to expect dsis to clean a bit

(28 Posts)
GlitzAndGiggles Sat 11-Jan-14 15:32:37

My dsis looks after my dd twice a week whilst I'm at work. I pay her £20 for each day. I know that's not a lot but it's all I can really afford. My dp refuses to contribute towards paying her because he says she's family yet refuses to pay for a nursery or find alternative childcare. In terms of caring for dd she's brilliant and I couldn't ask for someone better but it would be nice to come home to a clean place. Understandably there's toys everywhere because she has a DS who also comes when she's babysitting when he's not at nursery. But if she's cooked for the kids she leaves a mess all in the kitchen. A one off I could deal with but it's everytime she's here. When I got in there was onion skin and bits of garlic just left on the side along with tomato sauce splattered all over the units and hob. Also if drinks have been spilt they get left to dry or have a cloth thrown on them. Same if it happens on the sofa and I've asked her why she hasn't wiped with a wet cloth, she says because it will dry. Yes it will dry and it will also be sticky and ruin the fabric. She also calls mobiles off the house phone and refuses to pay for the calls. Last month she made £11 worth of calls but refused to pay it. If she has a bath or shower she leaves towels lying on my carpet and the bathroom a mess. When I try and speak to her calmly she shouts and throws things at me and calls me bipolar confused. I know I sound ungrateful for her childcare but

GlitzAndGiggles Sat 11-Jan-14 16:15:03

FortyDoors because as she says she's not the one paying for it but when I bring it up dp tells me to stop kicking off

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sat 11-Jan-14 16:17:51

This is only going to get worse.

I'm not paying for school lunches, or I am not paying for new shoes or I am not paying for school trips and the list goes on.

Objection Sat 11-Jan-14 16:36:37

You need to sort out a joint finance solution. A simple (but perhaps not comprehensive) answer is to get a joint account and each put a set amount in each week (either an equal amount or a % of your income). this can then be your expenses pot to be used for bills such as childcare

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