To Find this Woman in the Cinema Rude

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LessMissAbs Fri 03-Jan-14 23:29:40

Me and my friend were watching a film in the cinema tonight. She doesn't wear a watch and must have been checking her phone for the time - its a habit of hers to do this, or to ask people the time. I was sitting next to her and I didn't notice it.

There was an empty seat to her other side between her and a woman. The woman suddenly boomed out in the middle of the film, "If you want to play your phone, you can go outside and do it instead of in here".

It was mortifying, and she interrupted the film for me. I was really embarrassed for my friend, but we didn't say anything.

At the end of the film, as we were standing up to leave, I said to the woman "I don't really care if you were disturbed by a light during the film or not, I don't want to have to the film interrupted by your booming voice". She then started arguing back (she said something like "Oh you'd like to be a cheeky one, wouldn't you, and some other stuff) but we turned our backs towards her and her husband so that she was talking to ourselves, put on our coats and left.

Kind of ruined the film for both of us. Normally I find going to the cinema relaxing!

Why was she checking the time in the middle of a film though?

yarn33 Fri 03-Jan-14 23:31:56

Sorry I'm on her side, people using phones during cinema performances should be kicked out of the screen smile

ilove Fri 03-Jan-14 23:31:58

You were the rude ones - good on her for saying something!

DuckCommander Fri 03-Jan-14 23:32:04

TBH whilst I wouldn't have said anything to your friend like she did, I'd have been thinking it.

Messing around with your phone, either intentionally or absent mindedly in the cinema is really poor form and is very distracting to others.

KareKare Fri 03-Jan-14 23:32:09

It is rude to check your phone in the cinema. I would have said something too, but without raising my voice.

Phones next to.me.in the cinema fuck me off. Tickets cost an arm.and a leg - I dont want glaring lights of mobile phones distracting me.

contemplated movie screens for one

WestieMamma Fri 03-Jan-14 23:33:22

Your friend was rude using her phone during the film. You were rude telling the woman you didn't care if she was disturbed or not. The woman was annoyed by being disturbed by rude people. I don't blame her.

ChasedByBees Fri 03-Jan-14 23:33:48

I'd find it really irritating if someone was checking their phone too. There's a reason you're asked to turn them off.

FloozeyLoozey Fri 03-Jan-14 23:33:48

Bad cinema etiquette from your friend.

Your friend was rude playing with her phone, and then you was rude to the woman when the film had finished. YABU

RandyRudolf Fri 03-Jan-14 23:34:21

I wouldn't find the light from the phone distracting only any noise it made, if any.

I think you were quite reserved in your response.

elvesavleftdabildin Fri 03-Jan-14 23:34:31

Is your friend Madonna and were you watching ' 12 Years a Slave'?

AntlersInAllOfMyDecorating Fri 03-Jan-14 23:34:50

I have called out to someone in the middle of a film, would happily do it again. Also told people to stop talking more than one . Phone lights are bright, the room is mostly quiet, films are expensive and basic manners are priceless.

She was right.

You were being rude twats.

Clobbered Fri 03-Jan-14 23:35:09

It is very distracting to see the light from other people's phones when in the cinema or theatre. I think your friend was in the wrong here and YABU.

Salmotrutta Fri 03-Jan-14 23:35:14

I get very annoyed by people checking phones I darkened theatres/cinemas etc. because it really distracts you.

In daylight it wouldn't be noticeable but in darkness it really is annoying.

Your friend was rude and the lady had every right to call her on it.

Iwilltrythisnamefornow Fri 03-Jan-14 23:35:23

Phone lights are annoying in the cinema, your friend was BU. Your friend probably ruined the film and made it not relaxing for the woman too.
I think YWBU saying what you said to the woman, your friend should have been apologising to her.

Salmotrutta Fri 03-Jan-14 23:35:44

in darkened theatres.

Zingy123 Fri 03-Jan-14 23:36:29

The light from the phone is really annoying. Good on the lady for telling your friend.

PedlarsSpanner Fri 03-Jan-14 23:38:30

Yes light from a phone in a darkened room is extremely annoying

I would have said similar to your friend

TheMuppetsSing Fri 03-Jan-14 23:38:54

She's right. You and your friend were wrong. It's really very simple.

Salmotrutta Fri 03-Jan-14 23:40:09

The other annoyance here is that when someone checks their phone in the cinema I begin to get tense because I think they are going to keep doing it and cause me to rage

I don't want to rage, I really don't.

But if I've paid for tickets I'm blowed if other people's rudeness is going to impinge on my enjoyment...

nonmifairidere Fri 03-Jan-14 23:40:41

Friend - inconsiderate. You - rude. Woman - justifiably annoyed.

WorrySighWorrySigh Fri 03-Jan-14 23:41:14

Your friend was rude

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