I know there's a current thread about cutting horrible people out of your life but I just wondered whether I'm doing the right thing in this case?
I have 2 very close friends, friend A I have known for 8 years and friend B I have known for 6 years. They have also known each other (through me) for the past 2 years, and now see each other daily as their DCs have started at the same school (mine attend a different school). Friend A came round the other day and told me that friend B was being extremely unpleasant about me. She has been criticising lots of things I am doing in my life, how I'm bringing my children up, what I'm buying my children for Christmas, how she doesn't approve of the new job I'm due to start in the new year etc. Not just a gossipy kind of opinion-sharing, but actually getting worked up over it, saying what a bad person I am, to the point that she said she wants nothing more to do with me apart from 'essentials' (I'm guessing that means if we bump into each other when out).
I was shocked and upset but figured she's entitled to her opinion and I would just stay away from her and not bother to text/phone her again.
The strange part is that her behaviour towards me hasn't changed in the slightest! She is still texting me asking how the kids are, what I'm up to etc. She is still inviting me on social occasions and is still telling me things about her and her family, just like normal. I have been declining invitations and not replying to texts, but now friend B has been complaining to people that I'm being funny with her when she's done nothing wrong. I desperately want to confront her but I don't want to drop friend A in it, cos she's got to see friend B at school every day for the next few years.
I know for a fact that what she has said is true, as I have seen screen shots off friend A's phone showing the nasty texts about me. Friend A has tried to get friend B to be nice and talk to me about any issues she might have with me but she doesn't want to. I think she just enjoys the nasty bitching rants, and is extremely jealous as she's got a few family/money problems atm.
Should I just leave it and accept that I'm going to look like I've just randomly cut off my friend or drop my other friend in it by confronting her?
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oneplusoneplustwo · 18/12/2013 16:49
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