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AIBU to think this girl needs a slap

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RalphLaurenLover Sat 04-Jan-14 22:30:33

This girl who use to hang around with us was always around trouble stealing, running away, violence, drinking, smoking, drugs you name it she did it.

I kind of moved on and she moved to a different area we had each other on Facebook but don't speak. She got pregnant and proclaimed it was going to be the making of her hmm well it wasn't unfortunately she was constantly telling the Facebook world how SS were on to her and were going to "kidnap" her baby. She had and was given a chance and after a few photo's of her changing the child with her feet holding the bottle in it's mouth with the caption "you bitches can't multi-task like me" status of how she had to go through DNA because she'd slept around and drug test because she was taking her child to be around people whom do drugs she got miffed at the world because SS took the child away.

She still see it but lashed out at everyone with a child on Facebook stating she resents them because SS are C**t's and stole her baby hmm they don't know what they're doing even one remark about how all the SS are is a paedophile gang leader taking and giving children to paedophiles?!?!

She's now telling the world of facebook how at her next contact she's just going to take the child and run because nobody will stop her and despite having no job, money or home she can provide better than these "paedophiles hmm because it's going to be adopted yet she constantly refuses any help

AIBU to think that maybe if she didn't constantly accuse the SS and fill her Facebook full of shit like this she may have more of a chance I try to hide her post but some just creep on in

JumpingJackSprat Sat 04-Jan-14 22:32:55

You're no friend of hers. Do her a favour and defriend. She is clearly having a hard time. Do you just have her on there to judge her?

Belchica Sat 04-Jan-14 22:34:07

Delete her off your FB 'friend' list. Unless you actually consider her as a friend, in which case try and offer some help (although she sounds beyond it).

hoobypickypicky Sat 04-Jan-14 22:34:26

"I try to hide her post but some just creep on in"

They won't if you click on 'unfriend'.

RalphLaurenLover Sat 04-Jan-14 22:35:01

No. I have tried to help but she doesn't want to know. Many people in our group have offered her to come round and talk about it we could see what we could do in ways to help. Yet her answer to that is she'd rather get drunk. Now nun of us are old she's 18 we're in our 20's

eatmydust Sat 04-Jan-14 22:35:57

nobody needs a slap. YABU

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 04-Jan-14 22:36:00

Some times the action of a good friend is to actually point out where someone is going wrong rather than just agree with them when they are acting like a knob

LiberalLibertine Sat 04-Jan-14 22:36:28

YABFU to start a thread just to slag her off.

Sounds like she had a troubled childhood, and more her baby has gone, funny you think you should either try and help out just leave her alone?

Droves Sat 04-Jan-14 22:36:29

Dont think slapping her would help .

Sounds like shes venting anger on facebook . Poor girl has issues and needs help . The baby is probably better off in care . So sad , drugs do terrible things to peoples lives .

SoleSource Sat 04-Jan-14 22:37:16

YANBU hopefully the child will now have a chance at a happier time in childhood.

really? if she's not a good friend, why do you even care?

LynetteScavo Sat 04-Jan-14 22:38:10

If her status updates are upsetting you, delete her as a "friend".

I don't think a slap will do her any good, or help her see sense, so YABU.

It sounds like a very sad situation all round.

RalphLaurenLover Sat 04-Jan-14 22:39:53

Vampy Suppose cause she is a mum whether she has her child or not. I would never put myself in the position she has to lose her child I'd still hate the thought of it. I sympathise with her for that just not her actions

Joules68 Sat 04-Jan-14 22:40:10

Who do you think should be the one to actually slap her op?

JumpingJackSprat Sat 04-Jan-14 22:41:05

Still doesn't excuse the fact that your op is so nasty and judgemental towards this woman. Do you think she liked having her baby taken away? Do you think she was happy growing up stealing, running away, taking drugs? Most people with a happy stable home life don't do that. She's 18? Barely an adult for fucks sake.

You say you have tried to help her, how exactly when you say you don't speak to her? Your op reads as though since you last spoke she has had a baby and had it removed so whats that at least 9 months. I think you should look very hard at why you have her on your Facebook. Is she a form of entertainment for you?

RalphLaurenLover Sat 04-Jan-14 22:42:10

JoulesAnyone/thing that could make her see sense personally, that her actions, friends and words are making her situation worse

DoYouNeedAWahhmbulance Sat 04-Jan-14 22:42:11

If I were you I'd block her and have nothing more to do with her

I don't blame you for being frustrated with her behaviour, but at least her poor child is away from her now and really the only one she's hurting is herself

DesperatelySeekingSedatives Sat 04-Jan-14 22:43:49

She sounds deeply unwell and very troubled. It doesn't seem like you like her so just defriend her altogether. Easiest way to not see her updates etc etc.

nilbyname Sat 04-Jan-14 22:43:52

Horrible nasty thread title.

Feels like mn bingo

WorraLiberty Sat 04-Jan-14 22:45:18

Exactly what JumpingJackSprat said...they've saved me typing it.

OP, instead of rubber necking over your morning cup of coffee, just defriend her.

Although you'll have to replace your entertainment obviously...

i'd be more concerned about the welfare of the child which is presumably satisfactory at the moment. she must really have messed up to have her kid removed from her care, i would struggle to stay friends with someone like that but i would go no further than 'defriending' tbh.

JabberJabberJay Sat 04-Jan-14 22:45:55

She needs a slap? Really?

Your OP sounds very judgy. If you don't like what is appearing in your newsfeed then unfriend and block.

RalphLaurenLover Sat 04-Jan-14 22:46:14

Jumping I never said she liked it, It would break my heart if anyone took my DC. She choose to steal and take drugs. Not everyone who has a bad childhood does those things.

I already stated that above. No she isn't entertainment far from it

HesterShaw Sat 04-Jan-14 22:47:35

Oh dear, how sad sad

Both this girl's situation, the life of that poor child, and you seeing fit to start this thread. How on earth would a slap help anyone?

What she needsis a few realfriends to help rather than judge her.

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