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To be annoyed? Or am I being pathetic??

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2Tiredtocare Sun 01-Dec-13 21:02:47

DD6 went to a birthday party this weekend and when I was dropping her off the party mum asked her what she would like to eat out of 3 options and what she'd like to drink out of Coke, Diet Coke, Fanta and Sprite. I said she's not really allowed/into fizzy drinks, party mum said fine she can have something else. DH picked her up and she was very happy as she'd had coke, I feel quite pissed off as we've got this far without going down the coke route and typically she loved it, I guess I need a grip as she's not a baby but it aggravates me. At least it wasn't diet coke I suppose, hate that crap

perplexedpirate Sun 01-Dec-13 21:05:59

How do you know she had coke? If it was just her telling you, could she be mistaken? Maybe they gave her something else and called it coke?

Thesimplethings England Sun 01-Dec-13 21:06:13

Yanbu she asked - you told her. I would be annoyed too.

However. Did she sneak it when host wasn't looking? Also you said she's not 'really' allowed those drinks... Maybe you should have said she is not allowed those, please give her x instead

WaffilyVersatile Sun 01-Dec-13 21:06:50

Yes its utter garbage but it was a party.. I would just let it go

2Tiredtocare Sun 01-Dec-13 21:08:43

Yes I think maybe I was a bit too wishy washy, just didn't want to embarrass her apparently fizzy drinks are the norm in her class. I'm pretty sure that her friends would have told her it wasn't coke if it wasn't Iyswim

puntasticusername Sun 01-Dec-13 21:08:45

I think the party parents were being UR by only providing fizzy drink options, but - I'd let it go myself, as a one-off it won't kill her. She was always going to discover the stuff someday!

My DS went to a party today and was allowed to eat as many chocolate fingers as he wanted (after lining his stomach with cheese and ham sandwiches, grapes and cucumber and carrot sticks), it's cool, he knows that party food is special and we don't eat the same way at home.

2Tiredtocare Sun 01-Dec-13 21:09:05

But my baby waaaah

Cleorapter Sun 01-Dec-13 21:11:28

I don't think you're being unreasonable, my DD hasn't had any fizzy drinks and she's 8. blush

alwaysneedaholiday Sun 01-Dec-13 21:12:38

I agree with puntastic that something else should have been on offer, but I really wouldn't be upset about a one-off slip! She is 6, not 1. I'm sure she won't be demanding Coke for breakfast in the morning smile

puntasticusername Sun 01-Dec-13 21:12:45

thanks I know, must be upsetting for you that this happened out of your sight and control.

I'll say again, though - did you actually expect her to get to the age of, what 18 without discovering fizzy drinks?

Shallistopnow Sun 01-Dec-13 21:15:58

Is she 6 or the 6th DD? I met a little girl called Six once because she was the 6th child.

2Tiredtocare Sun 01-Dec-13 21:17:11

I really don't know Pun 6 just seems so young to me but maybe I'm being a fuddy duddy

PrincessWellington Sun 01-Dec-13 21:17:49

Ds is 9 and has never had one! His choice though

CailinDana Sun 01-Dec-13 21:21:40

Do people really worry about things as insignificant as this? Is it a way of avoiding thinking about the real dangers in the world?

SunshineMMum Sun 01-Dec-13 21:21:50

YABU we have allowed it as a treat and actually we wish we hadn't, as it is full of nasties and bad for teeth. Wouldn't have hurt to offer water oe squash.

SunshineMMum Sun 01-Dec-13 21:22:31

I am on form today YANBU I meant.

2Tiredtocare Sun 01-Dec-13 21:24:54

I wouldn't say I was worried Callin more aggravated, dangers of the world, now what would they be grin haribo??

dawntigga Sun 01-Dec-13 21:25:48

::passes a grip to the OP:: As the mother of The Cub (4 yrs old) who isn't allowed cola/fizzy drinks, if he had one at a party I would not be in the least bit concerned. FFS they haven't given your child crack! If you make food/drinks a thing it will ALWAYS be a thing.

YABUTiggaxx

pictish Sun 01-Dec-13 21:28:42

I'd let it go if I were you. Unless you were going for a competitive parenting world record in oldest age child can get to without having a fizzy drink, then this one off shouldn't be a concern to you at all.

CoffeeTea103 Sun 01-Dec-13 21:28:57

Ffs get a grip, if this worries you I wonder how you will cope when the important stuff happens. She will survive confused

CailinDana Sun 01-Dec-13 21:29:46

I think you have to accept that if you allow your child to go to parties then you can't control them while they're there. Plus it's a bit much to expect a parent to police everything every child eats and drinks. You're getting aggravated for nothing really.

YANBU, I'm with you on this one.
Why ask if they weren't going to heed the answer?
I don't allow my DCs fizzy drinks, but DS2 was given some by EXP's sister. He refused it as the bubbles shocked him, he had never experienced anything like it before.
I am pretty strict with DCs diets, and I have found that if I ever do relent and allow them something for a special occasion (eg bonfire toffee on bonfire night) they go on and on and on about it and say "but you let us have it before!!"

2Tiredtocare Sun 01-Dec-13 21:32:17

Again, aggravated not worried. Is my post full of hysterical worries about what's going to happen to her now she's tried coke? Will she fall Ill in the night boo hoo etc?. As for competitive parenting, what my DCs drink has bugger all to do with anyone else and I don't give a damn what other people give theirs

2Tiredtocare Sun 01-Dec-13 21:33:27

I didn't ask her to 'police' her just not give her a fizzy drink, it was party mum that gave it to her

BettyFlour Sun 01-Dec-13 21:33:38

Sorry but if you're dropping your child off at a oarty and not staying then that's your fault for not being there to supervise what she's doing/drinking/eating.

If you stay then you can supervise. If you're happy to drop her off, then you're happy for your 6 year old to decide at a party what she can eat or drink.

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