to be so bloody angry with dh.

(37 Posts)
nightbird80 Tue 10-Dec-13 20:16:00

We have 3dc. 2 primary school aged and a toddler. I do virtually all housework and childdcare and run my own business. Not amazingly lucrative but I do make a profit. So I thought Ihave had a productive day today. Did all the basics such as feeding, dc.caring for toddler, 2 school runs , club runs, loading dishwasher etc.
I alsso managed two loads of washing and sorted out my stock aand di some banking. Sorting out my stock involved vacuuming the room it is stored in. I had to abandon vacuuming to sort out dinner for dc and club run. Dh now has a huge cobon because I left vacuum cleaner out.
Aibu to give him a list of what I have done today. I know he works hard but I work hard too.

SirChenjin Wed 11-Dec-13 08:05:51

So your DH does nothing around the house Joysmum?

CaptainHindsight Wed 11-Dec-13 08:08:37

If this was my house....

"Three friends married women from different parts of the world.

..The first man married a Greek girl

. He told her that she was to do the dishes and house cleaning.

It took a couple of days, but on the third day he came home to see a clean house and dishes washed and put away.
The second man married a Thai girl.

He gave his wife orders that she was to do all the cleaning, dishes and the cooking. The first day he didn't see any results but the next day he saw it was better.

By the third day he saw his house was clean, the dishes were done, and there was a huge dinner on the table. ...

.The third man married a girl from Yorkshire.
He ordered her to keep the house cleaned,
dishes washed, lawn mowed, laundry washed, and hot meals on the table every day. The first day he didn't see anything,

the second day he didn't see anything either,

...... but by the third day, some of the swelling had gone down,

he could see a little out of his left eye and his arm was healed enough that he could fix himself a sandwich and load the dishwasher.

He still has some difficulty when he urinates."

picnicbasketcase Wed 11-Dec-13 08:10:45

OP's husband is being a dick. If something is in the way he can put it away himself, it's not a huge ask. However, I'm not sure jokes about punching people in the face is the way forward.

CaptainHindsight Wed 11-Dec-13 08:13:57

It wasn't just the face, he also took one to the groin grin

hope people take the joke in the spirit it was intended

nightbird80 Wed 11-Dec-13 08:41:21

I can only dream of a tidy house and laundry done etc. Everone in the house is so messy. Dh will moan at kids for not taking cups into the kitchen but almo2 every mum dhs mug or glass is sat on coff2 table. He knows I have to move it otherwise toddler will get it.

nightbird80 Wed 11-Dec-13 08:42:06

Almost and morning.

Lavenderhoney Wed 11-Dec-13 08:51:52

Ask him to empty out or change the bag before he puts it away.

Upset because the Hoover is not put away? He doesn't know he's born.

RhondaJean Wed 11-Dec-13 08:52:41

Move it onto his pillow.

Works wonders.

TantrumsStoleSantasBalloons Wed 11-Dec-13 08:55:58

joysmum I don't actually understand how that works tbh.
Your dd has to help around the house but your DH doesn't?

What if there was an emergency and you had to go away for a few days? Your dd would be able to run the house better than your DH, no?

If I were to come home and the Hoover was out, I would pick it up and put it back in the Hoover cupboard.
If DH came home and the Hoover was out, he would put it back in the Hoover cupboard.
If dd, ds1 or ds2 came home and the Hoover was out, they would put it in the Hoover cupboard.

And it would end there. That's common sense isn't it?

We all live in the house. If you see something that needs putting away, then you put it away

It doesn't require a conversation, or a medal for moving it, or tea and sympathy for having to move it.

You just fucking do it.

ChasedByBees Wed 11-Dec-13 08:58:27

He is quite massively taking you for granted. You need to have A Word.

TheHeadlessLadyofCannock Wed 11-Dec-13 09:06:37

He can fuck off, grow up, put the hoover away himself and remove it from his arse/throat.

In whatever order. grin

Donkeylovesmarzipanandmincepie Wed 11-Dec-13 09:09:17

3 small DCs or 1 older DD or child-free - it is DH's attitude that matters. If it hadn't been the vacuum cleaner would it have been something else that he metaphorically kicked? Is he always like this after work?

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