To think my DM would be worse than mad not to take this house?

(31 Posts)
ballinacup Wed 18-Dec-13 12:28:38

DM lives in the same HA property that I grew up in. She lives there with the stepdad and three brothers, two of whom are grown up, the youngest however is only 10.

It's a nice house. She's made a lot of improvements over the years and it's beautifully decorated. However, about 18 months ago her next door neighbours (a quiet young family) moved out and were replaced by what I can only describe as a one-house-episode-of-Shameless.

Dad is a bare knuckle fighter, mum is nice enough but according to the tales he frequently belows from the bedroom window to anyone passing is an IV drug user. They had three very sweet children who have been taken into care due to his frequent violent attacks on her and them (DM constantly phoning the police due to crashes and screams from next door). The mum was pregnant, was whisked off following a particularly vicious attack and returned, no longer pregnant, and without a newborn.

A couple of weeks ago, DM and everyone else in the house were woken at 5am by a full scale drugs raid on the house by local police. DM later had a leaflet popped through her door from the police advising her that organised crime had been clamped down in her area.

DM breathed a sigh of relief at this point, genuinely thinking they would not be allowed to return. But within 24 hours he was back, broke down the chipboard covering the door and seems to be living there, along with her.

DM has been offered an alternative house in a lovely area of the town. The house itself is laid out differently, and my eldest brother would need to use the dining room as a bedroom. DM is wavering about this as she doesn't want to put her dining table into the large storage building attached to the new house. I think this is a ridiculous reason not to move away from her very own one man crime wave.

She has agreed for me to post on here to see what everyone else thinks.

AIBU to think she should seize the chance with both hands and cast ne'er a backward glance?!

Flossiechops Wed 18-Dec-13 16:53:22

Does this trouble get your dm down or bother her? I can't believe that she would even have a second thought of moving in this circumstance - I would be out of there like a bay out of hell!!!

brettgirl2 Wed 18-Dec-13 16:55:50

yabu its her decision.

Debs75 Thu 19-Dec-13 18:34:53

OP We have been eligible for a 4 bed for 2 years now and in that time we turned down loads of private rent 4 beds in the hope the council would come through for us, they didn't.
In the end we got a HA one. It was the first time in over 6 years that a 4 bed had come up for rent with them. They have quite a few 4 and 5 as well.

Surely the two brothers could share bedrooms for a while. Put them in the biggest bedroom and split down the middle.

NatashaBee Thu 19-Dec-13 18:40:50

I would imagine it would take a long while before a 4-bed comes up, if ever. And in the meantime one or more of her children may have moved out, making her only eligible for a smaller house anyway. I'd encourage her to move.

HansieMom Thu 19-Dec-13 19:03:38

For the asbestos reason alone, she should move.

MissBetseyTrotwood Thu 19-Dec-13 19:09:53

Move. Defo. Ime situations like those never get better. They get worse until they explode with horrible results for everyone around.

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