AIBU - DPs Annual Ball.

(78 Posts)
ImAnElfJeSuisUneElf Tue 10-Dec-13 19:35:03

Short and snappy, tries and quite lighthearted. grin

DPs annual ball is free for him to attend (the company pays)

If I go with him, it costs £25 for my seat/dinner.

The arranged rate with the hotel is £100 - so £50 each.

DP is insisting I pay for my meal, and my half of the hotel as he doesn't want to go alone.

I personally, am not all that fussed, but having been told that, not only do I have to pay to hold his hand, I'm paying MORE than him, to attend HIS do, I've decide that I won't bother.

I offered to go halves on my meal so it was an equal split, he wasn't interested.

He things I'm being a cow now, I think I'm being entirely reasonable. gringrin

AIBU?

QuacksForDoughnuts Tue 10-Dec-13 19:40:34

YANBU if he's the one pushing you to go and you're not bothered. If you'd been insisting on going it would have been more reasonable of him to expect you to cough up.

Chottie Tue 10-Dec-13 19:41:34

I think that if he wants you to attend, he should at least pay for your ticket. I've never heard of companies charging OHs for attending an annual ball before.

Chottie Tue 10-Dec-13 19:42:19

p.s. you are NOT a cow and please tell DP I said so.......

BohemianGirl Tue 10-Dec-13 19:42:25

'P' - no way - sorry, as light hearted as your thread is , no woman pays to spend a night with a bloke.

FitzgeraldProtagonist Tue 10-Dec-13 19:47:02

Wtf - why would you pay anything?! Xx

ImAnElfJeSuisUneElf Tue 10-Dec-13 19:47:48

It's his job, his colleagues, his whole 'thing', I genuinely don't understand why I need to pay more than him to attend.

SybilRamkin Tue 10-Dec-13 19:50:21

What?? You're being massively generous offering to pay for anything given that it's his bloody do - YANBU at all, he's being an arse!

magesticmallow Tue 10-Dec-13 19:52:22

YABU to be with someone so tight, I could not be in a relationship where money was so calculated. YANBU to not go

Whocansay Tue 10-Dec-13 19:52:43

So, he wants you to do him a favour and pay for the privilege? He's an arse.

Given that the event is likely to be tedious at best, he should be paying for you to go and doing so gladly!

ZillionChocolate Tue 10-Dec-13 19:53:02

I think it would be reasonable for you to pay the additional cost in you attending. You pay £25, he pays £100.

chipshop Tue 10-Dec-13 19:54:41

My DP would definitely pay for me to go, he'd be so grateful! And vice versa. You are totally in the right.

AnUnearthlyChild Tue 10-Dec-13 19:54:45

Wtf - why would you pay anything?! Xx

Quite.

He wants you there. He coughs up. What a tightwad. To put it in context Dh has offered to pay for me to go to my own work do. on my own, partners not invited because I didn't want to pay any more out this month ( I may have overspent on my share of personal spends a little this month)

Chlorinella Tue 10-Dec-13 19:55:05

He should be paying for you

IceNoSlice Tue 10-Dec-13 19:55:27

I think he should pay for all your costs!

tinkertitonk Tue 10-Dec-13 19:55:55

At £25 the dinner and drink will be filthy.

Don't go.

IceNoSlice Tue 10-Dec-13 19:56:12

(In the context of the work do, I mean, not everything ever).

ImAnElfJeSuisUneElf Tue 10-Dec-13 19:56:55

I really don't mind paying something towards, it's the paying MORE that really riles me! grin

HairyPorter Tue 10-Dec-13 19:57:10

Agree he should pay for your ticket. Maybe consider going halves on the hotel?

Pinupgirl Tue 10-Dec-13 19:57:12

I would be dumping this dp sharpish-I can't abide tight gits.

ImAnElfJeSuisUneElf Tue 10-Dec-13 19:57:21

iceno gringrin

AndHarry Tue 10-Dec-13 19:57:29

He should be paying for everything for the both of you. Why would you be paying for anything? confused

conclusionjumper Tue 10-Dec-13 19:57:44

What a tightwad. It must be hard to keep your hands off him. He wants you to come, he pays your ticket and the hotel. I would say politely that you don't really like the way the arrangements are being made and the emphasis on money, so you'll bow out this time, to avoid a blood
bath a row.

Lifeisaboxofchocs Tue 10-Dec-13 19:57:57

and they say romance is dead.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism Tue 10-Dec-13 19:59:24

That really is incredibly tight.

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