To think people working on the checkout shouldn't comment on pregnancy tests?

[Onelittlebugbear]

I'm probably overly sensitive since we've been trying for over a year and starting ivf in February (dh infertile). I haven't tested for a few months but had (false) christmas hope this month.

Checkout lady said 'oh are you hoping to give him a nice christmas surprise? Or would it be a bad surprise and not a good christmas gift?'

It made me actually want to cry. The test is negative btw. Obviously. Because I was stupid to think I was ever likely to be pregnant, it's just never going to happen.

[BrianTheMole]

I'd prefer it if they didn't. Its quite personal and they don't know the persons circumstances.

[VampyreofTimeandMemory]

Probably just being friendly but I agree that they shouldn't really comment on any products. Particularly something that personal.

[eurochick]

It's very silly to comment.

[Onelittlebugbear]

And I was buying a million things, not just the test. She could have commented about any other item, or asked about christmas but no. Just the pregnancy test.

I feel extremely sorry for myself today - which it probably ironically partly pmt.

[procrastinatingagain]

YANBU. It's not appropriate for someone to comment. Any time I've bought a pregnancy test, I've either not wanted to be pregnant, or not wanted anyone I know to see me buying it, so I wouldn't want any extra attention drawn to it. Sorry to hear you're not pregnant and hope the IVF works for you

[FortyDoorsToNowhere]

They shouldn't comment on personal items.

[TheArticFunky]

YANBU.

I would be inclined to complain.

I deliberately avoid the checkout women who have commented on my shopping. It's bad enough when they make a jokey comment about a ready meal but to comment on a pregnancy is completely unacceptable.

[TheArticFunky]

test

[darjeelingdarling]

YANBU

[msmoss]

I suspect she didn't mean to make you feel bad, from what you've written regarding her second comment is sounds like she may well have realised half way through that she shouldn't really have sad something.

(Although of course I wasn't there and some people are just busybodies)

Try not to dwell on it.

[MrsSteptoe]

Oh my gosh, no, you're not being unreasonable. That's very personal. She might as well have commented on a box of Durex in my trolley. But some people do have a slightly off sense of what's appropriate with strangers. Hopefully someone might say somethng gently to her before she gets her head bitten off!

[manticlimactic]

No, no no! YANBU. I've worked on tills and there are things you never, ever, ever comment on. Pregnancy tests, condoms or SPs. Unless the customer mentions anything.

[eurochick]

Can I recommend the internet cheapie tests? Not only are they cheap, you buy them online so no human interaction in involved.

I'm not much of a tester when ttc naturally, but I can't help myself when doing an IVF cycle, mainly because the drugs screw your natural cues as to whether or not AF is on the way.

[CranberrySaucyJack]

Y couldn't B any less U if you tried.

What a stupid cow.

[Onelittlebugbear]

That may be the way forwards Euro.
And probably cheaper too.

Probably more sensible to give up. I may lie on the sofa eating crisps all day.

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

YANBU and sorry it upset you.

I don't understand why they comment - there is absolutely no good way to frame it so why try?

[Pawprint]

I bought one at the supermarket and the idiot checkout guy shouted "Good luck!" as I walked away. It really upset me so YANBU.

[lessonsintightropes]

Silly and insensitive I think - I know just how you feel, TTC for 5 months now and I really hate it when people on the checkout feel the need to comment on my purchase.

[FlipFlippingFlippers]

Got a bfn myself this morning. Been sad and crying at all the Christmas adverts.

Yanbu she shouldn't have said anything.

[Thanks]

[FlipFlippingFlippers]

I meant obviously

[NigellasDealer]

YANBU it is nobody's business what you are buying

[fluffyraggies]

I usually come down on the side of the shop worker on threads, but in this case YANBU AT ALL! Sorry about BFN.

Of course personal items shouldn't be commented on. Preg. tests, tampons, incontinence pads, ovulation predictors, hemaroid (sp?) cream ... none of these are fair game for a quip from the check out person. How rude.

In fact, and this is the first time i've said this, i'd complain about the assistant to the management. You can do it by letter or email if it helps.

[fluffyraggies]

flip - for you too :(

[CeliaLytton]

YANBU. Once I had a checkout woman say to me 'I hope you get the result you want' which seemed very PC but still managed to offend me as it sounded like she thought I wouldn't want to be pregnant, and why not, I'd be a fab mum, etc etc.

Why the fuck would you comment in ANY way on a pregnancy test?!

[snowed]

YANBU. Of course they shouldn't try to start a conversation about it - it's completely private. I would complain.