thu 16-Jan-14 01:06:41

I've just seen the critical comments of Dianne Keaton up thread. She looks her age, she has wonderful, thick, grey hair, she hasn't had invasive plastic surgery, had her face pumped full of toxin or filler (contrast with mask faced Priscilla Presley). Bloody good for her It's no crime to show the marks of time. Far too many are now so conditioned by seeing photoshopped pictures and surgery/'procedure' enhanced faces they find the reality of aging unpleasant. Shallow beyond belief.

TalkieToaster Thu 16-Jan-14 00:51:30

I lost all my hair thanks to having cancer.

No fucker is ever, ever going to tell me I can't have my hair the way I want it. It's just about shoulder length now. I'm growing it as long as I can and it's staying that way. I'm 30 this year, so judge away.

PurpleSprout Wed 15-Jan-14 23:50:12

MrsMook DP did pigtails for me tonight as bra strap length hair was unruly and a bit of a pita. Unfortunately he also shared that I 'ought not to go to work like that'. I am 32...albeit I'm a senior programme manager. I'm hoping it's the latter not the former...

MrsMook Wed 15-Jan-14 23:48:31

I'm in my 30s and have hair near my bra strap. Last week I was bored of a baby-friendly ponytail, so went for plaited pigtails. I like to think I still got enough youthful radiance to carry it off. Just don't look too closely at the shaddows under the eyes from the night feeds. grin

I'll keep it in varying states of length as long as it's in good condition, not according to an arbitary age.

I grew it long as a student, partly to save on haircuts, but also not knowing if I'd grow it so long again. I tend to get bored after a while of it being half way down my back and go back to shoulder length for a while every few years.

LyndaCartersBigPants Wed 15-Jan-14 23:29:02

I don't give a fuck about some imaginary rules, but a friend and I who have both recently had our shoulder length hair cut into short bobs both look much younger now.

I'm nearly 40 in my late 30s but went grey in my 20s so I've been dying it for years and will continue to do so, whether long, short or in between and I really don't care if someone thinks my face doesn't match my hair age-wise. Judgey fuckers.

trixymalixy Wed 15-Jan-14 23:25:05

No fugking way am I getting my hair cut short when I reach a "certain age" whatever that might be. I plan to be a chic silver haired old lady with a classic chignon.

I think short hair can make people look older than they actually are.

PurpleSprout Wed 15-Jan-14 23:21:14

random I was 28 (and not an old looking 28) when a hairdresser suggested a chop for my age. I binned her, not just because she suggested it, but because of the way she did 'now you're getting a bit older'... She was younger maybe, but not much (24?) but an absolute state in both hairdo and dress sense.

My own mother was totally bought into the crop at 30+ and no mini-skirts. Oddly now at 60+ she's at me to keep up the minis and the long hair for as long as possible and I'm slightly overweight, so no Jennifer Aniston.

PurpleSprout Wed 15-Jan-14 23:17:21

I think it's a face shape thing. I have a colleague in her late 40s who is absolutely stunning with long hair & she's a gym bunny. Years ago, she bought into the bob thing and didn't look nearly as good. Either way, if a man looks at her from behind (and she does have a fantastic figure), the only disappointment he'll get when she turns round is that she's out of his age range, because she still looks absolutely lovely.

I have long hair and I'm struggling with it because I have lovely hair. Think Merida from Brave. I sort of feel obliged to have it long right now (early 30s) because I feel obliged to have it shorter later even though I know that's irrational and contradicts everything I say above. I'm fairly sure shorter hair is actually better for me, but then I'm a bit overweight, and meh...dunno.

Anyway diversion aside, I think it completely depends on the person. I know a woman who had long grey hair at 40. Her choice, but I'm sure it shocked many. I am dreading going grey and the inevitable maintenance and I can understand why someone who went grey so early (and she started long before that) might opt out. Good dye jobs cost a lot.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Wed 15-Jan-14 19:01:55

I'm nearly 50 and I don't give a tiny shiny shit what people think about my hair/face.
It's great grin
Just pity your colleagues OP.

It really does work both ways. There are plenty of people with long hair who would look better with short hair. Age is less of an issue than what suits you features but sadly lots of people either have strange ideas about what is age appropriate or they simply don't have much of an idea of what suits them and they don't make the best of themselves.

I have shoulder length hair now but I can't go any longer as it is too fine and the weight makes it v flat. I look better with short hair regardless of age.

msvenus Wed 15-Jan-14 18:34:50

I think short hair on some women has an ageing effect. A lady at work cut her hair short as soon as she turned 40 & she now looks 10 years older. It hasn't suited her at all & she now regrets having it cut so dramatically short. Think of Jo Brand's hair whereas when she had mid length hair she looked about 35.

willyoulistentome Wed 15-Jan-14 18:28:05

I cut my long hair a into a bob in my early 40s not because of my face looking old, but because my hair was getting thinner and more brittle. So I was ending up looking witch like with it all fuzzing out of my pony tail. It looks miles better shorter now.

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