To be tired of being expected to wrap everyone else's Christmas presents?

(57 Posts)
Libra Tue 10-Dec-13 12:15:56

I probably am. Am prepared for a flaming. It is of course lovely that our relations want to send presents for DS1 and DS2, plus of course DS2's birthday a few days before Christmas. And we are very grateful for this.

The problem is that I am just exhausted by the thought of all the wrapping because all of them are just getting parcels delivered to our house 'and then can you just wrap it up for him please'? To say nothing of the fact that they all seem to have chosen Amazon and so all the boxes look exactly the same. Plus the fact that the presents for me and DH are also being sent this way but 'don't open those whatever you do!' Well how can I avoid doing that when I am surrounded by Amazon boxes of the same shape and size? How do I magically know which one I should open and wrap for the children and which one is for me and so should be left alone?

Oh, and it would be lovely if I could have a nicely wrapped present to open myself rather than just a small pile of Amazon boxes.

I did my present shopping earlier, thought about the fact that it would all need to be posted or carried on an airline, wrapped it all nicely and sent it like that. But it seems that no one is going to do that for me!

Yes, I am BU because it is nice that people are sending presents, but I really would like someone at least to do more than click on a link and put in my address and then expect me to do all the wrapping and writing of an address label and working out whose present is whose (there is some vagueness already about which book has been bought for which son...)

I am in exactly the same situation op and it drives me nuts. fangry

As some previous posters have suggested I went out and bought some of those huge and very cheap gift sack things and everything unwrapped from relatives is getting shoved in there.

I think that if someone gave you a present for your DCs in RL and they just handed it over unwrapped expecting you to buy tags and paper and to wrap it all up that it would be rude and unreasonable.

Lutrine Wed 11-Dec-13 00:48:48

Yanbu, its really annoying! My MIL did this with DHs birthday presents this year when I had a 3 week old DD to contend with as well as the extra wrapping. I did it as soon as they arrived in an attempt to be organised, then 2 days later she sent me some wrapping paper she'd like me to use on them, bloody cheek!

Lutrine Wed 11-Dec-13 00:48:44

Yanbu, its really annoying! My MIL did this with DHs birthday presents this year when I had a 3 week old DD to contend with as well as the extra wrapping. I did it as soon as they arrived in an attempt to be organised, then 2 days later she sent me some wrapping paper she'd like me to use on them, bloody cheek!

Jinsei Wed 11-Dec-13 00:12:11

suttonmum, I have one of those too. It definitely makes wrapping easier!

TheDoctrineOfSanta Tue 10-Dec-13 22:57:47

Because it's £3.50 or something! Depends what you spend but if it's £10 or less, that's a fair chunk.

OP, I'd just amazon them back!

whereisshe Tue 10-Dec-13 22:57:46

YANBU, I miss getting properly wrapped presents. At least half the presents I get these days don't even have some kind of gift message in the parcel so I have to guess who it's from!

I always get everything sent to me, wrap it, then post it on. So much more fun and also more personal I think. And I feel I'm doing my bit to keep Royal Mail solvent wink...

Mim78 Tue 10-Dec-13 22:47:09

Why not use Amazon gift wrap option as everyone has suggested? They can't possibly be that tight!

I have sent a few presents directly to people this year (or to other rellies that live nearby) but ONLY IF GIFTWRAPPED FIRST.

Suttonmum1 Tue 10-Dec-13 22:37:11

Some years ago I bought one of those sellotape dispensers you put on your wrists. Hideously expensive way of using sellotape but it really speeds things up. I only use it at Christmas.

CrispyFB Tue 10-Dec-13 22:25:22

TheDoctrineofSanta - If it was just us, I wouldn't - but the DC like to see daddy unwrap stuff too!

Jinsei Tue 10-Dec-13 21:07:28

Wow, I'm truly amazed that so many people are saying yanbu. I think you're being ungrateful.

My DSis expects me to wrap stuff for dd every year (I even had to go out and collect it last year!) and it has never occurred to me to mind! I also wrap stuff from various aunts and uncles, family friends etc. I just think it's generous of them to give presents to dd, and I'm grateful for that.

I tend to be more organised about Christmas than others in my family, and the last couple of years, I've ended up helping them out with wrapping their gifts for other members of the family too. It really isn't that big a deal.

sandfrog Tue 10-Dec-13 20:33:25

> I spend time choosing wrapping paper and writing a nice message on the label and then going to the post office, etc. But they just point and click and expect me to do everything else.

Agree. Surely part of Christmas giving is making an effort for others.

TheDoctrineOfSanta Tue 10-Dec-13 20:16:51

I never pay for amacon gift wrap but then I only amacon stuff over to a friend's DD and she does the same - kids just open the boxes.

TheDoctrineOfSanta Tue 10-Dec-13 20:14:34

CrispyFB, don't wrap your DH's presents FFS.

CrispyFB Tue 10-Dec-13 20:08:49

I agree with you. We have three DC (and DC4 on the way) and my side of the family has been doing this for years now and occasionally DH's family although they are a lot better about it. It wasn't so bad when it was just one DC, but a precedent was clearly set.

I understand why, because it is saving them money on postage. And postage can be quite hefty after all. And the odd one or two wouldn't be so bad and each relative only sees it as "just a few, what's the harm?".

However, from our point of view, multiply a few relatives by 3 DC (plus DH, guess who has to wrap his presents from family..) and a few presents for each one and it gets excessive. Having already wrapped the present mountain from us, it is frustrating to have to spend a further half an hour wrapping the rest. It's not the cost, it's the hassle - I'm exhausted after just doing ours and already sick of the sight of presents. Especially as DS (toddler) is not so good at going to bed at a reasonable time so we don't have much spare child-free time to tackle the wrapping anyway. Therefore it usually means a much later bedtime for us staying up doing everyone else's wrapping and we're grumpier the next day.

Of course we're grateful for the presents for the DC but these are immediate relatives - it would be a bit unreasonable of them to send nothing! I mean, we're grateful, we wrap them, but I'd rather they wrapped them. Or paid Amazon to wrap them. Heck, WE will pay Amazon to wrap them if they asked and cost is the issue, I am so sick of it!

I should point out that usually all our presents we give out are shipped to us, wrapped, and sent on.. just sayin'. So no hypocrisy here!

Merrylegs Tue 10-Dec-13 19:22:03

Don't wrap them - that is bonkers. Why not open all the wrapped presents first and save the parcels for a little later in the day? Makes it all less overwhelming and exciting also. You could just stick a bow on each parcel if you think they need festiving up. Amazon charge an extra £3.10 for giftwrapping even a small book - that's a lot to add to a present.

BeeBawBabbity Tue 10-Dec-13 18:33:50

I dont see the problem tbh. Think of the extra resourses used in having a parcel sent to a first address, wrapped, taken to a post office, second postage paid for and then transported again (time, money, carbon emissions). The wrapping paper is ripped of in a second then needs recycling.

I think it's unnecessary and wasteful. Ive sent a present to a friends baby before, direct from amazon. They told me to gift wrap it next time. I thought that was rude.

BsshBossh Tue 10-Dec-13 18:29:02

YANBU. We have a few relatives who used to do this until I told them either please send them using Amazon's gift wrap option or have them delivered to their own house and post on wrapped. I explained I didn't have time to wrap everything myself (which was the truth). Plus I'm an exceptionally lousy wrapper.

superram Tue 10-Dec-13 18:19:03

I send parcels without paying £3.50

CallMeNancy Tue 10-Dec-13 18:08:24

You are packing wrong if it's a chore.
Forget paper, Sellotape, & ribbon.
Bags & pillows are the way forwards. Takes seconds.

Ikea has a fantastic range of gift pillows which get heavily reduced after christmas

PTFO Tue 10-Dec-13 18:00:49

YANBU

This year I have had to decide on behalf of family and friends what to buy DS (its hard enough as it is as there is nothing cheap on his list, so end up using my good ideas for them!). he is the only child in the family and not one can be bothered to look online or go into a shop.

So I have to choose, wait for things to go on offer keep checking until it does, order, pay for delivery/collect from shop (and pay parking) then gift wrap or drop it off at their house so it look like they could be bothered! Then wait until after Christmas when they can be bothered/afford to pay me.

Oh and my dm who says "I have no idea what to get so and so what are you getting them?" so I say im getting ABC and then she says "oh yes that's a good idea, Ill get them that".....WTF!!

I make an effort buying gifts for other people- what will I get for xmas- money Im too difficult to buy for!!

KatnipEvergreen Tue 10-Dec-13 17:43:12

YANBU. A lot of very lazy relatives on the thread!

NothingMoreScaryThanAHairyMary Tue 10-Dec-13 17:37:14

My family do this but I don't have a problem with it.

I would rather the dc had the money spent on presents than on the postage/ wrapping services (which cost almost half what is spent). It seems like a huge waste for the sake of a couple of hours wrapping (most of my family live away and 3 dc's).

Dh helps and it is now just a tradition.

SunshineMMum Tue 10-Dec-13 17:19:51

Definitely NBU, I get a bit niggled at having finished mine, having to think, source, shop and order everyone else'. I am going to give them a deadline of Dec 6th next year grin

sandfrog Tue 10-Dec-13 16:56:24

YANBU

BreakingGood Tue 10-Dec-13 15:13:15

I use fabric Christmas bags with drawstrings - you can get them cheaply off eBay and, of course, can be used year after year. Just shove the entire box in!

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