to be fed up of people looking at my 9 week old DD and asking...

(27 Posts)
42andcounting Wed 18-Dec-13 20:51:04

"How old is your little boy?". I know it's hard to tell at this age, especially as she has very chubby little cheeks - and thats why she wears girly clothes, masses of pink, and has a pink blanket. Today she was wearing a t-shirt with a pink fairy on it, and a pink cardi with a pink ribbon, and still two separate people asked me. It's not as if there were no visual clues!!!

randomquicknamechange Wed 18-Dec-13 20:53:58

Maybe they are mumsnetters who don't think anyone would actually dress a girl in pink, in case they turn out to be a man pleasing stepford wife.

TheXxed Wed 18-Dec-13 20:55:20

Hahahaha! I feel your pain, once a woman came up to me in westfield and told me my son was to beautiful to be a boy.

He has a full head of curly hair, dark eyelashes which make him looks as though he is wearing mascara.

I just smile and keep moving.

bluecheeseforbreakfast Wed 18-Dec-13 20:55:26

Yabu, baby boys and baby girls look no different to each other.

Why would it bother you?

Pink does not equal girl, my ds has a lovely pair of pink stipend leggings and a purple jacket. His blanket is pink and grey.

It's nice that people are interested in your baby, just tell them she is a girl.

gaggiagirl Wed 18-Dec-13 20:56:07

My DD gets mistaken for a boy all the time. I have rarely dressed her in pink though as she is ginger at pink doesn't suit her as much as blue.
She's got really long hair too!
Don't dwell on it, people say funny things and new babies don't look male or female.
Congratulations on your beautiful girl.

Permanentlyexhausted Wed 18-Dec-13 20:58:46

Maybe they are supporters of the Pink Stinks campaign making a point?

Is it really that big a deal?

WorraLiberty Wed 18-Dec-13 20:59:22

Lots of pink on a baby still mostly equals girl in the real world

Not so much on MN though

TheOneAndOnlyAlpha Wed 18-Dec-13 20:59:25

We all look the same in birth and old age.

BenNJerry Wed 18-Dec-13 20:59:41

I had the opposite, everyone thought my DS was a girl! It didn't bother me too much though.

AuntyDepressants Wed 18-Dec-13 20:59:53

I had this in reverse. 'What's the name of your little girl' was often asked of my baby boy. 'Mary' was my reply after I got to the point of being too bored to repeatedly explain to different people.

AuntieStella Wed 18-Dec-13 21:02:52

Colour blind?

There really is no need to display her sex with excessive visual 'clues' though. They're much the same at that age, an as long as they're the right temperature and comfy, they really neither know nor care about hue.

They all look the same - vaguely potatoey-asexual

I can't imagine taking offence at this confused

whereisshe Wed 18-Dec-13 21:04:02

Does it really matter? Your baby doesn't speak English yet, she's hardly going to experience gender confusion as a result of a few harmless comments.

Pleasenomorepeppa Wed 18-Dec-13 21:06:20

A man once told me how lovely my son was & asked his name.
I said "Florence" & he said, "Laurence is a great name" & wandered off.
She was 8 month old, in a dress & was wearing a hair slide fgrin.

coppertop Wed 18-Dec-13 21:09:21

People frequently assumed my then toddler ds2 was a girl and would say how lovely 'she' was.

A few years later I had dd2, who looked identical to ds2 at the same age. Lots of people assumed she was a boy.....

They're just making conversation. You can either correct them each time or just smile and nod. The latter is much easier.

Salmotrutta Wed 18-Dec-13 21:10:22

I got mistaken for a boy when I was 13.

Tall, skinny, short hair.

I was however wearing earrings (this was back in 19Oatcake when boys didn't generally have earrings unless they were a pirate) so I was a bit offended.

I was also wearing girls clothes.

Pinholes Wed 18-Dec-13 21:10:45

DD is 2yo and today was wearing a pink coat and a dress (a grey dress but still a dress) with tights and little 'doll' shoes (the t-bar sort).

At the shops I had no less than four people refer to her as a boy. She likes pulling the wheeled shopping basket along and a lady remarked to her husband "oh, look at the little fella helping his mammy". At another shop she was sayin excuse me please to everyone she passed and an older lady told me "he's polite, isn't he? ... Or is he a she? He? She?" I replied that she is a girl, she smiled and nodded at my prominent baby bump "what a lovely little boy, maybe a girl next time eh?" The other two told me "he's a happy little lad, isn't he?"

I don't let it bother me, there's nothing I can do to stop it so why worry?

Don't worry about it fsmile people are silly and as long as they're still complimenting your baby it's all good.
My DS is 10 months old and still gets called "she" sometimes by random pensioners (and DP's gran hmm), and if I've said "he" I've been told "he's too bonny to be a boy!".

Smile and nod.

Floopy21 Wed 18-Dec-13 21:13:11

It's a trying time, you're tired& hormonal, in a few months you won't even bother to correct them! Congrats, I bet she's beautiful smile

Permanentlyexhausted Wed 18-Dec-13 21:24:49

Pink is not such a gender-specific colour in many other countries and wasn't really used specifically for girls in the UK until WW2.

People muddling up your baby's gender might be a little irritating but "There's no mistaking that he's a boy, is there?" ain't the greatest coment either!

HoFuckingHoFuckingHoneydragon Wed 18-Dec-13 21:31:32

It goes both ways, I forgave the the lady with a teeny tiny new baby for thinking I was a boy on the basis that she was probably knackered and I was wearing a batman hat, jeans, converse and ds's coat.

trinity0097 Wed 18-Dec-13 21:36:10

Far less humuliating than being a grown woman with a big chest and being called Sir!

Feminine Wed 18-Dec-13 21:37:30

I have 2 sons.

I was constantly asked (when they were standing by me) If I had any?

They were not babies at that point.

They wore typical boys attire. grin

maybe it was the eye-shadow?

My youngest has often been mistaken for a girl. It's those lashes.

Feminine Wed 18-Dec-13 21:39:47

Oh, just remembered.

My DH has been mistaken for a woman a few times also.

He is 6 "2 with a medium male build. Toned with no breasts. confused

I have come to the conclusion that folk see what they want to see.

Even if that means the wrong sex!

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