Bit of background so it's not a drip feed. I fell pregnant by accident and chose to keep DS, telling ex at the time that it was up to him if he wanted to be involved and I'd understand if he chose to have nothing to do with DS. He saw him a handful of times in the first 2 years then asked to have him overnight once a fortnight. It's been like that for a year now and going alright, though it's absoloutely no contact inbetween but DS doesn't seem to mind (he's 3 so not bothered at the moment). Ex is due to move to the far side of Cornwall in a month or so as his mum is moving there and he wants to be with her.
This last month and a half he's cancelled 3 times due to 'illness', only ever giving a few hours notice (surely you know you're too ill to get out of bed more than 2 hours before? )
It was DS's birthday on fri and we heard nothing off ex bt that was ok as he was due to come to DS's party the next day. But 2 hrs before he cancelled as he was ill again. DS was quite upset as he was due to go to his dad's after the party.
I'm angry because a) the few times i've been very ill (like the actual bed-bound type flu and a few stomach bugs) i've asked for help and he's said he's got other things on, but when he's ill he just opts out of being a parent and b) because he only gives a tiny bit of notice
Also, if DS/he gets sick when he has him in Cornwall then how will he handle it?
I've avoided pulling him up on it til now as he turns nasty and bring out the 'I dodn't want him anyway/I pay a bit for him and lots of blokes don't' card. But it's not about us, it's about DS!
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