to not know what's best for my cat?

(71 Posts)
deadduck Mon 13-Jan-14 21:36:31

I've inherited a lovely 10 year old cat. Basically, he got kicked out of his old home by a friend of my DD, and she volunteered for him to come and live with us. He's been here for a few months, and we love him. He's perfect for us, especially because he's an indoor cat (I would not have any outdoor cats because of proximity to main road). I think he feels happy here despite us being out durning the day(apparently he got bullied by the other pets in his old home) and he likes us too. A lot. He sleeps with me every night and follows me round the house talking to me.
Here's my problem: I would like to go on summer holiday for a fortnight, abroad (I am from abroad, so it's a long-overdue family visit. I did think this through before (I thought) and planned for our lovely bunny sitter, who comes once a day, to feed and water him and chat to him. But now I'm not so sure any more. Is this enough? Would it be better twice a day? Is a cattery better (I am somewhat weary of that option). What do you do? I have no prior experience with cats, and don't think I could afford a house sitter I also never thought I'd get that attached.

LEMmingaround Tue 14-Jan-14 23:16:47

whois - you clearly haven't read slimky malinki wink

LEMmingaround Tue 14-Jan-14 23:14:00

definately leave him home - get someone to pop in a couple of times a day and to make sure he is indoors of a night

whois Tue 14-Jan-14 23:08:38

Yes, wedding, with an outdoor cat...I always figure they've got lots of friends out there

Cars are territorial and solitary. They don't have friends 'out there'!

mrsjay Tue 14-Jan-14 20:01:37

that is how i felt hester but it just wasnt worth the hassle poor cat was just so stressful and because jaycat was an oudoor cat she couldnt obviously go for a wander, I am not judging catteries honestly the one i used was lovely

HesterShaw Tue 14-Jan-14 19:59:32

I'm not judging catteries. My bloody cat is. I would love if she didn't pine and go on hunger strike at a catterym it would make my life way easier.

deadduck Tue 14-Jan-14 19:58:52

hehe, Hester. Up to 20 years, I read..grin

mrsjay Tue 14-Jan-14 19:47:06

I love you have a bunny sitter smile I had my cat in a cattery once she hated it and was very stressed when she got home so we always got our neighbour to do it cat was an outdoorsy cat though but my neighbour or my aunt sometimes would feed her and pet her once or twice a day I think if you pay your bunny sitter grin to cat sit and come round to see your cat 1 or 2 times a day would be better for him imo

Bootycall Tue 14-Jan-14 19:42:08

what's all the Cattery judgyness?

mine go to a fantastic 'holiday home for cats' and come back as spoiled rotten. I also don't worry as I would with someone just popping in.

Lovethesea Tue 14-Jan-14 19:38:26

I agree home too. We did with ours for the first time last summer and they were fine with someone popping in twice a day.

I just remembered they sleep 18 hours a day so it passes quickly anyway!

ComposHat Tue 14-Jan-14 19:38:20

If people cant get in more than once a day. An An automatic feeder might be a good idea.

HesterShaw Tue 14-Jan-14 19:34:30

But yes, the radio is a good idea. A talky station.

HesterShaw Tue 14-Jan-14 19:33:37

God, this is such a dilemma isn't it sad

A cattery for two weeks is a long time. We have used them in the past for a weekend, but alas no more as our total bloody prima donna puss developed a "thing" about them and went on hunger strike and afterwards acted as though she had been maltreated - cowering, yowling, being sick on purpose etc.

She hates catteries. She loathes strangers. She would completely freak out if someone she doesn't know i.e. not me or DH came in to feed her. Stroking? No fucking way! So we have to take her to my parents or his - both 300 miles away - if we go on our holidays. Weekends away, she has to come with us.

She is 11 years old. How long do cats live, again?

ForalltheSaints Tue 14-Jan-14 19:30:55

My parents cat is fed twice a day by neighbours when they are away, and they reciprocate when required. Once a day is not enough in my view.

ComposHat Tue 14-Jan-14 19:26:21

That's okay, our cat went for the fountain in a big way. I managed to confuse her by moving the fountain this morning. She's not the sharpest tool god bless her.

I thought two years of radio 4 would have turned her into a feline genius, but alas not.

deadduck Tue 14-Jan-14 19:06:01

ComposHat, thanks for the pet fountain, that looks ace.

Radio 4 or TV sounds like a great plan, too.

AcheyFanny Tue 14-Jan-14 15:57:46

My Mum just left her three at home for 12 days with a friend going in twice a day. They were fine, she reckons they have no comprehension of time.....

We used a great local cattery a couple of times in the past but found our cats were a bit unforgiving and quiet for a while after.

Meerkatwhiskers Tue 14-Jan-14 15:51:52

Keep him home. We've done both and although my 9 yo never minded the cattery she is a home girl so likes staying at home. She is glad to see us when we get home too. Unusually. We had stroppy cats too lol. Mind you she acts like she hasn't seen you for a week when she has been out the garden 20 mins lol

Oh and go for the 2 weeks. He won't mind wink

ComposHat Tue 14-Jan-14 12:34:27

Good idea frosty I do that when I go out for our cat. She likes Radio 4 Extra the best, lots of talking.

This might be a good idea if you've not got one already:

Pet fountain

So he always has a supply of running water when you are away. It just needs topping up every day or so.

deadduck Tue 14-Jan-14 12:28:13

Thanks all, I feel a lot better now reading through your experiences thanks I will go with the bunny sitter, and trust that he'll be ok, and I'll probably aim for a ten day holiday instead. Having been majorly uprooted once before, I think it's best if he stays home. I have also potentially lined up a friend as a house sitter but he's still deciding if he's allergic to cats or not

He'll be fine at home with regular visits. May be worth putting a radio on a timer so he's got some background chat going on every now and then.....

Stellaface Tue 14-Jan-14 09:18:01

I'm not averse to catteries, had to put my 7month old kitten in one for nearly three weeks at one point, and she was soooo crazy for us when we picked her up, which was actually lovely, felt truly adored smile As she was quite young, she got loads of attention, extra time out of the 'cell', playtime, etc etc. I was utterly traumatised at leaving her and arranged for a friend she knew to go visit her so at least there would be a familiar face... but really not necessary, she was absolutely fine. Thing to remember is that people who choose to work in catteries usually adore cats, so even the grumpiest moggy will get attention!

The only word of caution would be to check and recheck the collection times - we were told we had definitely got an out-of-hours collection arranged so we could bring her home pretty much straight off the plane on a Sat eve, but I got a voicemail whilst away to say that they'd got that wrong and didn't do out-of-hours collections on Saturdays. Aaargh. It was only going to be 6pm, but they shut at 5pm sad so we had to wait til 9am Sun (yes, we were there on the button!) to get her.

If we're only away for short periods (say 2-4 nights) then we get neighbours to pop in and feed her. She isn't really huffy or particularly attentive when we get home after these trips - more 'oh, you're back. I need more food. Now. And why have I not been allowed in the living room for the past three days? This is not on.' Etc smile

ComposHat Tue 14-Jan-14 09:15:04

Another indoor cat owner who votes for letting the cat receive visits twice a day. We haven't left composcat yet, but we have a cast of eager visitors for her to be sniffily indifferent to for when we go away.

Stricnine Tue 14-Jan-14 09:06:11

Definitely keep him at home if you can .. we've two outdoor cats and they used to get put in the cattery but they hated it and 'lost' their territorial rights when they came home. (they have now sorted out a neighbour who looks after them when we go away and they're much happier when we come home)

I appreciate the territorial issue is not such a problem with an indoor cat, but if he's settled and happy at home, don't disrupt this. Cats are not generally social with other cats, so it's you he'll miss either way.. but he'll be less stressed at home.. especially if said visitors can play or chat for a bit!

Stinklebell Tue 14-Jan-14 08:48:29

I've always left mine at home and my neighbour comes in twice a day to feed them

I've used a cattery once when we were moving house, they were there 4 nights and they all found it really stressful. My elderly lady didn't forgive me for ages

KittensoftPuppydog Tue 14-Jan-14 08:44:16

I used to make friends stay at my house...
They didn't mind because I lived in a tourist destination though.

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