To think I must be a chav, as MN has deemed me so?

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Heartbrokenmum73 Mon 23-Dec-13 21:47:57

According to threads I've been reading lately, most things I do seem to be marking me (and my family) out as chavs.

I fed my children formula and jarred food - this is chavvy
My Mum likes cards that say Nanny and she sends relative-specific cards - chavvy
My children like to wear character clothing - chavvy
I shop at Tesco and sometimes even Asda - chavvy

AIBU to be a bit tired of seeing the word 'chav' on here lately? I've challenged it and said that it's offensive, but just get the 'well, it's only online, why are you bothered', as if that makes it ok.

Yes, I realise I'm being over-sensitive, but me and my family aren't 'chavs' and I'm tired of it being bandied about (along with 'common') to describe things that people see as beneath them.

PacificDingbat Wed 25-Dec-13 10:44:30

Ok, the repeated mention of Thomas the Tankengine t-shirts is now getting to me - I did not even know that they were chivvy!!
Why oh why has nobody told me? <wails and breathes in and out all over thread>

Merry Christmas, MNers fsmile <-named Christmas card

PacificDingbat Wed 25-Dec-13 10:44:59

Oh no, they are chivvy AND chavvy - damn you autocorrect

GoshAnneGorilla Wed 25-Dec-13 10:46:42

I thought all little boys had to go through a stage of being obsessed with Thomas the Tank engine, regardless of class. That and dinosaurs. Isn't that the law?

Also, Thomas the Tank engine books are very much of a forelock-tugging world where everyone knows their place, you'd think the Hyacinths would love that.

PacificDingbat Wed 25-Dec-13 10:56:25

Well, DS4 is 3.8 and he still wearing 18-24month sized Thomas t-shirt - the sleeves go to his elbows, there is screaming every time it has to go in the wash and I have to peel it off him using bribery and coercion.

And I am well posh. Or not. I don't know.

I am not British - so what do I know about 'class'? It just bamboozles me fconfused

SootikinAndSweep Wed 25-Dec-13 11:07:51

The rules are all very confusing aren't they?

For fear of inadvertently committing social suicide I'm following these guidelines:

No rings are safer than either sovereigns or signets.

No names beginning with K or unique spellings. [If I have a son and want to name him Kai, is it better or worse to spell it with a Q?]

You can 'run into' Waitrose for 'a couple of essentials', but the really posh people shop in Lidl. [I'm fucked as we don't have a Waitrose, does this mean that I'm now really posh?]

Taz1212 Wed 25-Dec-13 11:18:49

Huh. Numbers in user names are chavvy? How bizarre! How random! I'm struggling to make myself care. Does that make me more chavvy or less chavvy? grin

Theimpossiblegirl Wed 25-Dec-13 11:24:22

I didn't think people used the word chavvy anymore in polite society.
It's a bit sneery and outdated. ;)

(I did once comment on a baby name thread about the use of the word chavvy and got shot down but I do hate snobbery).

Elfhame Wed 25-Dec-13 11:24:38

They might all know their place, but Tidmouth sheds look like the might be rented from the council. wink

Elfhame Wed 25-Dec-13 11:25:42

they might be rented from the council

CombineBananaFister Wed 25-Dec-13 11:50:30

Think lots of little boys do go through the thomas the tank engine stage (or other character).

The difference is the so-called chavvy mum will buy the £4 top from asda.
The mum who thinks she's not chavvy will buy a top with a train on it from Joules/boden for £20 and then convince the child it's better.
The truly rich who don't have owt to prove and don't give a shit will buy it from the charity shop after the asda mum as used it for 50p and wear it til it's got holes in it grin

I am, of course saying that in jest (dislike reverse snobbery as much as actual snobbery) but it is all a bit like the emperors new clothes to me what dictates 'cool', 'chav' etc. It's only if you give a shit that any of it counts and personally I don't.

Theimpossiblegirl Wed 25-Dec-13 14:44:33

Agree with Combine - the secret is to not give a shit.

I'm sorry this is getting to you, OP, but rise above it and be happy with who you are. People who call others chavvy are too concerned with status and probably a bit insecure.

Caitlin17 Wed 25-Dec-13 14:48:36

I don't like personalised cards.
There are apparently other Caitlins on here.
I've never, despite being an outrageous snob, called any one a chav.

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