Feel like pulling DD out of school over this.

(96 Posts)
FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 29-Nov-13 20:12:02

I am not normally the one to over react, I think kids will be kids.

However some how a boy 'accidentally' pulled my daughters knickers and trousers down in school.

I do not believe it was an accident, I have said to the teacher this.

Have I over reacted. I really want to pull my DD out of this school

Kyrptonite Fri 29-Nov-13 20:13:09

How old are they? 5/6- mucking around, 12-13 I would go mental

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 29-Nov-13 20:13:43

Reception so age 4-5

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 29-Nov-13 20:14:31

Feel so sorry for her as it was on the playground

crazyhamsterbackonthego Fri 29-Nov-13 20:14:48

Unless he tripped and then grabbed on to her then no YANBU

Kyrptonite Fri 29-Nov-13 20:15:14

I would think it was more messing around. I'd be a bit annoyed as it's freezing but it's not like he whipped them off and left her standing there like it.

Fuckingfacebook Fri 29-Nov-13 20:15:18

At that age it's very likely just to be messing around. I doubt there was a sinister motive behind it.

I wouldn't pull her out for this

IslaValargeone Fri 29-Nov-13 20:16:09

Just messing about at that age.
Certainly wouldn't pull out over that.

curlew Fri 29-Nov-13 20:16:15

How did you hear about it and how has the school reacted?

NCISaddict Fri 29-Nov-13 20:16:32

At 4-5 I wouldn't worry, it frequently happens at this age and whilst they should be told firmly that it is inappropriate, and sanctions imposed if there is a repeat,there is nothing sinister about it.

Why do you think you over-reacted?

It is fine to ask the teacher what happened, and what steps they are taking to protect your DD in future.

However they won't be able to give you any information about the other child, even if they do have concerns and are taking steps behind the scenes.

CallMeNancy Fri 29-Nov-13 20:17:27

Does she wear a belt?
Because if my 4 year old doesn't & her knickers and trousers fall down all the time. Tights too, & the pull her knockers down also. She's always flashing a builders style bottom.
She has no big hips or bottom to hold anything up.

Tunics are the way forward.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 29-Nov-13 20:17:31

It was at pick up, the teacher called me in to the class room.

If I did over react I will apologise

soverylucky Fri 29-Nov-13 20:17:50

I wouldn't pull her out of the school but equally it does need to be properly investigated and if need be, the boy should be punished. The same thing happened to my sister at that age and I remember she was very upset and so was my mother - especially with the attitude of the school of 'boys will be boys.' It probably was an accident but if it wasn't and he did it on purpose then he needs to be suitably punished.

lizzzyyliveson Fri 29-Nov-13 20:17:54

God, how awful. I've taught KS1 for years and never had this happen so it would be a very freaky accident indeed.

You really should let the school investigate first and see what their response is. If they do a proper investigation, give a genuine punishment (assuming that your suspicions are correct) and change their practices so this can't happen again, would that make things better for your daughter and you or do you think your trust is totally shattered?

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 29-Nov-13 20:18:50

Her trouser are elasticated and was taken in.

Are you lot serious? None of my boys would dream of pulling someone's pants down, 'mucking around' or otherwise. I'd want a lot more information about how this happened, and who the boy was. Has he done anything like this before? I don't think pulling her out of school is the answer, but I'd be livid that it had happened. So sorry for you and your dd op

womma Fri 29-Nov-13 20:19:41

Fair enough not to pull her out of school, but he needs a very good talking to from the teacher about this. Pretty hard to 'accidentally' pull down trousers and knickers, and I'm sure your poor DD feels humiliated and her confidence will have taken a knock. Demand the school addresses this child's behaviour and let them know what effect this has had on your DD. Hope she's okay.

Mumsyblouse Fri 29-Nov-13 20:20:16

I don't think you should just let it go it's very upsetting for her, but equally I think pulling her out of school is a complete over-reaction, this behaviour is sadly fairly typical everywhere and so it is up to the teachers to be very very clear that this is not acceptable behaviour and will be sanctioned.

But, one of my dd's also had a 'wedgie' at school, the other hasn't mentioned anything.

I don't think you need apologise, unless you said something unforgiveable or got angry, in which case apologise and say you were upset. But talk of pulling her out of school is extreme unless this is part of some larger pattern of bad behaviour/poor discipline of which we are unaware.

Jengnr Fri 29-Nov-13 20:20:52

How did it happen?

CallMeNancy Fri 29-Nov-13 20:21:17

My DD's are elasticated & taken in as much as possible until she complains it hurts her tummy. Bottom still falls out.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 29-Nov-13 20:22:32

Dd told me who it was, she thinks I was funny.

I did say to her it was wrong what bob did ( made up name) and had a talk with her over her private areas.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 29-Nov-13 20:24:02

The school just told me about it, not how it happened.

2Tiredtocare Fri 29-Nov-13 20:24:33

grin at pull her knockers down Callme

lizzzyyliveson Fri 29-Nov-13 20:26:24

Oh bless her, they do bounce back from things at that age. Just keep things light with your DD, let her talk about it if she wants, but definitely follow it up with the school on Monday. Send her in tights under her trousers if you think she will feel more secure.

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