to stop the water?

(38 Posts)
meeemo Sun 08-Dec-13 21:28:39

Moved into a new house a few months ago. There is a field next to us, and they have animals grazing. We asked if there was room to put our animal to graze also. The husband said he would check with his wife, but wasn't sure because someone else had asked the same months back and they declined them.

So i gave them our number to give us a call and let us know what he said.

Many Many weeks have passed and we have not had any contact to tell us either way.

AIBU to turn off the water that runs from our house to their field? they had an arrangement with the previous owners that they could use the water.

I think that if they cant even give us the decency to tell us we could not share the field, then why bother to give then the same courtesy re the water.

PigletJohn Mon 09-Dec-13 00:31:20

have you got a water meter (yet)?

If not, what is your water rates bill?

trufflesnuffler Mon 09-Dec-13 00:09:58

I would ask again incase something has happened and they've merely forgotten.

Maybe wife found a Lovehoney receipt... wink

Ionlywantitall Sun 08-Dec-13 23:58:14

FFS I provide

blames wine fgrin

Ionlywantitall Sun 08-Dec-13 23:55:49

Just to point out- that provide an independent source of water on the farm. solely for agricultural use.

Ionlywantitall Sun 08-Dec-13 23:53:00


I have both a well at my house and a farm in another location. I can assure you that donating water does cost you money.

You have well that has a pump that runs on electricity and there is considerable wear and tear on the pump itself. It is also advisable to have your pump checked by a plumber every few years to ensure its ok. None of this is cheap. I provide an independent source of water for my land- maintaining this is far from free. Your neighbours owe you big time!

AntlersInAllOfMyDecorating Sun 08-Dec-13 23:52:30

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CSIJanner Sun 08-Dec-13 23:23:23

Ignoring the grazing animals question.

The front of your lounge is very boggy? Then you need to warn them that you'll be shutting off the pipe due to leaking water. Continuous wet ground outside of your property isn't good, especially in winter. You need to check if you've been charged for the water, damp, possible structural damage to the property and basically let the ground recover.

pottytowork Sun 08-Dec-13 23:03:09

thats what I think too starof

pottytowork Sun 08-Dec-13 22:59:01

joys mum. when have I said that it wasnt a problem before?

starofbethlehemfishmummy Sun 08-Dec-13 22:57:36

So you have a huge pipe running along your garden...I think they need to make other arrangements

WooWooOwl Sun 08-Dec-13 22:53:22

But they pretty much said no the first time you asked. Learn to take a hint!

Millenniumbug1 Sun 08-Dec-13 22:41:33

What Deepthought said + it will only come back & torment you, as in, "Manon des Sources!"

meeemo Sun 08-Dec-13 22:32:14

i can not tell how much land they have. lots of fields, possibly belonging to same person or different people.

I totally understand that they may not have enough room, you would have thought that they could have got back to me though!

Joysmum Sun 08-Dec-13 22:30:44

Ah so it wasn't a problem before but it is now. Spiteful.

As someone who has rented land myself for 6.5 years, the last thing I'd want to do is share. Mine was a closed herd so no problems worming and disease control etc.

I had water from the house opposite, no water meters so no cost to them.

ADishBestEatenCold Sun 08-Dec-13 22:22:20

Do they have sufficient grazing to allow for your animal as well, meeemo?

How many acres in size is the field, what type of grazing is it, is it divided and part rested/rotated, how many and what species & size of animals do they already have, and what species and size is your animal?

For example, if they only had two acres of rough mixed grazing and already had two ponies and a Blackface ewe, then they would already be grazing right to maximum capacity, and wouldn't have room for someone's horse.

Sometimes it can look as if people are being mean, when in fact to add just one more herbivore would overgraze and ruin the grass for all (especially with horses and ponies).

WooWooOwl Sun 08-Dec-13 22:14:04

I agree it would be a spiteful, and very petty thing to do.

If you've had no contact with them for many many weeks, then you have no idea what's going in in their lives that may have meant that something as simple as a text that they would normally send has become something that has slipped off their radar entirely.

They might have actual problems to be dealing with that make sending a text confirming what they had already massively hinted at seem like a non issue. In fact it seems like a non issue anyway!

meeemo Sun 08-Dec-13 22:13:50

I have not found out if it is free water yet!

at the moment there is a great big pipe going up the middle of the garden. The ground is VERY soggy because the tap drips. which means the area in front of our lounge is very boggy

KungFuBustle Sun 08-Dec-13 22:04:54

A favour is going out of your way for someone. If it's no skin off your nose and requires no effort or cost it's not a favour.

Ever heard the phrase "wouldn't give you the steam off their piss"?

Feels more along those lines rather than declining to do a favour.

meeemo Sun 08-Dec-13 22:01:05

surely if you want someone to do a favour for you, then you would at least do them the curtsey of getting back to them?

EnlightenedOwl Sun 08-Dec-13 21:54:36

bit spiteful isn't it?

meeemo Sun 08-Dec-13 21:54:27

I would rather not have to put them into the position of having to say no, as you said people would rather just leave it.
That is fine with us, there was no pressure for them to allow us to share.

I am not blackmailing them to allow us to graze!!

when we asked them and they said they had already turned someone down for grazing, we didnt get our hopes up. We did at least expect a text/ phone call just letting us know!

yes, they can cart water ( like we do currently) or make an adaptation.

Like i said i think it is free, DH deals with all of that. it may well be from a well... the house is VERY old, so lots round here are from springs.

AntlersInAllOfMyDecorating Sun 08-Dec-13 21:53:28

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KungFuBustle Sun 08-Dec-13 21:46:54

Do it, Papet!

TwistedRib Sun 08-Dec-13 21:46:26

You can't blackmail them into letting you graze there, and if you turn the water off they will probably just cart the water in themselves or make an adaptation to whatever is feeding into the drinking trough. You'll have destroyed any neighbourly relations in the process.

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen Sun 08-Dec-13 21:46:17

How can it be free? Is it from a well?

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