To think my best friend is CRAZY!(37 Posts)
My best friend is drop dead gorgeous, today she is going for her first lot of lip fillers and botox because she feels old.... anyone care to guess her ripe old age
Injecting poison into the body is madness.
I do think there will be repurcussions on their future health.
We do live in an odd world.
For all you know she may look better afterwards. Give the girl a break!!! I have lip fillers, a teeny tiny amount on one side of my upper lip, as without it my lips are not perfectly symmetrical. It's the tiniest change, no one would know I even had it done, but when I do, everyone says how refreshed I look, am I wearing new make up, what have you changed, you look really nice today...that kind of thing.
I hate this nonsense that lip fillers mean some tragic Lola Ferrari look to people who have had no experience of it themselves. And botox done "right" can make you look miles better too. I have again, the tiniest amount just above both eyebrows to lift them a little. My face still wrinkles when I frown and laugh, I have lots of expression, I am just not too scared to admit that a little bit of botox dramatically improves my look. Again, people notice that I "look really pretty today" when I have it done, but can't put their finger on why...and then refuse to believe that it's botox when I tell them what it is because I can still move my face.
I started mine in my very early 20s too. Good for her, I hope she is very happy with what they do.
I think your poor friend has a serious problem which is a shame she feels she needs to fill her face and body full of rubbish I feel sorry for her,
Oh dear, at 22?! Has she got self esteem problems, possibly body dysmorphia? I'm only asking because I suspect this of a friend of mine. I started a thread about it in chat but go no replies. She was looking into getting those tanning injections and I was trying to ask MNers if there was any point in trying to dissuade her. My friend is 27 though, and also considering a boob job. But I know she's had a really rough time in the last few years so I wondered if her obsession with changing her appearance was more to do with trying to 'escape' her old life.
It's your friend's body and so if her mind is set there may not be much you can do to talk her out of it, but try to be supportive if she has it done and don't tell her it looks terrible because that might make her more self conscious and intent on altering other parts of herself.
Error. .. Why is having a boob job an obsession with changing your appearance?
Sugar I don't mean it is an obsession for everyone. I'm very supportive of my friend, who thinks having one will increase her self confidence. But I was just pointing it out as one of the many (invasive and non-invasive) procedures she wants done to change herself, as I'm certain her motives run a lot deeper than just wanting to look nicer in strappy tops.
Sugar, having medical procedures, which inevitably involve risk, for vanity reasons is sad IMO. There is nothing wrong with aging. It's normal and there are more important things in life - vastly more important - than appearance.
My mother modeled in the 1960s as a way to make some money on the side. She was and is exquisitely beautiful (I look more like my dad, thus proving Murphy's law!). She rarely wears makeup and has never sought to hide aging. She's never even dyed her hair. She is still and always has been lovely looking, but there isn't actually much she values less. She has more interesting things to occupy herself with, and it wasn't until I was early teens that I even realised people thought she was beautiful.
I think the plastic dolly porn star look is unfortunate, to be honest, and the idea someone would undergo major surgery to alter their boob shape for no real reason bewilders me. I don't know, I just don't think how you look should be such a huge deal it overides all else. It smacks of insecurity to me. I'm okay looking, I think. I'm also happy with who I am, with my life, and what happens in it. I don't really think about it that much - hardly ever even look in the mirror. And I hope my daughter has a similar approach, because my mother's (that her appearance is less significant than her character and not worth losing sleep over) is a healthy one. I'm grateful to her for it. I don't like the message we're sending our daughters, that aging is something terrifying and that normal ranges of body types are unacceptable. It's applying airbrushing to real people and it's disturbing, to my mind.
Good post. Well expressed. I disagree with the vast majority of it, but do understand your views.
", many purveyors of botox or fillers have no licence. The whole business is the Wild West if you ask me."
The Prescribers of the treatments should be though and that is how regulations can be better imposed. The woman I use for treatments, is a working qualified Nurse, she does your consultation, then has what she needs prescribed.
I couldn't get my fillers that I wanted because my bastard washing machine broke. I get my peels via her.
What you all seen to have experience if, is badly done Botox, I have only had this once, I prefers fillers.
I do think that we should do more to stop the Aurbrushing etc so that young women and girls can see what real people look like. I didn't grow up with potentially the messages my DD's would of, if I hadn't of worked against them.
If tanning injections worked and were safe, I would have them, I prefer to be brown.
There is a sensible middle ground when it comes to any treatments/therapies.
If you aren't interested, fair enough, but not assume the readins why some people (I know men who have treatments) are interested in how the look.
It is cheaper for me to have fillers than go for facials. The fillers are lasting longer and improving all the time.
I struggle with the use of them, being Vegan. As for what I put in my body, I don't get why you would put known carcinogenic substances in yourself, in any firm, food, drink etc, or eat animals that you are genetically related to (if at all), each to their own.
"There is nothing wrong with aging. It's normal and there are more important things in life - vastly more important - than appearance."
There are more important things to worry about than the topic of practically every thread on here, but people do concern themselves with trivia.
I can manage everything that is important and be concerned with what bothers me, enough to change it, with my appearance. It isn't an "either/or" choice.
But it isn't that it's trivial. It's that it makes aging itself unacceptable - and that is very far from being trivial, IMO. It's a worry that we are so obsessed by externals and so unwilling to allow people to be, well - human. And there is a difference between wanting to look pretty, and wanting to look young. The first is not age-dependent.
I should add I also have no time for people who negatively judge those who do groom religiously. I have friends who do and while it's not my thing, and we never really discuss that side to their lives, they have stacks of things that do make them really interesting to me. To assume someone is stupid or boring because they care hugely how they look is as facile as the reverse position, on an individual basis. It's still judging someone on appearance, and is still shallow.
It worries me if it becomes obligatory, rather than chosen. And it does seem to be heading that way, when even actors and models are photoshopped into impossibility. Because nobody should have to have procedures to be considered aesthetically acceptable - in South Korea apparently one in five women have surgery, which surely means something is awry.
I'm lucky, in being married to someone who genuinely doesn't give a toss if I even bother to shave my legs, and has always fancied me whatever state I'm in! We've been together so long now that it's very much about who we are and not anything else - and he's always found me most attractive because of what's between my ears. It's easy to feel that way about yourself when your closest person feels that themselves. And it does seem rarer in men than women, that assessment of attraction. It breeds confidence. But I also think that was modeled for me by my own mother - that certainty that what I have to offer is valid.
I don't think it is trivial either.
Yes, each to their own, but there is such an overwhelming trend towards everything being judged on appearance alone that I find quite pernicious.
I have never thought about whether my eye brows are lower than they used to be - in fact, you got me thinking and I am sure they are <shrugs>
It is a clear sign of my middleagedness that I expect to be taken for who and what I am including my visage. I have earned my face and I like it so I am not likely to mess with it beyond plucking my eyebrows for special occasions .
But yes, one person's eye brow shaping is another one's botox.
I genuinely fail to understand why though??
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