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To spend £300 on only 11 items of clothes?(57 Posts)
I had nearly £400 for christmas - everyone kindly gave me money. It was what I asked for as I badly need some new clothes. I'm trying to find work now ds is at school so need some smarter clothes too.
The trouble is because I've basically shopped at tesco for clothes since ds was born 4 years ago I am struggling with spending more than about £10 per item! I've been on asos and found some lovely stuff, it looks gorgeous. It may well look hideous on me as I am basing this opinion of the clothes being lovely on 18 year old size 8 women modelling them.
It comes to nearly £300 for 11 items. I also need some jeans because I now don't have any at all without massive holes in. But I would have some money left to go and try those on in a proper shop, I can't risk jeans online as I'm a funny shape!
Is £300 for 11 items unreasonable?! I guess it's less than 30 an item which doesn't sound so bad... It just feels a lot when I don't think I've paid more than about £15 for anything apart from shoes since having ds! I have also entirely lost any sense of style since having ds and now look horrific pretty much all of the time. He didn't sleep through until he was three and a half and those years nearly killed me and basically I stopped caring what I looked like. I was looking at some photos of me pre ds and although I was never pretty I looked a damn sight better than I do now, and also about 20 years younger!
I also found a v funny book in our library which I evangelise about to any friends emerging from the baby/v small children zone. It's by Vicky Iovine, its called A Guide to Getting Your Groove Back and it includes a great section on appearance. Highly recommended for warding off guilt at spending time/money on yourself!
I wouldn't be able to spend that much on so little without feeling guilty either -- but it's the exact reason you've been given money by people who love you, you need the clothes, so go for it.
Sounds reasonable to me. I've always found the returns for ASOS really good so if anything doesn't suit then it's easy to send back.
I also second the haircut advice, having nice hair always makes me feel so much better about myself no matter what I'm wearing.
Ive done that before when I went to a personal shopper. I went to the one at lakeside shopping centre so wasnt limited to one shop, she was brilliant but I did spend about 300 quid
The sales are on, what a perfect time to enjoy spending the money you have been given (by people who love you & want you to treat yourself)!
Agree with the comments about good underwear & a new haircut, it makes such a difference.
I've still not checked out! I'm steeling myself. I guess I can always send them all back for free anyway so it's not the end of the world and I can try them on at home where I don't feel so silly.
I ventured into debenhams last week but came our empty handed, felt ridiculously inferior. Didn't make it into the changing rooms.
Returns to asos are exceptionally easy and free. Spend the money - if when the stuff arrives any of it doesn't make you feel great then just send it back. Don't feel disheartened if it doesn't look as good on you as it did on the model - sometimes stuff is just poorly cut or bad quality - they can make it look good on a posed photo but it just doesn't look good 'in the flesh'.
Asos can be quite variable - I get lots of compliments on things I've bought there, but I've also bought a fair bit of stuff that's had a returns label slapped straight on it. But they have such a huge amount of stock there are bound to be things you'll love. Don't set you heart on anything til you've tried it on, and have fun with it - try some things which are outside of your normal comfort zone.
£300 on 11 items is really not too much. But I too wonder whether you should be buying on-line if you haven't bought for such a long time. I also think buying all those items at once might not work best for your budget and for you.
I think you should chose a couple of items that you really need and hone in on those first but go to the shops and try things on to get a feel for what suits you best now and what fits best.
Perhaps you could go out and get the jeans and a top and take £60 with you as your budget. That way you make sure you buy two things which form the basis of your wardrobe and which you feel good in. Next week, make a hairdresser's appointment for a cut and blow dry wearing your jeans and top and then go out on a mission to get yourself a jacket to go with them and perhaps another top - £80.00.
Then you have a few nice things that you feel good in and can go out when you have an hour or two and have a look at what's out there and build up around those basics.
The key is to buy things that make you feel good rather than things that you just feel OK in.
I've still not checked out! I'm steeling myself. I guess I can always send them all back for free anyway so it's not the end of the world and I can try them on at home where I don't feel so silly
Just do it! Any of it can go straight back!
Try it on at home with a glass of wine in hand, much more fun than Debenhams changing room.
I love ASOS but it can be a bit hit or miss with their own branded stuff so be prepared to have to send stuff back which is super simple to do but I do factor this in when buying and buy a couple of sizes, similar styles etc and then send back those I don't want.
What I would totally reccommend is the personal shopping service that the department stores offer free of charge, the staff are really helpful and friendly and not at all snooty and it may be a very useful way to spend your money. That way you can explain what you need and they can put together whole outfits and a base wardrobe of staples that you can use daily and then build on in the future. They wills how you stuff that suits your body shape and make you try different styles etc... But most of all don't feel guilty and take pleasure in spending after all it was a gift...go on have your pretty women moment!
Actually Windmill has it spot on, probably best not to overwhelm yourself by spending it all at once. Couple of things at a time, on-line is good though in that you don't have to feel any panic and can try on in the privacy and calm of your own home. Easy to send stuff back too .
I spent £300 on 6 items yesterday, and I just nipped out to return a top
but they are things I need...3 warm casual tops, a cardigan to brighten up a couple of black tunics and 2 new season tops from Phase Eight.
I am dithering over a pair of boots in the sale which I already have, but love. As I am a difficult size, I may not be able to replace. So do I buy 2 pairs the same? They are still £130 . That is my first world problem today.
Hope everything fits op.
ASOS can be hit or miss so don't be disheartened. I return as much as I keep.
Also, there's be fresh new things coming in by February and they might make you feel winter drab and it will be worth waiting for a some items so that you feel bright and breezy and ready for the spring. Otherwise you might just feel winter drab in six weeks when you see it all.
I agree not to buy it all at once, if you buy all at the same time you will not have time to appreciate each item. I know from experience that if I buy a load of stuff in the sale I don't appreciate each item as much as one or two items I really want.
Check out as you can always return. I have dithered and then have missed things as they've sold out in my size .
I disagree with windmill - buy 11 items, chances are you'll like a few, you have something new to wear you feel good in, the go back. Buy 2 items - you may not like either, you feel disheartened.
Like bread I buy on assumption things will be returned - multiple sizes and styles. I don't calculate my final spend until I've received and tried on. Assuming your bank balance can tolerate it short term, you're better off overspending on the initial order.
The rest go back - that should say
OP if you really don't feel ready to venture out into the shops yet but need style advice may I recommend Marks and Spencers Style Advisor service?
You put all your info in online, it's quite detailed and then you get to choose colours and styles you like from a selection and it goes on to make recommendations for you.
I am not saying you would have to buy anything from there, but it would enable you to see what was available that might suit your frame and tastes.
I like ordering from them as I can pick up from and return to my local store for free.
I hope you get your mojo back soon and that you get a cracking new job too.
Can't advise on style BUT the people who gave ypu the money would surely want you to buy good quality clothes that will make you look and feel confident rather than buy more cheap 'it'll do' stuff. Enjoy it.
I haven't checked out but I have added another three items to my basket...it's getting worse!
I think I need to take something out.
Is it the quality or sizing people have found variable with asos?
Thank you so much for all your suggestions, I've tried the m and s style advisor, it was very good!
It does sound very expensive to me, but then I can only afford Primark and Asda prices, but,
You have some money to spend as you like, so spend it on whatever you like, and have fun doing so!
£300 on one item isn't excessive if you want it and can afford it.
If you can afford it in short term and if you trust yourself to be selective and return things, then just check out!
Other than shoes (come up small) I find asos own brand generally runs true-to-size, it's more that the way their clothes are cut can sometimes be a bit odd. Quality is sometimes not fab, but I'm normally comparing against Reiss, Cos etc - usually for the price quality is fair, but occasionally variable.
I haven't heard of ASOS but I don't think £300 for 11 items is expensive at all. I think the fear is probably from getting them all at once. Spending £300 at a time is daunting, even if you did get the money for that purpose. If you bought one thing a week at £30 you probably wouldn't think of it in the same way at all but it's exactly the same and you have all the money now so why not?
to be honest you sound like you really need and deserve some decent stuff. Your posts come across like someone who is pretty down on themselves and is close to giving up on looking nice. You really need a confidence boost.
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