To report this photo on Facebook?

(102 Posts)
Kyrptonite Sat 30-Nov-13 21:01:00

Sorry a fb one. Someone I knew from years ago has just posted about 6 photos of herself in the bath with her niece and nephew. Kids are 3&4 ish. One has the little boy standing up so you can see stuff.
I'm not sure how private her profile is so I've reported the pics. I'm not overreacting am I? I'd never put bath time photos of children up on the internet confused

It just seems like such an odd thing to do.

SinisterBuggyMonth Sun 01-Dec-13 19:04:13

Helpful... confused

CoffeeTea103 Sun 01-Dec-13 18:44:05

Ffs get a grip, a life and myofb!

Madmammy83 Sun 01-Dec-13 18:36:39

Oh my god seriously get off facebook. End of.

Golferman Sun 01-Dec-13 17:12:32

FFS paedophillia drama gone mad, get a grip!

justtoomessy Sun 01-Dec-13 17:11:16

My DS shares a bath with my sister when he stays at hers I don't think its weird. In fact I didn't think anything of it at all he's also had baths with his gay male godparents when he was younger. To me its entirely innocent and don't think anything of it as I don;t think any of them are paedo's!!!

I have a pic of my son in then bath playing with is toy shaving kit. Its an innocent pic but I'll wait for the safe guarding people to pop round confused

zippey Sun 01-Dec-13 17:02:05

I think its quite nice to share a bath with relatives. And seeing a toddlers penis or vagina on Facebook wouldnt bother me. If it had bothered me I would have messaged the poster of the pic first.

So there is no doubt YABU.

Zucker Sun 01-Dec-13 15:17:23

I would have a blue fit if my sister put a picture of her and my naked kids on facebook for her close intimate circle of 300 facebook friends to see.

It's like a cool kids ganging up on the nerds whenever this issue is raised. It's perfectly okay not to want people to flash your childs bits on the internet. This doesn't mean your a PO or a mealy mouthed spoil sport looking for paedophiles behind every curtain.

MostWicked Sun 01-Dec-13 14:32:11

"FFS. I hate how something as innocent as that gets all twisted and tarnished by sick minded individuals looking for something to be offended by"

It hasn't been twisted and tarnished by sick minded individuals looking for something to be offended by, it's been twisted and tarnished by sick minded individuals looking for something to w*nk over.

People do share these kinds of images. They also manipulate them to make them look even more abusive.
Posting pictures of naked children on Facebook is really, really dim. The notion that you have privacy because you have your photos set to "friends only" is so flawed. All it takes is ONE friend to get hacked, and all of your privacy has disappeared.

How would you feel, if one of these lovely innocent photos of your child standing naked in the bath, was manipulated to show your child performing a sex act, then that photo was posted online and you saw it?

Facebook will always remove naked children if reported. If people are so stupid as to post them in the first place, then responsible adults should report them.

And children have rights too. I would hate for naked photos of me as a child, to be posted online. Once posted, you no longer have control over them, so they can't just be deleted. Parents who do this, show a completely selfish lack of respect for their children.

AnyFuckerWillDo Sun 01-Dec-13 13:23:38

YANBU. Those places are havens for peadophiles

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights Sun 01-Dec-13 13:16:38

No it's not odd or weird to share a bath with your Auntie. I did with my and my niece and nephew do with me. I loved it as a kid and they love it too.

I don't understand people who think nakedness is a huge deal or have pointedly never taken photos of their children naked.

There are photos of me in my baby book - in the bath, lying on a rug etc naked as the day I was born, I don't feel at all disrespected or violated - I think that's such a daft way to think. Lots of my friends, boyfriends etc have seen them - so what?

WallyBantersJunkBox Sun 01-Dec-13 12:27:01

So if there is nothing wrong with people viewing photos of naked children by accessing Facebook accounts belonging to others and saving them as a personal cache are the same people happy to let strangers take photos of their children naked on a beach?

It's not Peadophile hysteria, it's general respect. If my niece and nephew posted a naked picture of me, or their Gran on FB without permission they'd be overstepping the mark.

Why don't children deserve to be treated with dignity? Why does everyone/anyone need to see a photo of anyone naked in a bath?

catgirl1976 Sun 01-Dec-13 12:05:34

Wouldn't bother me, except they are not her children and the parents might be bothered

But that would be for them to get concerned about I think

ZombieMojaveWonderer Sun 01-Dec-13 12:01:00

I would be furious if my brother posted naked pics of my kids online. However innocent I don't want people I don't know seeing them (I don't want people I know either tbh) My kids have also never been naked in public so why on earth would I want them all over the Internet. Obviously the kids parents may not feel the same and are happy for it but I also don't wanna naked kids all over Facebook and I'm sure neither do a lot of people.

Mignonette Sun 01-Dec-13 11:17:53

It isn't paranoia to be sensible. Those who depend most on social media are often the least equipped to risk assess. Because they cannot be objective.

MmeLindor Sun 01-Dec-13 11:13:20

Yes, it would disturb me to think that some nameless, unidentified paedophile was getting his rocks off to a pic of my naked child.

I run a website for preteens and some of the search terms that lead to my website are horrendous. They make me sick to the stomach.

I don't think there are peeeedos everywhere, but I know there are people who search and share such photos online and I would prefer if my kids weren't part of that.

It is totally different than a child naked on a beach because there is a permanent record of that moment, which may be shared.

If the person posting the pic has no privacy settings set, she is sharing her family pics with complete strangers. Or at least friends and their friends.

VulvaVoom Sun 01-Dec-13 10:08:38

My mum's husband put pics of DD, who was 9 months at the time, naked in the paddling pool on FB, I was not amused and a bit shock that he thought it was OK, so I get where you're coming from. Some people are a bit clueless thick

minionmadness Sun 01-Dec-13 09:37:37

As I pointed out way up thread... These are NOT the FB posters children! Surely this is the real issue here.

I have made it very clear to my family that I don't want pictures of my dc they may have taken posted on FB. I should be the only one who decides which pictures to share pictures of my dc.

People often forget that friends and family may sometimes have hundreds of friends who you don't actually know so why would you want some random strangers looking a pictures of your dc in the bath.

caruthers Sun 01-Dec-13 01:49:34

Pictures of naked children on FB is weird full stop.

Add to that you've got a naked adult with them who isn't a parent and i'm afraid i'd be very suspicious of their motives.

Surely nobody could be that naive?

foreverondiet Sun 01-Dec-13 01:44:16

I would have send a message suggesting she removes, but if she didn't I'd remove. What did the children's parents say? I'd be hopping mad if my brothers or sisters did this.

Droflove Sun 01-Dec-13 01:31:38

I think it's all vey ridiculous. Maybe someone should ban children from public in case someone sick looks at them in a certain way......

Dubjackeen Sun 01-Dec-13 01:18:59

Apart from the naked child photos (not really sure what I think of that,no strong feelings either way I suppose)....does no-one else find it a bit weird,kids sharing a bath with their naked auntie???Seriously?I find it odd...I certainly never saw my aunts in the nip (thank God)
Same here. And not something I plan to inflict on my nieces and nephews. Ever.

fuckwittery Sun 01-Dec-13 00:52:52

Sorry last post to Curlyhairedassassin not brandi

fuckwittery Sun 01-Dec-13 00:52:23

Brandi its not OK that someone gets off on it but on a balancing of risk, the risk that a paedophile gets hold of my child's naked innocuous bath photo from my private fb profile is v v low and I'd rather not censor innocent childhood photos due to that v low risk. I don't have any full naked pics apart from baby pics (naked on scales and me and dd3 naked in birth pool although you cant see my bits underwater) but I wouldn't hold off on posting a v small child's pic. My mum's got a couple of me naked in a paddling pool in our family album, never felt any concern when I've looked at that album.

Agree with everything Brandi says. I also have known someone jailed for similar things. Won't go into details. But suffice it to say I would never, EVER post naked pictures of my children online. I have got naked pictures of them playing in the bath etc but they are our family pictures and the thought of some sicko getting off on them and distributing them (and it more than likely WOULD happen) turns my stomach - how on earth can anybody be of the opinion that it's ok if you and your child are oblivious to that?!

Aghast......sad

Flibbedyjibbet Sun 01-Dec-13 00:37:49

Thank you Santa.
Next time I hear that will be on Christmas morning aaah.

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