Who was being unreasonable?

(17 Posts)
SkippydedoDaa Sun 08-Dec-13 20:31:29

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WhoNickedMyName Sun 08-Dec-13 20:35:39

Neither of you.

She was probably trying to enjoy watching one child dancing while her baby was sleeping, and was a bit anxious in case your child woke hers up. A screaming child having a tantrum near your 'just got to sleep' baby is every parents nightmare grin.

No biggy. Don't give it another thought.

Sirzy Sun 08-Dec-13 20:37:06

What WhoNicked said.

Agree. But maybe she was just thinking, shit, I've got all this yet to come wink

HerrenaHarridan Sun 08-Dec-13 20:39:34

Another neither.

She probably couldn't help but glare. I've done it on occasion when dd has been a nightmare and finally gone to sleep I have found myself giving 'innocent' toddlers death glares because I am imagining the consequences of them waking the baby.

99% of the time I'm a very relaxed parent would be cross of your kid pushes mine over etc but some days are just like that smile

HerrenaHarridan Sun 08-Dec-13 20:40:13

Wouldn't b cross obviously

Sorry, that was a bit trite. I find smiling, saying sorry occasionally and being joyfully oblivious to the cat's bum faces works a treat.

<disclaimer: 14 years of autistic ds practice>

AnnabelleLee Sun 08-Dec-13 20:44:20

So much angst because a woman had a look on her face? Seriously, read a book or something, stop with the thinking.

SkippydedoDaa Sun 08-Dec-13 20:46:31

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MisForMumNotMaid Sun 08-Dec-13 20:50:14

Don't overthink it.

No doubt you've had moments were if someone rings the door bell/ phone, opens a door, sneezes etc etc at the wrong moment you'd be tempted to bite their head off (over a just settled baby) - or that might just be mewink

She may have had several really bad nights sleep and so be relieved she could just sit for a while, so a playing toddler was suddenly a major threat. The face pulling is childish of her, and toddlers play and have tantrums so you needn't feel guilty for that.

Pinholes Sun 08-Dec-13 20:57:14

So much angst because a woman had a look on her face? Seriously, read a book or something, stop with the thinking.

OP has social anxiety, do you also go around telling people with depression to just cheer the fuck up? hmm

SkippydedoDaa Sun 08-Dec-13 21:00:15

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WhoNickedMyName Sun 08-Dec-13 21:06:32

As someone who has also had social anxiety, I know that you'll have probably picked up on one tiny glance between this woman and her friend and then become hyper-aware and hypersensitive.

She's left the dance class with her still sleeping baby, and honestly not given you or your toddler another thought.

SkippydedoDaa Sun 08-Dec-13 21:11:35

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WhoNickedMyName Sun 08-Dec-13 21:26:21

I read a lot of self help books and various websites were helpful.

But the main thing was I had 6 months of CBT which I paid for privately (best money I ever spent), and I have occasional top up sessions with a psychotherapist at work (I work for NHS so she does it as a friend/colleague freebie). I still occasionally catch myself slipping back into old ways of thinking and behaving, I think it's going to be a lifelong thing for me that there's no cure for as such, but I can manage it quite well at the moment.

AbiRoad Sun 08-Dec-13 21:38:50

I don't think you were unreasonable but out of interest why don't you just let DH take DD 1 and you stay at home or do something else with DD2?

gobbynorthernbird Sun 08-Dec-13 21:49:28

Some people (me included) just have a bit of a bitchy face. Don't read too much into it.

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