request not to buy niece/nephews certain gifts

(52 Posts)
Lissarria Sun 12-Jan-14 20:50:54

went to nieces party, her gift from us was a book. we have now received a message thats worded as if to more people but we get the impression was just for our sole viewing requesting that no one buy their children books or soft toys as with 3 children they have far too many of both of these. we thought this a little rude and that they should be grateful for what they have received.

the 3 children they have at the moment are all very spoilt. they have pretty much everything they could want or ask for so are very hard to buy for, especially as we have limited funds ourselves. for example a couple of years ago one of their kids got a 3ds and a new bike for their birthday(as their current bike was not the right colour although it was the right size and had no problems)

my DH, I and our children love books. in my opinion you can't have too many and they make a great gift especially if you are unsure what else to get. though our children have 1or 2 stories every night for bedtime where as theirs are sat infront of the tv/DVD player in their rooms till they fall asleep.

They never thought about our gifts in the past and we asked them politely if they could please think about what everyone liked and their age when gift buying (we have been given things like toilet brushes and the kids have received used broken toys and things relating to stuff they are actually scared ofand give them nightmares like ghosts and zombies) the price doesn't matter some of the things our kids like the best are really cheap to buy but the person they came from put some thought into it! we always try to choose things they will like

sorry the rant, I really do take things to heart when I shouldn't let them bother me! would like some othe peoples views on this?

lilyaldrin Sun 12-Jan-14 23:42:22

There is definitely such a thing as too many books!

brokenhearted55a Sun 12-Jan-14 23:43:31

I would have told that 9 yo to her face that when she is
given a gift, to have the common decency to say thank you, even if you hate it. I would have taken the doll away infront of her and told her she would never get anything from me again.

the op's children have been given used broken toys in the past while she gave them new books. I would say something if my children were given old broken toys. Sounds like their reaction: no books was tit for tat.

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