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...to leave a talk forum because one user irritates the living arse off me?

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NameChangeNameGame Sun 12-Jan-14 09:23:23

it's not MN i'm talking about but have NC because I know person in question posts here too.

We both use a much smaller specialist talk forum as well as this one. Far less users so threads don't move on as quickly and one user can exert far more influence over the tone of a place.

99 per cent of posters are helpful, measured, sensible. This woman absolutely exasperates me on the other hand. Self-righteous, sanctimonious, passive-aggressive, sarky, slags off her partner and MIL endlessly, moans on and on and on and on about her relationship while ignoring any chance to change it, bitches against her DP's depression because it effects her even though she knew he was depressive when she chose to get pregnant by him, superior, condescending, aggressive in tone, smacks down on anyone else complaining about anything in their life because that's being a 'moaning minnie'. So let's add hypocrit to the list. Slags posters off offline. I feel she's an insecure bully and an overgrown high schoool bitch.

If i tell her this in the online small community all hell will break loose and I'll probably leave the forum anyway, so WIBU to just leave in advance because i cant stand the poisonous witch anymore?

i don't care if you think i'm being U or not, it just feels good to vent grin

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Sun 12-Jan-14 09:24:37

Send her to MN, we'll sort her out ;)

zizzo Sun 12-Jan-14 09:25:19

YABU if you can ignore irritating people in real life, yiu can ignore people here.

zizzo Sun 12-Jan-14 09:26:24

Sorry, meant to say on that other forum.

MrsDeVere Sun 12-Jan-14 09:28:12

If she posts on here too you know she is going to know this is about her don't you?

Even if she has no insight into her passive aggressiveness and other personality traits she will know she moans about her OH's depression and her MIL a lot.

So it might well kick off regardless of you posting anything on the other forum.

Good luck grin

tripecity Sun 12-Jan-14 09:28:33

If you are going anyway, I would tell everyone before leaving that shes the reason, then leave before she can respond

Joysmum Sun 12-Jan-14 09:28:44

Vent away!

I've have blocked a few users on another forum I'm on because they are total fuckwits!

I SHOULD take my own advice and understand that letting them get to me is because I'm placing far too higher importance on what they have to say and they don't deserve to be taken seriously, just laughed at. I can't do this though as I can't help but notice some people do take heed and then fall badly after taking their advice.

I SHOULD live by my own musings that the world is a much better place for lots of differing views and types of oeople, but have come to the conclusion that this only works for me when all the differing views agrees with my own grin

Objection Sun 12-Jan-14 09:29:27

Just ignore. not worth leaving the forum if you otherwise benefit.
There are posters on MN that put me in danger of losing an eye as I roll them so hard whenever they join a thread and im sure I have the same effect on someone else.

as someone said upthread - you are never going to like 100% of everyone and everything. don't let one moron ruin something for you!

JinglingRexManningDay Sun 12-Jan-14 09:29:49

You've given a description of the poster in your OP and if they post here they might recognise them self so on that basis YABU.

LadyIsabellasHollyWreath Sun 12-Jan-14 09:36:13

Surely nobody could recognise themselves from that description? If you knew you were like that you wouldn't be like that IYSWIM.

Another forum I'm on is monopolised by a poster who either has unusual MH issues or is the most persistent troll ever. Always nice and pleasant, nothing you could get banned for, but obsessive and completely incapable of communicating on the same wavelength as everyone else . I feel sorry for him but he's single-handedly ruining the forum and there's really nothing anyone can do. So I do sympathise OP.

myitchybeaver Sun 12-Jan-14 09:36:33

It's so annoying when one person ruins it for everyone else. Online is no difference to RL. I don't know what the answer is. I hope she recognises herself.

ilovesooty Netherlands Sun 12-Jan-14 10:44:29

LadyIsabella I suspect I know who you mean. If so he resulted in my posting much less this year and I don't think I was alone in that.

VworpVworp Sun 12-Jan-14 10:50:11

Haha- jingling would anyone ever identify themselves as 'sanctimonious, self-righteous, and PA'? grin

ReputableBiscuit Sun 12-Jan-14 15:46:52

Seems like she's very angry about something and it's coming out elsewhere.

scottswomanlyhead Sun 12-Jan-14 15:50:16

Can't you just block her?

SuffolkNWhat Sun 12-Jan-14 15:54:46

Oh yes I've had this too. So I fucked off to Mumsnet and haven't looked back since!

SiliconeSally Sun 12-Jan-14 15:55:11

Make constructive challenges. If she is as horrible as you say I bet other posters feel the same way.

Start being assertive and clear but not rude or hostile. I bet you will get lots if support.

BOFtastic Sun 12-Jan-14 15:58:50

I'm intrigued who the annoying bloke is- any clues to the forum?

LadyIsabellasHollyWreath Sun 12-Jan-14 16:02:07

Not nice to specifically have a go at an identified poster on another forum BOF, but I've PM'd you for the sake of your curiosity.

BuzzardBird Sun 12-Jan-14 16:04:01

Its a 'she' isn't it?

Toecheese Sun 12-Jan-14 16:24:25

We have one of those on a forum I'm apart of!

MeepMeepVrooooom Sun 12-Jan-14 16:28:10

I want to know who it is, far to nosey for my own good.

Can you not block her?

FantomOfTheMopera Sun 12-Jan-14 16:31:02

I think you're lucky that 99% of the others are sensible. Small forums can breed complete bitchy lunacy and paranoia imho.

It's pretty normal in a smallish forum for there to be two or three posters who spoil things for everyone else. Leave and think no more about it.

OHforDUCKScake Sun 12-Jan-14 16:32:22

I used to know someone like that.....

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