To smash up his Ps4

[Boyssmell]

First time poster.
Been with dp for two years, second Christmas we have spent together. This year we did the same as last year, he stays round mine Christmas Eve, goes to his parents Christmas morning and comes back to mine at 4pm for the rest of the day. This year his parents bought him a Ps4, he asked me if he can bring it over to play at mine, I say no as I know what he can be like when it comes to games and my family has planned a night of spending time together, it being Christmas and all that. He arrives at mine, plays a game with my family for about 20 minutes, after dm starts laying out food on the table, and we're waiting for db and sil to arrive, haven't seen them in ages and thought dp was as excited to see them as I was and to present swap ect. So straight after game dp goes into my bedroom and sets up ps4 on my Tv, didn't ask me, clearly ignored me telling him no to bringing it. I say what are you doing? He said he's only going to be on it 10 mins as has not had a chance to play it. In the spirit of Christmas I say ok. 30 minutes later db and sil arrives, dp still playing game, he knows they're here, doesn't bother to come out and say hello. Misses presents swapping. 30 more minutes go by. I have asked him to come out twice. Everyone asking me why he's not coming out ect, really embarrassing. 20 more mins, we've all eaten, dm wants to put food away so she knocks on door and asks if he's coming out to eat, he doesn't open door just rudely shouts out one sec. 15 more minutes, he comes out. Didn't want to cause a scene so hid my anger and had nice night. Now everyone has gone to bed he can't see why I'm mad at him. We were meant to go to his parents for Boxing day and i've said to him I don't want to go. If he's being anti social with my family why should I make an effort with his? Bearing in mind he wanted to come round to mine at 4pm, he could have stayed at his and played Ps4, it would have been a lot less embarrassing to explain to my family where he is. Would have prefered he's at home to, oh he's in the bedroom and wont cone out.
Needed to vent. Thank you.

[MyNameIsKenAdams]

Sounds like he is 17yo.

Are there any benefits to you being together?!

[HansieMom]

Send him home. Or is this is home? Anyway send him off to his parents.

[friday16]

AIBU to think that if people don't live together, "partner" is pushing it a bit?

[YouTheCat]

Dump him. Is he 16 or something?

I like gaming. My dp likes gaming. But your bf is just plain rude.

[Pancakeflipper]

Nah, I would flog it.

[hellowonderful]

He sounds like a total arse. My DH loves to game but would never ever do that. Ever. Rude!

[Ledkr]

Seriously, how old is he?

[Snowhoho]

Very rude.

[Boyssmell]

He's 25.

[FirstOnRecallDay]

Friday is that really necessary? I don't recall the thread being "what do I refer to my significant other as?"

Anyway.

Your DP is being very disrespectful, lay down the law, your house your rules.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Are you of a similar age?

He sounds a knob.

[dylanthedragon]

I really don't get this gaming stuff. I'm in my early 30s so lots of people my age play but to do so to the detriment of actually spending time with people is just strange to me. Can you imagine if he was shouting, "be with you in a minute, I'm just collecting £200 for passing go"!! It's a game FFS!

It's rude. it's Christmas. If he wants to play a game get the cludeo board out. Grown ups don't need to play with their toys as soon as Santa delivers them!

[MillyChristmas]

He was definately out of order but let it go. One of my kids is 23 and he would probably want to play on a new play station if he had,got one. He is quiet young and if he didn't really mean any harm is it worth you blowing things up by not going to his parents tomorrow. Seems a bit silly really. .

[NuggetofPurestGreen]

YANBU OP

Yabu friday. I'm 34 and have been with my partner for about 8 years and we don't live together but he's still my partner.

[NuggetofPurestGreen]

my partner loves gaming but would never do anything like this.

[FortyDoorsToNowhere]

This is the reason why I wait till the DC are in bed before I switch on the computer.

It is never 10 minutes.

[Joysmum]

A lot is said on MN about poem being adictive and destructive to relationships, but in my experience, gaming has been far more so with people I know.

Personally, I will ask nicely once, then ask more forcefully, then be in danger of losing my temper. I predictably raise the stake each time so people know where they stand with me. I'm very clear about my expectations and I guess this is way I don't get treated like shit by anybody.

Oh, and I would vist his family today as they will have gone to the trouble if catering for you.

[plentyofsoap]

So rude. Have the day to yourself.

[sashh]

He is behaving like a spoiled brat, but I can understand he doesn't think he is if no one said anything at the time.

Why didn't you unplug it after an hour?

[HOMEQCRICH]

Flippin rude! Oh and I had a partner I didn't live with.. didn't realise I was out of order on that

[Ememem84]

Rude. We had a similar situation with dh'S xbox a few years ago. The controllers went missing after it.

[LittleTulip]

DH has a ps4 however would not behave like this!

[callamia]

I would go today. It's not his family that you're cross with - its him. I would go and tell his mum how he spent all night on his new toy. If he's going to behave childishly, I think he can stand being told off by his mum.

[Rhubarbgarden]

So rude. I would not tolerate that. It would be the end of the road for the relationship in my book.

[Badvocatyuletide]

What is he, 12?
Dump and run.
Sorry.