Aibu and a bit gross or was this a twatty comment from boyfriend? (maybe tmi)

(103 Posts)
RainbowShadow Sun 08-Dec-13 00:12:41

When I have sex with my boyfriend we don't use a condom (I am on the pill and we've both been tested etc)

Anyway after we're finished I usually like to cuddle for maximum 10 minutes (give or take) and then I'll use the bathroom, wipe with tissue and then use a babywipe. Then I'll have a shower in the morning - as I do anyway.

Last night again after we'd finished (we're talking minutes), bf asked me if I was going to clean myself, I replied yes of course I was and that I always do anyway.

He then replied - yeah you do .... but not always straight away, and I don't want you to get all horrible down there.

hmm

BuzzardBird Sun 08-Dec-13 00:14:39

Try using a condom...over his head grin gross

MammaTJ Sun 08-Dec-13 00:15:41

BuzzardBird has it right!

nennypops Sun 08-Dec-13 00:17:37

It was a tatty comment. He does realise, doesn't he, that if you are "all horrible down there" it's because of what comes out of him?

nennypops Sun 08-Dec-13 00:18:28

Twatty, not tatty. Predictive text obviously didn't approve of my language

T100 Sun 08-Dec-13 00:19:39

Definitely a twatty comment but if you're probe to UTIs it's worth visiting the loo sooner after dtd than later.

WooWooOwl Sun 08-Dec-13 00:21:51

Does he go clean himself? I very much doubt he's squeaky clean down there after the deed is done either!

FandangoLaLaLaLaLaLaLaaaa Sun 08-Dec-13 00:26:10

YANBU what does he want you to do get busy with the Dettol as soon as he's finished?

AgentZigzag Sun 08-Dec-13 00:28:34

He was encouraging you to improve your personal hygiene as he'd been keeping an eye on it previously and wasn't keen on what he'd seen.

Of course he was being a twat!

Even if he had noticed, it's pretty crass to actually say it out loud.

Did he think you'd be grateful for the heads up (so to speak)?

Maybe he thought you'd ask him for any other pointers he'd noted?

Maybe83 Sun 08-Dec-13 00:33:43

twat of the highest order cuddly after the deed is nearly better than! I wouldn't mind but its mostly him that would have caused the mess.

Do you know it would be condoms all the way now and I d be querying when he was getting up to get cleaned up...

RainbowShadow Sun 08-Dec-13 00:36:28

He was encouraging you to improve your personal hygiene as he'd been keeping an eye on it previously and wasn't keen on what he'd seen.

He wasn't encouraging me to improve my personal hygiene actually. hmm

He's basically making the point that I'm nice and clean down there and he wants it to stay that way.

trufflesnuffler Sun 08-Dec-13 00:42:24

I recommend a good scrub with a loo brush

AgentZigzag Sun 08-Dec-13 00:42:25

I was being sarky and saying it as him being a twat Rainbow, I wasn't negatively commenting on your hygiene!

He said 'He then replied - yeah you do .... but not always straight away', that was him being a cheeky fuck.

AgentZigzag Sun 08-Dec-13 00:43:22

grin wire brush and dettol truffle? (billy connolly)

BitOfFunWithSanta Sun 08-Dec-13 00:43:23

It's still yeuch.

If he's got an issue with his polluting qualities, that is his problem.

WorraLiberty Sun 08-Dec-13 00:43:31

His reaction is too weird to contemplate.

Does he immediately clean himself?

Is he one of these people who uses antibac wipes on everything he touches?

trufflesnuffler Sun 08-Dec-13 00:45:49

Definitely agent! I keep a blue bloc inside me at all times grin

FrameyMcFrame Sun 08-Dec-13 00:47:09

Ugh what a grotesque comment!!!

The bit he misses off his sentence but is implied. '.I don't want you to get all horrible down there....for MY pleasure!!!!'

Bossy and horribly childlike in one comment.

Urgh it's your body, he has so objectified you there.

Gross. LTB

yesyestisme Sun 08-Dec-13 00:48:41

He probably has a penisbeaker grin

kotinka Sun 08-Dec-13 00:52:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DoYouLikeMyBaubles Sun 08-Dec-13 00:55:12

It wouldn't bother me personally because I can imagine my DP saying it and I know how he'd mean it, but your DP might have meant it in a completely different way.

tinmug Sun 08-Dec-13 00:57:50

What does "all horrible down there" actually mean though? confused Vaginas are wipe-clean. They don't get stained if you don't wipe up any spills straight away.

K8Middleton Sun 08-Dec-13 00:58:00

You'd stay really nice... pristine even if he didn't touch you at all.

He is a fool and sounds about 14.

DoYouLikeMyBaubles Sun 08-Dec-13 01:00:32

I wonder if he's imagine blue waffle.

BillyBanter Sun 08-Dec-13 01:01:22

I think if someone said that to me the ''Fuck off'' would be out of my mouth before I knew I was saying it. If he's got an issue he can own it himself instead of making it yours.

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